My College life is a DISASTER
My college life is a complete disaster. Most of my time is spent working part time in two jobs (a boutique investment firm and an Australian management consulting company), working out, networking and preparing for exams. I couldn't find anyone who is doing something worthwhile, most of the people just fool around. I feel out of place here.
I used to have a lot of fun in school but here I couldn't find anyone similar to me. I also don't have enough mental stamina to invest in talking about football/alcohol after a hard day at work. It's better to workout and sleep peacefully.
I feel online college was much better.
Having fun and focusing on your future are not mutually exclusive. It’s fine to be focused on self-care and grind for success, but if you also are hating the hours in your day where you have to interact w other people then there’s something you should change.
Don’t take yourself too seriously man even in the industry, you’re going to be working with people for 14+ hours a day and if you don’t know how to have fun and let loose, they won’t want to hire you just based on culture.
The number one thing you should do in my opinion is get a better outlook on life and the people around you - that’s easier said than done though so I’d recommend you join 1 or 2 clubs at your school (preferably not finance related). Could be something you’re already doing like weightlifting or something new you want to try like dance. And after you join it, have a positive mentality when you interact with people. You might hate it for the first week or 2 but after that hopefully you can start to make friends that you will enjoy.
Or you can also just ignore all this and continue what you’re doing. Honestly you’ll probably meet people who are like you at some point and maybe they can become your best buds. 7 billion people in this world and I guarantee, you can find people who you vibe with.
Echoing the above, you sound like you need to develop hobbies and interests outside of finance, be more social, and loosen up. It's okay to un-wind after working hard by meeting new people, trying fun activities, partying etc. It helps you stay sane, happy, and motivated. Also, being somewhat open-minded and multi-dimensional is fun, stimulating and attractive to others. You need to chill or you'll come off as a sweaty boring try-hard and really piss people off (I've seen it before and in fact still see it everyday) Good on you for being ambitious but remember there's more to life, and remember all work no play makes Jack a dull boy.
Some people are just built different. Most of my friends talk about playing FIFA or some Barcelona while I am thinking about Barclays.
Meanwhile, I am thinking hard all the time about how I can flip things around me for $1,000. #Entrepreneurship
A true sigma male. Stick to the grindset
I had a very similar goals / focuses in college. I personally also felt “out of the loop” and that I could not relate to most of my peers either. I never played fantasy football, I never obsessed over March madness or college football, etc.
I was hyper focused on saving money, investing, and catapulting myself into banking (which I was able to do).
While this was my primary focus, when I did have down time, I still did enjoy spending time with my friends. Even though our lives were on very different trajectories and we had very different interests, it didnt mean that I disliked them or hated to be around them.
In life you’ll have to learn to get along with others who are dissimilar to you. Developing this skill will take you far and will be very valuable in just about any career path you choose.
It’s good that you’re serious and know what you want. That level of conviction will take you far. But you don’t have to be that serious all the time. Going out to a bar on a Saturday night won’t be the end of the world. Skipping the gym on a Sunday to watch football with the guys is ok.
You should start PUSHIN P!
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it's a joke guy
This was me at a target uni, and to make matters worse, I don't drink. Yes, it kinda sucks at times but now that I have my top SA in the bag I've become a lot more relaxed and hang out with friends more, visit cool places and meet girls. Completely fine if you gotta do it to get where you want to be but even I'd say it's worth chilling a bit once you achieve your goal, whatever that may be
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good for you that you are lazer focused and i am pretty sure u will get rewarded by that in the future, however entering college ONLY to study and prepare for a career is a decision u will regret. Let me elaborate assume someone who went to college did everything right 4.0 gpa etc etc there will come a time which he would say man i wish i was more relaxed and created some nice memories with my friends on the other hand if someone comes to just get drunk and have a 2.5 gpa he will also regret and say i wish i gave more attention to school so imo work hard and stay on your goals just be less uptight and try to make friends even if the people u know dont share the sane goals as u or they dont have decent goals in general ignore that u can talk about a lot of things like sports etc etc
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Aren't we all a bit autistic in finance? I mean we are talking about an industry that literally has roles for people to get paid to socialise (investor relations)
Wow dude. Seems like you’re really dedicated to the SiGmA mindset. You must feel really cool being better than everyone and slaying poon.
At the end of the day, you’re in finance. Can we not take ourselves so seriously. Go have some fun man.
For a person aspiring to be in the business of doing business, being a walking calculator is a waste of time. You aren't a quant, and unless you plan on becoming one make some fucking friends, drink a beer, then attempt a conversation with a girl. Not having a life but knowing your technicals does not an interesting college student make.
Unless you need the money, for something dire, the jobs (1 at most) aren't worth it. Your work network will never be as dependable as your social network.
If you go down this path of trying to be such a SiGmA then you’ll feel like that your whole life- an outsider. It’s not good practice when you’re in the workforce either. I highly reccomend you relax and get a beer and talk to chicks. College is about a piece of paper. Have good grades and get internships. Other than that enjoy what college is really about- being free and f***** b******
This isn't sigma at all. A sigma would be if you can make it by delegating as much as you can and networks are very important. Every high-profile job is a sales job. The president sells himself to get elected. There is plenty of politics behind every position and who do you think wins it all? Networks open a lot of doors. You need to be smart as fuck and in addition to that know how to deal with people. if you become a CEO or are in a high-profile management position how will you make sure you retain your place? empires have been lost by such emperors who think like you. There must be people in your college whose fathers might be someone or people who have similar ambitions but in order to know who's who you need to hang out and filter people. The crux of the matter is dealing with people is an art and college is a good training ground.
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