What really grinds my gears

I often compare the interview process to dating and the biggest pet peeve I have is the part right after the rejection saying something to the tune of "we encourage you to apply again in the future".

No... Fuck no. If I go on a few dates with a girl and she like I'm just not that into you. That's fine but I'm not going to hit her up in a year like that's going to change anything. Her taste are going to be different and so are mine. It's now or never. This is the most I'm going to give a shit about this particular company. I waited months for the interview process to start you think I will wait longer?

IDK like is there really anything else that they can say?

and thats what really grinds my gears

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Very fair analogy. You go through all this effort to prepare, jump through all these hoops during the process (sucking up to MDs, modeling tests, case studies, etc.) only to be told "we went with someone better". All good, I know Im not usually the best candidate. But dont expect me to re-recruit, your firm is now on my blacklist. If you get a blacklist so do I. I will not hold a grudge or take it personally but dont for a second think I have so little self respect that Ill come crawling back.  

One time I made the mistake of re-interviewing. Made it to the final round and was told "we really liked you, but we had a phenomenal candidate we couldnt pass up. Try interviewing for our other location same position." I did. I was dinged again on the final round. Never again. The name of the firm is Prairie Capital Advisors. D- tier shop that does ESOP Advisory, not even true IB. But I was young enough with no experience to chase down every lead. I consider myself fortunate enough to not be in that position anymore. 

 

An analogy or even better dating advice?

Except that those G-d damned template emails of "While we respect your background, but..." So f'in lame. Instead of just hitting a button to fire it off, give a person the decency  to treat them as a person please. At least it's better than those stories of ghosting folks. No, leave that for the downgrade from reality known as dating apps.

The poster formerly known as theAudiophile. Just turned up to 11, like the stereo.
 

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