Adding Random Girls on Facebook - Advice? Cold networking

Hey I just added a girl on Facebook and she accepted...The problem is, we've never met.
I know this girl because I used to see her in my economics calsses and remember the professor calling her name. Months after the class, I typed her name on the search bar and added her.

Is there anyway I could try to meet up with her or message her without coming off as a creep.
This is kinda like cold networking in a sense.

Thoughts?

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I'm actually serious, its also weird that she lives near me too. I might send a quick intro and try to set up coffee. Do I really come off as that pathetic where you think I'm trolling about my personal life...

 
RealMeal

I'm actually serious, its also weird that she lives near me too. I might send a quick intro and try to set up coffee. Do I really come off as that pathetic where you think I'm trolling about my personal life...

Hate to break it to you bro but only bots and creeps add people at random.
 

Congrats dude. Now you can stalk the hell out of her (I'm sure you already have). Like her pics dating back to when she first started using Facebook, so she knows it's real.

or just chat with her on fb. If you think it would be too weird, then add another random girl, perhaps a 5 or 6, and test out your chatting skills with them before aiming for your main target.

 

don't like her any of her stuff......that's creepy. Just send her message and say you know her name by being in a same class. tried to talk about mufual friend and things you guys might know. if she is not interested, she will prob. cut you off..meaning she will reply back to you in a terse manner. just give her sometime. maybe talk to her on fb once a week or two.

 

This thread is hilarious.

"I do not think that there is any other quality so essential to success of any kind as the quality of perseverance. It overcomes almost everything, even nature."
 
Ambani

This thread is hilarious.

MissMoneyPenny

@RealMeal @Ray Mckigney you guys should go out slut hunting together #totalbros

These.

OP, what happened with the friendzone --> dating? Based on your later threads, I'm assuming that crashed and burned?

 

I'm not pressing it because I can't put all my chips on one table. She's a great girl but I'm not going to ask her into a relationship. If anything happens in the future that's great but I'm focusing on my career, going out and meeting new people, and fostering relationships. I will still probably continue to see her to dinner or movies maybe like once a month just to catch up

 

I'm going to send her "Heyyyy, just wanted to say thank you :)" she says "For what?" I'll respond "For accepting my random freind request lol. You look familiar tho..Maybe I've seen you around?"

 
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Don't say this. For the love of god, do not say this. Christ, is that how you network with potential employers?

Send her a message and be direct with everything. "Hey, whats up?" followed by a "you were in my economics class" and start talking about that class. Then bring up your mutual friends - hopefully they aren't as awkward as you, and she can actually start to give a shit who you are.

Next step is to make sure you guys meet in person in the near future - preferably with your mutual friend(s) there so it isn't awkward. This isn't 2003 and you aren't 12 - MSN relationships don't exit anymore. If you don't see an opportunity coming up to actually meet her in person, then stop messaging her until you do.

 

I just sent the "Heyy I wanted to " Couldn't send the Economics class intro because we never met and she would wonder how I knew her name

 

Steps to take: 1. Invite her to coffee 2. Meet her at coffee shop. 3. When she asks how you know her say, "I don't... maybe it's just fate." 4. Turn around and run head first into oncoming traffic. 5. ????? 6. Sex!

"Yes. Money has been a little bit tight lately, but at the end of my life, when I'm sitting on my yacht, am I gonna be thinking about how much money I have? No. I'm gonna be thinking about how many friends I have and my children and my comedy albums."
 

If she invites you to coffee in the middle of the bus lane I highly suggest you accept.

Follow the shit your fellow monkeys say @shitWSOsays Life is hard, it's even harder when you're stupid - John Wayne
 

UPDATE; She agrees to get coffee date. I need to set it up, she doesn't have texting (She says) so I have to contact her through Facebook apparently.

I also landed 3 numbers of Tinder today. Feels good bros.

I use multiple yyy's as a form of flirting.

I'm not socially retarded lol...I consider myself pretty sociable but never got past friendship to most girls. I've been studying a lot of PUA (Pick up artist) and going on dates via Tinder and OkCupid. Honestly more than getting laid I want to get a girlfriend and try to move into the city. This is all future talk tho.

 

I consider it a social exercise, I'm trying to go out and meet 2-3 new people a week. If nothing happens that's fine. I actually went out and met new people in the very least.

 

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