How To Not Be A Spectacular Failure?

Today I have had the realization that I have failed spectacularly on almost everything meaningful in my life today. For starters, I got had to change half my course grades to P/NP because I was doing so poorly on them. In doing so I was reminded that I will be lucky to graduate with anything above a 3.5 and that I am a trash student. Just to make my day better the first two minutes into my networking call I was informed that internships for 2021 were already full. So now I have determined that it's basically hopeless for me to get an internship for next summer given that I'm behind, I got to a nontarget, and my GPA shits. So I'm also screwed for grad school because of my shit grades and most likely shit job after graduation. On top of that, I'm isolating alone in my apartment just fucking wasting away. So glad that the NCAA cancelled all sports so now I can't even do athletics the one thing that kept me sane. Fuck, I haven't even got a match on Tinder in 2 days. Why is everything just going to absolute hell? I terrified I'm going to end up like my dad and kept some miserable sales job where I come home miserable every day and don't get paid shit. But I mean at least he got into a relationship, I can't even manage that.

Sorry for this senseless rant I'm just really depressed currently and have been living alone for months now. So I'm posting this because there nobody around I can express myself to.

 

If not obtaining a >3.5 gpa and having a top notch finance internship are your major concerns in life, I’d say your life is pretty damn good. You’ll be fine kid, if anything this should simply be a kick in your ass to put more effort into everything you do so you never have to feel this way again. I know this period in time sucks, and the isolation amplifies every negative emotion. I suggest you use the free time you have to learn some skills to help market yourself for jobs. Learn coding (definitely possible in a matter of weeks and highly marketable), a new language, start investing, etc.

 

hey. can you recommend any fast track and reputable online coding qualifications?

 
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Start by taking a deep breath - and then take another one. This is a good start, getting things out there and articulating what you are going through. That puts you a head of most people.

'Lucky to graduate with a GPA above a 3.5' that means you can at least, with work, get close to it. That's goal number 1. Create a routine. Dial back on the partying. Whatever you need to do - make that priority number 1 for yourself. Oh - and by the way - that's leagues ahead of most folks as well. If you said 2.5 i'd be more concerned.

Take this time to re-evaluate what you are doing - are there hobbies you've put to the side? Skills that interest you should take priority, reading, whatever. Start doing it. Engross yourself in anything and everything. Most important is to keep busy - doing whatever.

The last thing is to stop worrying - or at least try to. Read Dale Carnegie. I don't care If I get MS for that recommendation - but his book on anxiety is fantastic. Focus on what you can control, start making progress, win some small victories and go from there.

 

Not controversial - I do think there is still a bias against 'self help' type books which I'd lump him in with. A lot of people struggle, including myself, with self improvement - challenging their base level assumptions, pushing themselves to adopt new or different habits and even admitting that they aren't where they need to be - then taking willful steps to change it.

 

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