Feel like my career is going under due to bad anxiety in the office, any thoughts?
Hi all. I finished up my first year working in a rotational program at a bank. This is a pretty difficult thing for me to talk about due to how embarrassing is but I’m extremely terrified of presentations and generally do bad socializing in the office (which is crucial due to the nature of cross selling and building trust with colleagues). I don’t even really swing by peoples desks to talk about them because it just feels forced and unnatural to me.
I have conversations coming soon about succession planning and overall my reviews have been better than I expected. But part of me wants to be upfront and mention that I just don’t see myself succeeding in a front end role and would like to work some support function. But I feel like I’m kicking the can down the road not tackling these issues I have because I know they’ll handicap my career and I think my boss would look down on me.
Idk, would anyone be willing to share their thoughts or experiences? I understand the new person being a little shy at first but I’m well over a year into my first job and the idea of just having to do a sales presentation gets me super anxious mentally and physically, sometimes to where my sleep will get messed up. I’ve had to practice a presentation internally and it went horrible to the point where I wanted to quit, I could tell my team was uncomfortable and felt bad. Part of me wants to keep finding practice opportunities to present but everytime I have I just embarrassed myself and snowballed the issue lol.
What makes zero sense is this is an exact 180 in my personal life where I socialize extremely well and always made new friends easily, but in the office this goes out the window.
Bump, interested, especially on the work related presentations aspect.
Does have experience or advice on that area? Aside from my summer analyst project, I haven't had much experience doing a full presentation or pitch on anything.
“We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.” - Seneca
I’ve had issues with anxiety in the past but it’s conquerable with the right mindset. There may be a chemical imbalance or something so don’t expect all of your anxiety to go away immediately because you have a paradigm shift, but over time your physical brain will adjust for the better.
Try prayer and meditation throughout the day, especially in the morning and at night. Putting your trust into God’s hands and reflecting on what’s in your control and what’s not will help you focus and give you peace. It’s only when you detach from the outcome that you’re able to give your full attention to the task at hand.
I relate heavily to this. I’m often very nervous even in regular small talk situations. Presentations kill me.
But have you ever had those days/instances when for some reason you are much more confident in a social setting than usual? Try to remember that feeling. It’s not so much an attitude of “idgaf” but rather, an understanding that you shouldn’t worry so much and especially so because no one is really judging you all that harshly.
We all are nervous at least a little inside when in social settings. Remember that.
You need to take care of you spiritually and physically.
I recommend you to search for answers in the bible, i had anxiety trouble as well and it healed me, and made me stronger. its also important to implement a routine of bodycare, you can drink tea rather than coffee because tea take out the toxins of your body. after 1 week of 2 cup of tea per day youll be renewed. try to eat healthier, have a body care routine with products and sport....
also keep on grinding these educative contents, the more youll be prepared and used to working conditions the more you'll have a calm approach
My recommendation would be to talk to a professional. They can help you work through mental exercises to overcome your stuff. They also have non-addictive medication that helps with social anxiety. It's worth it in my opinion.
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