I've lost both of my parents in the past two months. I will be spending this Christmas alone. It doesn't seem real. I got to say goodbye to my Mom today as she started her cycle on morphine. I thought she would last the weekend. I know she is in a better place and is free now. I can't stop crying. I was so close to my parents, but they were in their late 80s so it was their time.
Please, for me call your parents whenever possible and tell them how much you love them and how much you care. I just can't do that anymore. I can't believe this is real. I can't believe this is reality.
So sorry for your loss
Thanks bro I really appreciate it. My Mom and I were so close. I was her favorite out of 4 siblings. She wasn't supposed to call me her favorite, but she did when she lost her filter due to dementia. I was the baby of the family.
I'm sorry to hear this. Please reach out if you ever want to talk.
Thanks bro. I really appreciate it.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Thx bro
Can't even imagine. So sorry and wishing the best for you as always brother.
Thanks bro I really appreciate it.
Praying for you this Xmas season. Always enjoy seeing your comments and insights around the website. Merry Christmas♥️
thank you
I’m very sorry about this
thx kelly
Sorry to hear man, can only imagine how incredibly hard it is to lose both your parents in such a short time
Thanks bro it all really hasn’t hit me or registered yet, just really happy I spent a couple hours with my sister and Mom yesterday before she passed.
My condolences Isaiah
thx bro appreciate it - hope all is going well with you
deepest condolences, praying for her and she must be in a better place
thanks bro prayers for you too - she is free now and with my Dad so I'm happy for them
Also praying for you man.
thanks bro - prayers to you too
I am sorry to hear about it
thx finance - appreciate it
Praying for you man, you will see your mom again one day along with your dad. You were an incredible son to them both
Thanks Sequoia
Sorry for your loss Isaiah. You are a good son.
Thanks bro
Oof. So sorry man. I think you're too far away, but I could try to make a seat at the Christmas table. Mom will fuss endlessly though, you know how Italian women are.
I was my grandma's favorite out of four kids and 22 grandkids, when she died (pancreatic cancer) they ended having to move her from morphine to fentanyl. She didn't know who any of us were at the end, but knew she wanted her chinos perfectly pressed, what you remember is odd sometimes.
She went quick though, I think it was a month beginning to end. My other grandmother lingered for a dozen years, blind, deaf and in a nursing home. I'll rather go like Hunter S. Thompson than that.
Thanks for the invite - I am a bit far away but appreciate the consideration.
Sending my love and prayers- reach out if you need man
thanks lurking - appreciate it - maybe I will
Love you Isaiah
Thanks bro much love - cheers
sorry for your loss man
thx bro
Hey man, really sorry to hear this. I'm a bit younger than you, but I remember a comment you left on my post a few years ago when my dad and brother passed away in an accident. I really appreciated it - so I just wanted to express my condolences and offer my support as well here.
There's obviously not much I can say or do, but I wanted to at least let you know that a random stranger on the internet who you supported years ago remembers that.
thanks Trader Guy
Very sorry to hear, especially so close to Christmas. I hope you are able to look back on happy times with them. Praying for you bro.
thx johnny
My condolences, man.
If you ever feel comfortable, we’d love to hear some memorable moments you shared with your parents. Thoughts are with you bro
One of the most memorable times was when my mom was in Memory Care due to dementia and she completely lost her filter. I was the baby of the family and it seemed like I was her favorite child growing up, but she never said it. Then she got dementia and every time I would visit her (everyday basically), she would spread her arms wide and say "my favorite!!!" I was so happy to give her a hug.
Other times I was caregiving for her when she used to live with my Dad and she would walk off away from the place and I would chase her down. When we encountered each other, she would say "I'm so glad you found me" and we would walk back to my Dad's place.
The first time my Mom forgot my name due to dementia was in 2016. We had thanksgiving dinner and after we were sitting alone in the living room and she had a big smile on her face and she lovingly asked "what's your name?" It was a severe dagger to my heart. I smiled and told her my name, but there was an immense sadness building in my heart.
That week I went to the gym non-stop and jump roped until my legs gave out. Then I went back to the gym and jumped rope for hours in between sets. My achilles started hurting and I thought I was making gains, but I was tearing my achilles. I kept going back to the gym in pain and ended up tearing both of my achilles trying to deal with the pain of my Mom forgetting my name and having dementia. At the time, I had to walk up to my 3rd floor apartment backwards up the stairs and it was one of the most painful and brutal injuries I have ever experienced.
My Mom also taught me to play tennis at 3 years old and tennis was a lifelong bond for us. She was a nationally ranked player sponsored by Prince and loved the game.
My Dad was a Navy pilot and Captain in the Navy and absolutely love to fly. My parents actually met in Bermuda - my Mom was a traveling nurse and Dad was stationed there with the Navy and flew planes that landed on water (sea planes).
Sorry for your loss :-(
thx pizz
My condolences mate
thx bro
Man it hurt to see this post, please take time for yourself and stay healthy. I wish you the best and god bless our mothers.
Thx anon
man, can’t imagine this rough of news coming all around the holidays. Sorry for your loss, know that you were a great son and I’m sure you turned out to be everything they wanted. They’re alive in you!
thx liquid
i’m so sorry for your losses. sounds like you were a great son and they were amazing parents. praying for you to find peace, hope, and strength however you can.
thx nopatar - some of my siblings are in town and so finding strength and love through them.
Thanks Dr. - Yes I did everything I could to help my parents and feel absolutely content with how things ended. They are free now. My Dad was absolutely against going to assisted living and just wanted to die in his own place in his own bed. He got his wish and I was there with both my Mom and Dad to their last day.
My condolences mate.
I live on the other side of the world from my parents but I'm privileged to have them visiting for Christmas. I'll be giving them an extra hug
Thanks bro - that’s awesome. Cherish these times.
So sorry for your loss. I went through the same thing 19 years ago and certainly feel for you. Even with the late age has still got to be so tough. My full condolences to you.
thx blake
Mom and Dad are proud of you man, don't forget it. Take care of yourself, things will get better.
thx single
Sorry for your loss. I pray for your mom and dad. We are born, we live, and we die. Embrace your sorrow and keep on. We all grow up with sadness and we are all lonely somehow...
Thx agency you’re right
I'm so sorry for your loss.. Praying for strength in this trying time.
thx Char - prayers to you too
my sincere condolences to you and your family mate.
thx biscuits
Isaiah, you are not alone this Christmas, we are all here for/with you. We are all so sorry for your loss.
Thanks Goldman you’re right - I appreciate the support from everyone.
I'm sorry for your loss Isaiah. I can't imagine the grief you must be feeling. The other people on this post are right, your parents raised a great son, and you gave them your best. It's clear you loved them deeply.
This whole community is here for you.
Thx fast - yes was very close to both my parents the last 10-15 years. Was a bit distant in my 20s. They are in a better place now. They are reunited and free.
Very sorry Isaiah.Will pray for you.
Thx No Equity - prayers for you too.
My condolences brother. Wishing you the ability to get through this as healthily as possible.
Thx Sym
So sorry for your loss Isiah. Can tell from your history of posts here that you are a thoughtful, compassionate, driven, and caring individual. Your parents must have been be very proud to have someone like yourself represent their legacy
Thx Monkey appreciate it
Sorry for your loss. You did the right thing by spending a lot of time with her and taking care of her.
Thanks bro. Yeah my Dad and I visited my Mom every day for years.
My deepest condolences Isaiah. May you be comforted. Feel free to reach out if you need to talk
Thanks earthwalker - good to hear from you.
Sorry to hear about your parents Isiah. You are a great son and person
Thanks Jonny
I’m so sorry for your loss. I want to thank you for the kind words you left on my thread the other day, and I hope I can help give you a little of positive energy throughout this difficult time, take care.
thx bro
Sorry for your loss Isaiah.
thx bro
So sorry for your loss man, long time lurker here and seen plenty of your posts and pointers on the site.
Wish you all the best during this awful time.
thx snow
Hey Isaiah, I'm very sad to read this post. As you mentioned, it seems her time was coming and she is now free, at peace, no more pain and with your dad. My prayers go for her, but speciyfir you brother. It is a tough and testing time. Just remember, she lives within you. Forever. I wish you calmness and tranquility to navigate through the loss , and the light that guides you ahead. My condolences, take good care of you now a d keep strong!
Much appreciated hungaroe - I’m actually doing better than I thought I would be doing. I’m happy she is free and reunited with my Dad.
sincere condolences - hope you make through this
spending xmas alone in a diff city and will def call fam more often
Thx Techno monkey - I'm doing ok so far - maybe drinking too much and forgetting I can't visit my parents anymore. It hits me when I wake up in the morning. I forget and then realize 'oh, they're gone.' At least I have work and poker to keep me busy most of the week.
I feel you in a way but not anywhere near
grandpa passed away (was really close to him when i was a kid) in jan while I was real busy - work at a pod
didn't even have the luxury/time to get drunk since was working my ass off through earnings, took me at least a few months to get back to a normal state - that i dont dream of him in my pathetically v little sleep time during the week
hang in there
My deepest condolences. Praying for you.
thx bro prayers for you too
Thinking of you. Hope you are able to make the best of the holidays. Merry Christmas, bro!
Thx bro Merry Christmas
My condolences, hope you feel better soon.
thx chimp
I'm so sorry for your loss. Both your parents watching over you are proud to have had a son like you, and I can say on behalf of everyone here that you're an inspiration to everyone on this site and community and in your life. Though it may seem that way, you are not alone, you have us and we have each other. We are here for you. The Advent of your mother's passing was in preparation for the Light of the World, the light and warmth that she was to you and the light that you carry within you, now and always.
"And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes: and death shall be no more, nor mourning, nor crying, nor sorrow shall be any more, for the former things are passed away" (Revelation 21:4).
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Eternal rest, grant unto her, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon her.
May her soul and the souls of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.
Amen.
Thx Pierogi /// AMDG
My deepest condolences Isaiah. You've been a great son, born to great parents.
Thx smolchimp
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Thx bro yeah my Mom definitely went straight to heaven. She was a saint.
I’m sorry for your loss, my condolences. I cannot begin to imagine the pain of losing two parents in such quick succession.
Thanks guy. Yes it has been hard. Surreal.
Hey Isaiah_53_5 💎🙌💎🙌💎, I remember you posted about your mom a while back. I am really sorry for your loss. Wishing you the best to cope with this loss, there's nothing that will make you feel better but I hope you still find comfort in your faith. Always around if you want to DM me even just to vent man. Stay strong, as you said- they're in a better place now.
Thanks Pug. Yeah the funeral was today. I'm in a lot better place than I thought I would be.
Isaiah, you are a legend in the Investment Banking community. In my heart for the holidays.
Thanks bro - much appreciated.
Shit man, I’m so sorry for your loss.
Thanks bro
My condolences Isaiah, to you and your siblings. I'm sure she was a gem based on the stories you've shared of her here over time.
Thanks Raijin much appreciated. The hardest for me is waking up in the morning and realizing my Mom has passed and I can’t see her smile or hug her or kiss her on the head anymore. Or hear her voice and Australian accent.
Really sad
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