Relationship Advice

I was wondering if you could give me your personal opinion. I'm a white, male college student, and i recently started dating someone. I'm dating a black girl up at my school. I love my family dearly, but I'm willing to stop talking to them if they don't change. I told my mom about her and she basically told me my gf's only with me for the money, she thinks she's broke which is not the case. She says race it's not the problem but she expected more (ex: blonde, tall girl with a great background)
She hasn't even seen a picture of her and it's already stereotyping her. My dad doesn't really care as long as I am happy but if my moms not ok he's obviously gonna take her side. Now I really like this girl, she is the only stable minded girl I've been with up to now, she's absolutely beautiful and makes me feel things I have never thought I could feel.
Parents say it won't last I say she is a great girl and race should have nothing to do with it. Obviously there are complications. What is your guy's advice? Anyone been on a similar situation?

NO WAY I'm breaking up with her. She's possibly the best thing that could ever happened to me.

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Follow your heart.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 
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Is it true? Once you go black!?

'Some say the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice say the darker the flesh then the deeper the roots'

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"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

Stop talking to your family because they aren't excited about your girl, really dude?.

They didn't threaten to disown you if you keep dating her or something?

Show some loyalty and why would you give too much of a fuck what your parents think about your girl if you are not going to marry her anytime soon or got her pregnant?

 

I'm not gonna talk to them if they keep saying ignorant stuff about my gf. That's disrespectful and I'm not having it. I'm tired of their judgement and it's making me completely embarrassed. My girlfriend really wanted to meet them but until they stop acting like this, there's no reason to keep being cool with them. They should know better c’mon man. And even if I don’t marry her, that doesn’t mean that this behavior is acceptable. And yes I feel like they should be excited about my girl because I’m their son. They should be happy if I’m happy

 

How about you tell your parents that you don't want them to talk shit about her anymore. That they should accept that you like her and you don't want her brought up again if they can't help themselves.

If they keep going, that's another issue, they are disrespecting you, instead of just don't seeing eye to eye about your girlfriend which shouldn't be a real issue IMO especally since you are still in college and stuff.

 

Unlike the rest of this jabber: straight up follow your own feeling. Seriously, just think about what's best for you, and if that also means what's best for her? Roll with it. Can't go wrong.

Fact of life #1: you have to take of yourself well before anyone else. If it winds up taking care of others along the way? Bonus!

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