Getting Rich but friends and family now are jealous

I got into IB and as you may suspect I'm making decent money, finally.

I was born and raised by a humble family, hung out with humble people and used to hang out in humble places.

My humble roommates see how my purchasing power increases by the time and everyone seems to be jealous of me. I don't like that. What should I do?

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theAudiophile, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Good point. Proper etiquette is that you don't discuss income. They should only know/see you're doing well (and good for you for it), not what the hard value is behind the $ sign. Only time that should ever come up is if your tax returns are subpoenad, which means you done f***'ed up anyways.

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Monchi10, what's your opinion? Comment below:

They don't. They simply see me with an iPhone and not anymore with a 100€ phone, with AirPods and not with the old cabled headphones. They see me buying bottles of wine of 7€ unsteady of 2€. You see it from those things that I m not that poor kid anymore.

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soupymessy, what's your opinion? Comment below:

When you succeed in life, the all encompassing "relationship gap" gets wider between you and your friends It will get harder to connect because your life is becoming different. The only way to restore this is to lessen the gap, which can only happen if you fall back down or your friend(s) rise up. You sure as shit arent selecting the former option, and the latter is out of your control, but if they choose not to, then you may need to create new relationships.

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InvestmentSpanker, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I make 2-3x most my friends and they have no idea. You might be a dick 

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Poverty_Banker, what's your opinion? Comment below:

This is something I noticed when I left my hometown for college and now that I have an idea of what I'm doing after college, people seem to get weird. When I go back and visit, when the "college is a scam" people from my high school talk to me about my plans they seem to get really defensive about what they're doing with their lives. Keep in mind, I firmly believe college isn't for everyone so I tread lightly on the subject. By now I just accept the fact that not everyone likes to see others succeed. Congrats on your success though!! Don't feel obligated to try and please everyone

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Monchi10, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Saying "you are not rich in IB" where start salary is near the 100k is definitely what a rich kid would say.

People like me grew up in neighborhoods where the common man is a fisherman or a cook that makes 24k per year, which he hopes will be enough to pay rent and grocery for his wife and 2 kids.

My friends make an average of 12k per year doing jobs like waiter, cook, cashier or dish washer. I studied and worked as a waiter for years, working 10h a day on weekends to make only 30€ a day.

That's what happens in certain places of the world way closer to you than you think, and it seems you didnt even realize that, probably because your rich parents closed you in that fancy rich-world bubble where everything is great and easy, so go back to play golf with your nice Ralph Lauren sweater you daddy's boy.

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gufmo, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Guy, I'm not going to go down the path of playing Oppression Olympics with you. I've made more money than both my parents combined since my first year out of college. One's upbringing shouldn't impede their ability to understand relative costs of living.
 

I will reiterate: poor people literally existing has no bearing on whether or not ~$150k comp is just "doing fine" in a place like NYC. Good for you for putting in work to better your station in life, but as long as you need to work and have no control over your time, you aren't rich. That's why some kid making $60K by choice at a low intensity job because he knows he's got a $10MM inheritance coming his way is always going to be "richer" than us dumbasses working white collar jobs until the end of time. 
 

Time is wealth, and that's something literally everyone in IB has none of.

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Miracle1111, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I don't think you're a dick like others are saying. If you grew up broke hearing your parents say, "We can't afford this." all your life, and you never had the money to get anything you wanted, you're going to ball out a little when you can finally buy something. That's pretty normal for people that grew up without money. Congratulations, you worked hard for it, and you got it. Just remember to save cause you can be let go at any time.

As for the broke people around you...You already found out that it's going to make them uncomfortable. There are many reasons for this, but it takes a special type of person to be friends with a high-earner and not let it phase them if they're poor. You're a constant reminder of what they're lacking in life, their faults, and the results of their choices. People hate to be reminded that they're underachieving or feel bad in any way. They'll either get over it, find a reason to start a fight, and treat you like you're a new money asshole, or you'll drift away.

Try to be more sensitive that you make more money than them, but you shouldn't have to act like you're broke to make them feel better. That's one of the reasons why rich people hang out with rich people and broke people hang out with broke people, even if they both like a lot of the same things.

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Monchi10, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Thanks for the great answer and for perfectly understand what it is going on in my life.

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Dr. Rahma Dikhinmahas, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Good answer.  My dad grew up very poor and had another poor friend from childhood who started to get quite wealthy after school.  As this guy's business kept getting more successful over time, my dad & him started hanging out less.  I watched this progress as I was growing up.  My mom would occasionally say stuff like "that guy is too good for us now, he's rich".  And my dad explained that no, it's usually more the non-rich person's fault when this happens.  The rich one tends to reach out, and the poor one tends to feel either ego-bruised or intimidated by the whole thing and doesn't keep up as well as he should.  Just one guy's opinion, but I could tell my dad really felt this way.

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Isaiah_53_5 💎🙌💎🙌💎, what's your opinion? Comment below:

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dollar.billy, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Feel your pain man, back in school I was just having so much sex it really started to weigh on my friendships. Like 8/10 times when one of my roommates would be talking to a girl it turns out I already slept with them. And like its just not my fault, like I couldnt really help it. Like yeah theres some luck to it but at the end of the day some people are just better than others at some stuff (for you its being too rich, for me it was getting too much play) and jealousy always gets the worst of ppl. My solution was to go out of my way to do it more and once we had the same conversation over and over again like, "hey why did you sleep with her I really liked that girl", they started to see how ridiculous they were being. It ended up helping in the end so maybe if theres a way you can apply that to your situation? Just my 2c

Edit: I guess this sounded more sarcastic in my head than on paper. Lol I have not been in a similar situation 

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IncomingIBDreject, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Your story isn't comparable to OP because you used your relative skill to step on the neck of your friends and steal from them what little they had or wanted.

OP (at least according to his account) isn't actively making his friend's life worse but there is still resentment.

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NoEquityResearch, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Well it's kind of similiar except that OP has cash in his bank account and [dollar.billy] has herpes. But besides that, it's not that much different.

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Pizz, what's your opinion? Comment below:
dollar.billy

Feel your pain man, back in school I was just having so much sex it really started to weigh on my friendships. Like 8/10 times when one of my roommates would be talking to a girl it turns out I already slept with them. And like its just not my fault, like I couldnt really help it. Like yeah theres some luck to it but at the end of the day some people are just better than others at some stuff (for you its being too rich, for me it was getting too much play) and jealousy always gets the worst of ppl. My solution was to go out of my way to do it more and once we had the same conversation over and over again like, "hey why did you sleep with her I really liked that girl", they started to see how ridiculous they were being. It ended up helping in the end so maybe if theres a way you can apply that to your situation? Just my 2c

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WolfofWSO, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Hey Pizz, I got a park in Manhattan to sell you if you truly believe this post.

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Daemon145, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I never understood this mentality.  I grew up in a South Asian immigrant family and financial success was always celebrated.  Same thing with my arab/latin american/east asian friends, both of immigrant extraction, and natives from their own countries.  Are you from some working rural white background, or african-american?  Something about these two groups and financial success always feels off, especially if they come from financially 'low' backgrounds.  

As for my advice, laugh and beat the shit out of them.  Make them jealous and remind them of wealth inequality and their future insecure financial status.  Fuck anyone trying to shame you for your money, especially if you've earned it.

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basicallymonky, what's your opinion? Comment below:

You don't need those haters in your life.

Maybe they're jealous because they thought some of your fortunes might spread out to them but isn't, which is leech mentality. Save up for a rainy day though because it sounds like they won't be helping at all if it comes. Probably laugh in your face and be glad you're one of them again.

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IncomingIBDreject, what's your opinion? Comment below:

How do you know they are jealous? What do they say?

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TheBuellerBanker, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Went through this too. All above advice is great. I'll just add don't "daddy" them and excessively cover bar/restaurant tabs etc even if it comes from a giving place. 

The jealousy is going to be a given, don't give them a reason to indulge it.

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NoEquityResearch, what's your opinion? Comment below:

+1 SB. If someone served me 7 euro wine, I would spit it in the peasant's face.

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Isaiah_53_5 💎🙌💎🙌💎, what's your opinion? Comment below:
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+1 SB. If someone served me 7 euro wine, I would spit it in the peasant's face.

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ConfusedGuru, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Lol this is gonna sound so bad, but I kind of wish someone would be jealous of me. It seems like nobody really gives a shit that I've been relatively successful. I guess maybe cause I keep it under wraps?

Or, at the risk of coming off as vain, I've always been a high achiever so my family and friends aren't surprised at my "success" right now? I don't know, but personally if someone was jealous of me @OP, I'd take that as a sign that I'm doing *something* right lol. 
 

Imagine how much worse it'd be if they pitied you. 

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Smoke Frog, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Silly humble brag post and it got lots of serious replies lol.

You're friend see you with an iPhone and AirPods and think you're super rich?

I literally saw a homeless dude last week with AirPods while we was panhandling.

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