Is she into it?
Fellas, seeking advice as I have been talking to a girl (post first date) and cannot tell whether she's into it for past time/fun or is actually into a potential relationship here. What are clear signs one should look for when trying to weed out time wasters? Have been very clear about my intentions with dates and talking with her, but not sure if she means what she says at times (she has a goofy/sarcastic personality and not used to her yet). First date went very well and she actually ended up spending the night. Though I take it this holds very little weight in terms of knowing if she's into you or not. Supposed to meet again for a second date, but it will be less formal. Will be coming over for just dinner and a movie. Help a comrade out!
If you want my honest advice, Just have fun until you are post 27. If you find someone you will know. If you don't there's nothing wrong with getting a little.
Why 27?
27 is relativity arbitrary, but there's a few things that I think make sense:
1. people are generally established in their careers and know if they are going to want a career change / Additional education, or another big career change.
2. People are starting to get a little wiser and start actually thinking about the future hence hopefully some more serious prospects start to arise - Sure you can meet some smart fresh out of college grads, but lets be honest most 22 yr olds are lucky if they don't screw up majorly
3. you are in hopefully a better financial position and can actually date. Lets be honest dates are way more fun when you can drop a little bit of bread on them.
Now this is not to say that you can't find someone earlier or that you shouldn't keep your eyes out for the one, but I really do think if you are looking for long term prospects post 27 options become much better.
It's simple, bro. After anything she does, you gotta ask her, "Is this a good sign?" If she gets annoyed at you after like 5 little things, she ain't the one.
This is actually smart and witty, which goes well with her personality so far. Def will try this thanks!
If you have to ask chances are she's not
^if you have to ask, then probably not the one. On the 20% off-chance this is the exception to the "if you have to ask" rule, if nothing meaningful has happened by date 4, drop the act and leave.
yea, was sort of mapping this out too. Will have to see. What do you consider as "meaningful"?
She establishes some more formality or has you meet some of her closer friends or parents (unlikely but who knows). How hot is this girl? Because from 8.5 and above the likelihood of a relationship in college starts diminishing usually, especially if she wants to "explore herself." Not being an incel with this by the way, just talking from mounds of experience with relationships.
From a prospect to prospect. No banging before u land that internship.
If a girl sleeps over on the first date you can tell her body count is double digits. If you're okay with dating that then go ahead, but just saying I'd keep it casual and find someone who is a virgin to date seriously or marry
Why do people use WSO for stuff like this
Similar community of people so why not?
if she is laughing with you when you hang out with her, that's all the signs/clues you need
I don't care if you're Chad McChadsterFace, but if she stays the night on your first date... she's not the one.
Why did I get MS when I said the exact same thing ?
Are you the one that made the virgin comment? Probably for that reason lol
Just give it time and see. You only had your first date, she probably hasn't made up her mind yet and needs more time to get to know you - just as you do. For this reason it's a good idea to connect on a deeper level and differentiate yourself through some non-obvious topics you both find interesting, through experiences together. Build on things you already know you both share. Past track record of relationships is a good sign because it means she can connect. Keep it unstructured and explore your emotions on the fly - as with all things there is always a prospect of losing the relationship but if you like what you have seen so far why not try.
Dude I mean this in the nicest way possible bc I’ve been in your shoes, but pls just take control of your life into your own hands.
you’re really asking a banking forum if a girl likes you? have faith in your own judgement - if she does, great, and if she doesnt, go pick one of the other thousands sitting around.
Have some confidence man - she already has one pussy, she doesn’t need two.
So don’t put the pussy on a pedestal man, if you want her to be interested, act uninterested - the best way to get interest from one girl is by talking to / seeing many, you are seen as a hot commodity.
It also does wonders to see what else is out there on offer. When you meet the right person, you will know, because you have seen enough to know why this is the proverbial “One”.
Good luck, OP!
How are there anonymous posters on this thread? I thought that function was taken off of off topic?
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