Should I Text Her?

Alright, heres the deal. I'm a few drinks in and never thought I would be coming to WSO for some dating advice, but here goes.

I met this girl on Tinder a few months back and we had a few dates that went very well. We clicked quite well and I thought there was something there. However, it was always me starting convos and trying to do things, but she was always super engaged when we met. I probably messaged her a day after our last date and she ghosted me after a few back and forth messages, but still follows me on social media and views everything. I've never been the type to catch feelings or think about a girl like this, I always just move on to the next, but this one is different and I genuinely want to see and talk to her again.

Should I text her and ask how she's doing? Last time we spoke was 5 months ago and I have now returned from the SA gig with FT offer in hand and an extra confidence boost. Am I stupid for trying to reach out to a girl who hasn't messaged me herself? Or should I say fuck it and send the text? Let's see what the WSO gods have decided as my fate with this chick.

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Miracle1111, what's your opinion? Comment below:

First, she's not different. She's playing the same stupid game most women play. She takes a shit and bleeds once a month like all of them. If you try to get into a relationship by approaching her like she's different, you'll lose. It never ends well if you like her more than she likes you, and you treat her like she's the one, but she can't even bother to put any effort into a text conversation. However, we both know you're going to text her no matter what we say. So if it means that much to you, then shoot her a text; just make sure it's not something too dull or cringe. Wait until you're sober just so you have control over your emotions; you may just be horny right now.

After she ghosts you again, then dead her and let her continue to watch your life like a fan without giving her the time of day and take some pictures with some hotter girls so she can like that post too. I wouldn't expect anything but a waste of time. When women are really into you, then they make it easy. They're not gonna let five months go by. Think about how much dick she's gotten in those five months that wasn't yours. She doesn't sound like she's that into you. The dating game is rough out here these days, I get it, but you have to learn when to cut your losses.

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sithlord69, what's your opinion? Comment below:

incredibly based and tate-pilled

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FastLearner, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Shut the fuck up, Tate is absolutely cringe. Do not call that pathetic larper "based" or "redpilled"

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AlwaysMakeBank, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Won't lie, I was a bit horny. But seriously, I really needed to hear this. Something did still draw me towards her, but I just need to cut my losses and move on like you said. Appreciate it homie

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WolfofWSO, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I'm far from any sort of guru here.

Text her "new phone, who dis?" See if she even saved your number. At least you'll know that she moved on.


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Arroz con Pollo, what's your opinion? Comment below:

No - she does not care about you. Rub one out to her pics if you want and then you'll realize even in drunk post-nut clarity you don't care about her, but rather the idea of her.

I've said it before and I'll say it again: hot girls get what they want 99.99% of the time. She didn't choose you 5 months ago and has been hopping from dick to dick since then. I know the feeling bro, but don't settle. You miss making experiences with a hot chick - go out and find another one to make even better experiences with.

What you're experiencing is a pitfall of social media. She's not part of your actual life - sure, she views your story or whatever, but that means nothing.

I'm typing this in the shower after I crushed the gym and drove to the store to buy BOGO blueberries, but they all had mold on them. Also, the store was out of bananas. I bought one of those meat and cheese packs and just ate that.

Have a fantastic night and weekend brother

AlwaysMakeBank, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Even through the cringe content we see on this site, this is the reason I love WSO. We always lookout for one another even though we don't know each other irl. I should go crank it out at the gym and use this as my motivation, the best pre workout there is

iercurenc, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Yeah man just forget about her. Go ahead and text her if you really want but the more you feed yourself this dream of getting with her, the more tortured you will be. Why are you still thinking about her after five months? How do you know if she still cares about you? It's better if you meet new people.

w99, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

If you didn't think about her when you read this she's not the one. 

Also - can't ever take a woman that puts herself out there on Tinder seriously to be honest. You aren't going to find a wife material or even gf material for that matter meeting a chick on an app that's known for "hey u like these 4 pics? Lets hookup and hope we don't catch hpv" routinely. And as harsh as it sounds she's probably had 5+ D's in and around her mouth since y'all last spoke 

"Chasing women a distraction" - Drake

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AlwaysMakeBank, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Yeah fuck her, she's broke, I'm up

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Pizz, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Ya sorry bud this one is over. Move on to the next. 

chimpnotsimp, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Don't text her, someone new is on the horizon, head up 👑

financeabc, what's your opinion? Comment below:

If she ghosted you, it is time to move on to the next one.  There are probably hundreds of others you will think are the one for you. 

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