Got staffed in a pretty big deal with a Nepo kid, kinda dying with the workload. He is almost never in the office during the day, and absolutely never in the office after dinner. He goes radio silent after dinner.
I got so pissed I had a 1-on-1 show down with the kid. Coz I'm a nice guy and i gave him the benefit of the doubt that he might be going through some personal shit. He came into the meeting 30 minutes late than the time we promised and then when I asked what deals he is working other than the one we are working together, the kid said "Do I have to tell you everything that I'm doing? I'm working on 4~5 projects."
I lost it and told my MD that I cant work with this kid. But he told me to "give him another chance." I did some more digging, and apparently our MD is taking this kid around to meet all sorts of people and telling the kid to keep every meeting confidential.
I am a top bucket ASO, comfortable where I am. Love the team other than this kid. Dont want to leave the team coz of some crazy Nepo kid and dont want to make a shit show with HR either. But the additional workload for this project is starting to have an impact on my performance on other deals.
How do I cope with this situation?
Why not focus on yourself rather than on someone else
Because the poster literally said it's increasing HIS workload.
People always cape for nepo hires on this forum it’s ridiculous
Can you talk to the staffer and get another analyst on the project? If the nepo kid gets to tag along to several meetings with interesting people he is already “set” I.e. he is most likely never gonna roll up his sleeves on your deal and put in the hours, so better handle this as soon as possible.
Thanks. This is very good advice. Still, I didnt want to go over my MD's head coz he's the project lead and asked him instead of the staffer. But apparently he wants me to "give him another chance to learn and grow" and that having another anaylst staffed to replace him would be "kicking the ladder" for Nepo kid.. Guess I need to power through this one. Thanks
Echo the above, don’t talk to the MD who you know is in on it for whatever reason with the kid. Talk to the staffer to get new bodies on the deal
Why don’t you get the nepo to like you? Be his friend, and be on his good side. That’ll take you further than complaing here.
I tried this. He's unbarable and all the other A&As dislike him bc of his toxic personality. I can't befriend someone who has no intention of getting along with anyone in the office.
Please read how win and influence friends. You sound sorry as fuck worrying about him. Instead of trying to sabotage him use him to your advantage. Gotta think more strategically I know it’s hard but being great is hard
Yeah I guess I need to learn how to cope with stupid analysts with a bad attitude like yourself. Fortunately, this was my first encounter. Will try to work on it tho :)
The other option is you leave and go work on your own thing or work a job that isn’t fulled of nepos. Always the option you are choosing this just pointing out a suggestion. Either way you’ll be fine imo
The MD for w.e reason is prioritizing this kid over actually getting a deal done (which is insane.) With this in mind, you can re-calibrate accordingly. I would send all standard analyst work to said nepo with MD copied and clearly layout the deadline. If he’s as bad as you say he will obviously miss important deadlines and you can say to MD “I am slammed with other deals so I need so and so to step up. I’m trying to give him another chance here but this is a recurring thing with him.” Let MD feel the pain of this for himself.
I wish MD would be as empathetic as I need him to be.. But ur right, I need to leave a paper trail for any instance i need an "I told you so" Thanks for the advice
Had a similar situation before. Our team hired a nepo analyst who was the son of a public company CEO. CEO was friends with one of the senior MDs in the team. Nepo analyst was not only bad at his job but had a terrible attitude. Left at 6-7pm everyday. Senior MD would also bring him to meetings and have 1-on-1s with him weekly in his office.
Unfortunately, if he is really well connected like that, there is not much you (especially as an associate) can do about it. You need to raise it with the staffer and others so they are aware that he sucks at his job and misses deadlines. Be professional and don't come off as angry, unreasonable, etc. Takes some time but eventually the whole team/office will know he sucks and is just a nepo hire, which makes people dislike him even more. Don't get too confrontational with him because the MD will stand on his side.
Nepo analyst in our group ended up leaving like a year in, everyone in the team hated him. Even then, the senior MD loved him and tried to have him stay another year or transfer to a different group to "try it out".
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