Is there anything that I can do?
I am extremely lucky, I got a ft job in SF with no prior ib experience. I am really grateful.
That said, I am having a really tough time with the move to SF. I am from NY, my family lives there, my friends all live there, and I love it there. On top of that, my mother is having health issues and my younger brother (9th grade) is going through a really tough time. My mother was just diagnosed with multiple autoimmune diseases. My younger brother is the youngest of 4 kids, so he grew up with a bunch of siblings constantly around him, and now he's alone at home and struggling with depression. I would do almost anything to be with him and my mother, even if it's only an hour on Saturdays.
My company said I could maybe move offices after my 2 years when I asked right after receiving the offer, but I would do anything to be in NY now near my family. Is it worth asking the company again if I can move to the NY office now after my mother was diagnosed with the autoimmune diseases? Or is there anything else that I can do?
I know I am lucky to have my job, and I am very grateful for it.
I’m sorry about your situation man. I don’t think there’s any way that a new hire (repeatedly) asking to switch offices before he starts comes across positively unless you’re really ready to quit and move to NYC if they say no. If they told you already “maybe after 2 years”, I don’t think anything you say will change that to “definitely, we’ll pay for your flight to NYC tomorrow.” If you rub folks the wrong way, you risk annoying people upfront and getting bad treatment, bad staffings, #1 position on potential layoff list, and a poor experience overall.
You have to realize that as a new hire you have no leverage or experience or goodwill at all, you’re just a body to them. I think you should either get another job in nyc asap and reneg on this bank, or do good work, learn as much as you can, and aim to lateral to NYC around Dec / Jan. Bunch of people lateraled from my bank starting as early as 6 month mark. I’m not saying be loyal to your bank, I’m saying make the most out of this situation. In the meantime you can visit for holidays easy (4th, Labor, Thanksgiving, Christmas/NY).
Once market allows, some of these MMs are constantly hiring (HL, JEF) and will take people 6 months in that are rock solid, pass a modeling test, and can hit the ground running.
You mention 2 other siblings, so they live in nyc? Is your dad in the picture? Any other family can help?
You mention how “lucky” you are several times to land this job, so it sounds like you don’t have a strong resume and just reneging and finding a gig in nyc is unlikely.
My advice would be to take the job and target moving to the nyc office in two years. Make sure the firm knows that’s your desire.
And then in the meantime, see if your other family members can carry the burden for the next two years.
Normally, family trumps career. But I’m slowly learning that not everyone has successful parents to fall back on, and perhaps the money and job opportunity is something you and your family need right now. Only you know the answer to that.