Please advise a guy terminated for gross misconduct.

I work in a non-financial role in the government. I did something stupid months ago by emailing a young intern to show my love for her (nothing sexual) and got suspended and eventually terminated.

Using a friend's email (which he pretended to be a prospective employer), I went to check with the related agency and was told that I resigned from service (they did not say that I was terminated).

Now I am looking for a job in the financial industry. When asked for the reason for leaving, should I just put I resigned or should I put I was terminated for gross misconduct? I was worried that if I put gross misconduct, no one is going to give me a chance. But if I put it as resigned, I was worried that they will ask me for referral from this ex-job and everything will get exposed. Or should I take a part time job so to use that part time job as a referral?

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Unfortunately, I am serious. I am a candidate in the CFA program.

If employer detects I am lying about my termination, will they complain to the Insitute? I am sorry this happened.

 

Really can't give you advice on how to deal with this now (I'm clueless as to how one should communicate this) but how is your "deed" gross misconduct? Perhaps I've got too much of a European perspective but there's action at least between junior professionals all the time and nobody cares unless you are a textbook douche. My last firm even had rules like you can't be staffed on the same case if you're known to be dating...

Did you have legal support to check if the reasons for your dismissal were viable?

 

Disagree with the two above. You will get this question at every interview "Why did you leave XXX bank".

As long as you can answer that question (with a non, I'm a sex pest answer) you will be okay.

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I dont really full understand the story, were you actually hitting on the intern, how did you phrase it, be more specific. If you can prove nothing happened, you could sue for wrongful termination, however, if you meant it then you dug yourself into that hole.

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the intern was young (17 year old) and under my charge. No sexual message, just some love poems. The organisation was strict (I think morally) and I got charged for gross misconduct but just terminated. They called it abuse of power. Actually gross misconduct was what they used to charge me for. But in the end, I just received a letter informing I have been terminated.

I am thinking since the organisation is willing to write that I resigned instead of being terminated, can I just put that I resigned?

I have 3 questions. 1) Do banks require you to state whether you been terminated before in the application form? 2) Do they require referrals? I have referrals but it will not be my ex-employer. 3) Do banks give people second chance? Or will they just strike off people who ticked "I was terminated before"?

Thanks for the idea for putting it vaguely like "to seek new opportunity". It is a great idea.

 

Just guessing you didn't work for the US government, correct? You are applying for jobs at US banks?

1 - often the forms you fill out will ask if you have ever been terminated, "if yes, why?" 2 - yes, except for in the most junior hires, they will want a referral. Doesn't HAVE to be your most recent employer, but that only works when you are still working there (as in, they can't contact your current employer because that would let them know you are interviewing). If you don't provide your most recent as a referral, it is somewhat of a red flag so expect questions. It'll certainly come up in an interview. 3 - there's always exception, but I am doubtful. It's a tough hiring environment, so why spend time interviewing people who have red flags when you have plenty that don't.

 

So is the best solution to be honest?

I work in that job for 3 years. I was thinking is it possible to work in a new job for a year and erase all records about being terminated as this employer did not really say what happened to me (They just merely put it as resigned from service)?

 

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