Investment Banker Married to Consultant: Asking for Protips
I've recently received my offer to work at an IB (BB) on the West Coast, and my husband has just received his offer to work at McKinsey in the same city. We feel incredibly lucky to be based in the same location and are excited for what lies ahead. It's been near impossible to find any advice at all on how other people have made it work -- although we're sure it's been done before. Not looking for any rose-tinted pictures of idealism, but I'd love to hear about how anyone has weathered through the first two years with a high-achieving, barely-there, super-busy spouse, as a similarly occupied one, themselves. What are some unique things you've seen people do to stay in touch with their partners through crazy busy haze?
Mine did not workout due to difference in life goals but in my experience this is what worked for us (4 years).
Goodluck!
Apart from specific relationship things respective personalities plays a big role. Two independent personalities that are not needy and don't need a lot of attention / affirmation tend to do well in these situations. However, some people just need a high level of attention (ex. get bent out of shape if hours go by without a text response), affirmation, etc in a relationship and distance/long hours can make it hard. If you both are more of the independent types, you already have a head start. However, if either one of you falls more into the more needy (not in a negative sense just can't think of a better word) than knowing that up front and finding ways to 1) quell those feelings / manage expectations on the one hand, and 2) making extra effort by the other person on the other hand, will set you up for more success. The specifics of facetiming, carving out days to hang out, etc. are all well and good...but if the underlying personality types aren't aligned for this type of dynamic you'll likely have issues no matter what. As a side note you're both killing it - good luck.
Not sure why this would get MS, lol.
Needy people punching air rn
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