No life, only work.

I don’t care about any hobbies. Even if I had the time, I wouldn’t want to pursue them because I'd rather work. There is always something to work on.

I’m sociable, but I couldn’t care less about being at social gatherings. I worked on Christmas and New Year's last year by choice, alongside other occasions where work would typically be the last thing on your mind. I know what you’re thinking: this guy must be a loser.  But I can’t force myself to stop thinking about work. Both of my parents are bankers, so I inherited their work ethic. I know it’s not healthy, but I can’t help it.

I can turn my charisma on like a faucet, so I’m not some wildebeest-looking ogre who can’t socialize or doesn’t have friends.

I’m still young and have an offer at a BB, so I see it like this:

  • Burnout (maybe).
  • Continue working and let that define my life.

Advice?

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You have an offer at a BB? Are you even working full time yet?

If not, then this whole take is meaningless. Lmk when you actually hit the slog of a full time job for years watching your life pass by from a cubicle in a windowless room. I’m 25 and thought I was all in for the grind 3 years ago…your view may change over time.

If you’ve been out of school for awhile than idk man, see a therapist.

 

I am like you. I love to work and it feels good to do that which you are good at. So nothing bad with and even less if you don't feel like doing other things. Just don't let it become a sort of arrogance that you're better than others. Not all will give as many fucks as you professionally long-term. 

incentives triumph ethics
 

Having work define your life is setting yourself up for disaster. You have to have an identity outside of work or else when you get shitcanned for something outside of your control, you will be left with nothing. Sure, work your ass off if that's what you're into, but don't let work completely define you.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 
investmentspanker

“Man, I fuckin love working. Never want to do anything else but work.” - guy who has never worked a day in his life

lol

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

Two good ones… chuckled when reading first and laughed out loud while reading the second one...   

@OP — do a year in the trenches and you’ll know.. the other advice here to make frequent “sense/sanity-checks” and find other things important to you is valuable, take it to heart.

I’d also be cautious with being so sure of yourself when everyone here sees this to be hubris rather than appropriate self assessment…

 

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