Ashamed, Depression, and Failure
Thank you all for the advice, I appreciate it. I will use it and finish do my best for the reminder of this semester. As well with trying to find ways of building myself up again. Thank you again.
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If you are not already, go talk to a professional. It isn’t an easy move by any means, but it is the right one. It is 2024 - no one needs to suffer like this - and until you directly address your depression you are not going to positively impact the other things, like professional failure, that your depression is causing.
You’re right, thank you.
Feel free to dm me and we can talk. I’m not a therapist but am here if you think it would help.
Last thing you need is to feel like you are battling this alone. You’re not alone.
Thank you, I will.
Everyone gets depressed. Everyone feels anxiety. ADD is... questionable (there's a lot of over diagnosis and over prescription with this as the excuse).
I'm going to get a bunch of flack for this - but the best thing you can do is get the fuck over it. These are crutches. Culture for kids in their teens and 20s today valorizes these things too much and emphasizes being in touch with your "feelings" and how important it is to try and accommodate these emotional problems. That's not reality. Harsh truth is nobody cares. It doesn't matter how you feel, you get up and do your job. Don't make excuses and buck up, develop a tough skin or you're going to get eaten alive and have 0 change in this industry.
Fearing being a failure is stupid. Better to try and fail than be a pussy and not try at all because you're afraid of the outcome. Sack up.
This is the real advice.
Go to therapy for anxiety and pay hundreds an hour for them to take 2 years to tell you shit you already know.
Life is hard, tough shit. Getting in touch with feelings, and labelling any masculinity as toxic is how we ended up with this confused clusterfuck of a thousand genders.
Talk to a friend when you’re alone, hit the heavy bag like it owes you money, get it out of the system. But then the only thing that matters are results. It is your life and your life only, it is your responsibility to see it through and make what you can of it.
I agree, but never made any excuses. I’ll try my best to continue on the journey. Thank you though.
You have made excuses. If someone read your post back to you, I know you'd see it. Right now from your own point of view you cannot - but you need to stop using this as a victim mindset because you'll just stay making excuses if you do this.
Don't interpret as this my attempt to slander you - I want to help.
About the test, nobody can change the outcome but you - this is, again, just reality. I know things get in the way but when you let things compound, telling yourself oh I'll do it tomorrow today's bad, the burden gets significantly worse.
So the first step is swallowing your pride and emailing your professors to seek help and structure your future revision. Try address it in one go and understand yourself what topics you haven't revised by yourself first. Only then, reach out to your professor - don't speak in BS terms, don't beat around the bush, and be honest with him. You're paying for the education, after all. You won't always have this ability to reach back to a professor so make the most of it now. Ask good questions on how to structure.
It sounds like loneliness is something that adds to this problem from my reading of this post. I'd suggest building a support network of classmates and trying to lead some sort of consistent revision sessions together. I just need you to pluck up the courage to do this, because then you have something to hold you accountable.
I'd suggest having this same sort of network outside of work too. You need to stay active and whether casual or otherwise, I'd recommend a sport just to wind down for an hour or two every week.
I know letting off some steam with the post helps, but it's not something you need to bottle up and let out every so often. As the guy above said -- "start beating the bag like it owes you money". At least that gets you fitter.
Depression, anxiety, and fear of failure are the excuses. margincaller hit the nail on the head so not going to rehash. Get after it if you want it.
I have experience in a wide variety of things related to this post, but will only mention one concept: don’t focus on failure, focus on success. Focus on the little things that will lead you to success.
When you’re skiing, if a tree is in front of you, you don’t focus on the tree, but focus on how to get around it. If you focus on the tree, you might likely run straight into it.
Don’t focus on the tree.
True words, thanks.
I don’t under your reaction to this topic. You have been very open and vocal about your issues and how you have benefited from getting help. However, you let people carry on as if the field of psychiatry or psychology is like voodoo science.
Just because I didn’t mention psychiatry doesn’t mean I don’t believe in it or support it. You’re right it might be good for this person to see a psychiatrist. Psychology is a completely different field, one that I have interned in and did work for two hospitals a few years ago.
Mods are soft - apparently giving genuine advice that doesn't include "go to therapy and feel those feelings" while not even remotely attack a person isn't allowed anymore?
Edit: they put it back
Since your parents know of your semester gap, and presumably other issues, and seem committed to supporting you, perhaps you can consider having a conversation with them on the issues you face and their thoughts on how you can reorient your efforts going forward. An involved and open minded parent is a good resource.
I will definitely have that talk with them soon. It’s hard because I can see that they are affected by this too. Thank you for your reply.
The first step should be to confide in your parents and let them know about the issues and how you are struggling. I would hope that they would want to know about your concerns. If you do not feel comfortable speaking with your parents, go to a counselor at school. Hopefully your parents and or a counselor could help steer you in the right direction. The right direction might be professional help.
I agree to that. I will, thank you.
Been in these places myself before.
This might be a sociopathic way of looking at it, but embrace these fucking moments where life sucks. This shit is awesome, because the fact is that you're at rock bottom right now, and despite that, you're alive and still functioning (albeit not at your best). Logically, that means you cannot fucking lose in this life as long as you keep your head straight. Everything in your life sucks right now, and you gotta fucking love that shit dude. If there's one thing I've learned in this life, it's that when a man's at his lowest point, he's dangerous.
Everyone else is offering positive reinforcement, fuck all that. Don't think about the people who want to see you win like your family. Think about the people who want to see you lose. The universe, deities, bad karma, whatever you believe in, I guarantee you someone wants to see you lose. You are letting them win if you don't get your act together.
Nah, I like your advice. I agree too. I’ve been learning more about myself in the last year. I’ll keep going, thank you.
It’s been along time since I’ve had that kind of connection with God. I’m still connected but it needs some work. I will pursue a closer relationship, thank you.
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