Online Dating Is Really Demoralizing As A Non-Target

Reflecting upon online dating & feeling a little down in the dumps..

I came from a west coast non-target and absolutely grinded my way, borderline sacrificed, my college experience to get jacked. It took a ton of effort, but really thought this might change the course of my life. Most of my peers in my gym are targets/top targets. 

Flash-forward to online dating, where I begin seeing vast differences in opportunities spring up. Girls reached out to us all on Tinder, however when it came to who got priority on parties or solicitations of one night stands, I witnessed my teammates who went to targets receive an insane amount of opportunities. To be frank, I totally witnessed first hand how I was being passed up. For the opportunities I did get, the experience was also very painful- many I hardly made it past foreplay (and being honest, I am strong technically and orally, as I prepped for months for dating) and for the ones I got cut in the later stages I thought I had in the bag.  
 

Most of said target classmates have multiple partners in hand and had a quick process. About 85-90% of my class who have GF offers are targets in my lifting class (100% in my gym). I know it's well known that serial dating is much more traditional in its view of pedigree, but damn it still stings. It really makes me wonder what all this hard work was for, in trying to work up the ladder, when I keep getting the shorter end of the stick (no pun intended). I'm generally a confident person who is proud of how far I've come, but processes like these really do make me question my place. Sad boi hours