What are your biggest turn ons and turn offs when dating
Let me hear about some things that instantly can turn you on and off. What is something that you simply can't accept in a girl and something that turns you on like a mofo you would date?
It sounds dumb at first, but how someone eats is important to me.
Chewing with your mouth open, spilling food and drink, and generally just being gross are all massive turn offs. I don't want to see that while eating, I (probably) don't want to kiss that, and I certainly don't want to marry that.
As for turn ons?
Fully agree - loud chewing/“smacking” and I’m out
Turn ons?
So true, and I couldn't agree more.
The last girl I dated ate like a pig. She would eat everything in sight (she was surprisingly not fat - I don't date fat girls), talk when she was chewing a mouthful of food, and did not have any sort of table etiquette. Gross!!!
I would’ve ended it real quick.
Did u fuck her atleast?
Stockings and make up
If she has any mental illness (including depression), sees a psychologist or has trouble managing her emotions that's a direct no from me. Have done that before and I want to be someone's partner, not a therapist.
As for turn ons, I'd say someone who curious, has dreams and isn't blasé about what life can offer. (Sounds 100% cringe, but that's true) If you don't truly appreciate the beauty of the world in your veryday life when you're young I don't even want to imagine you when you'll be old. (Plus obviously short skirts and tight dresses)
Agree with all of that plus intentionally causing a fight because they enjoy the making up period. Can’t work with that
100% agree
What about turn ons?
My preferences (turn-ons are listed; turn-offs are the inverse of the listed qualities):
1. Has ambition, drive, and goals.
- I want to date someone, not a stay-at-home gf/wife. I get really turned on when girls take the initiative, know what they want to achieve, and chase their dreams. Sounds corny, but synergies are formed when the bf/husband and the gf/wife are both super ambitious and successful (everyone has seen THAT power couple; it's not for the publicity, but moreso knowing that your gf/wife is a badass like you).
2. Smart - bonus points if she is nerdy (not geeky) about a particular niche/field
- I have always found smart girls to be very attractive. I like to have in-depth conversations with people I am close with, which is why I can't date stupid girls for too long - they don't appreciate my intelligence and there is only so much that they have to offer before I get bored of them
3. Clear with her communication/intentions
- I love it when girls don't expect me to mind-read and when they are transparent about their feelings, thoughts, and intentions. I feel like this shows a lot of maturity on the girl's part, and not having to play mind games saves me a lot of energy.
4. Healthy/Fit
- This is obvious. I am not going to date a fat, lazy slob. I want a fit girl who goes to the gym and is in shape like me (can't even believe that is too much to ask for nowadays smh!)
5. Naturally attractive/beautiful (even without makeup on)
- Some of my past flings look amazing with makeup on but look like zombies without it. I know this is out of girls' control, but this is a completely reasonable desire, regardless of your sex
6. Good personality
- "There are no girls with good personalities." - Patrick Bateman.
- Initially, I thought that this was pretty sexist (fucking hilarious, nonetheless), but I see what he means now. I don't like girls who act nice during the first week of dating, and then reveal their shitty/depressing personality 3-5 weeks after we meet. HUGE TURN-OFF!
7. High sex drive
- This is a must. I have to have a girl that matches my sex drive or else I am leaving. Not negotiable.
8. Mentally Stable | Minimal Baggage
- I get it. We all had our hearts broken at some point, but don't fucking take it out on me. Mental instability (and especially not doing anything to treat/improve those conditions) screams immature and puts a burden on the relationship. I am not going to be a therapist, but I will be there for my girl if she is emotionally mature but needs support and guidance through tough times (i.e., it's not acceptable if she is a train wreck all the time).
9. No guy best friends
- This is also pretty obvious. Some girls have told me that this desire was "ToO cOnTrOlLiNg," yet these are the same girls that get mad at me whenever I talk/chill with my female friends. If you have guy friends, cool, but I know why they are your friends - I am a guy, and I would smash almost every one of my female friends that I am currently speaking with. I have had flings with female friends in the past, so I know exactly what the guy friends' intentions are.
10. Has double standards | Not a full-blown hypocrite
- Easy. This displays maturity and eliminates pointless arguments/fights which, in turn, optimizes the relationship
11. Does not go out 24/7
- If she goes out all the time, chances are she will likely cheat on you, so be aware
12. Does not have thot friends
- If her friends are thots, it's highly likely that she is a thot too
13. Feminine
- I do not want to date a woman that hates men. The 'strong, independent woman' bullshit has been blown out of proportion and is a huge turn-off. Almost all of the women in my life have told me that they want a bf/husband at some point (unless they were lesbian), so this mindset is utter horseshit. I love women and I want them to love me too - not an unusual desire.
14. Conservative/Republican
- HUGE! Can't date a libtard who virtue signals all the time, spams her IG with social-justice posts, has pronouns on her profile, gets offended by my edgy jokes, and lacks common sense. Hard to come by conservative girls (especially since most of their friends tend to shame them for being conservative - I hear that a lot) but they are out there - you just have to look!
15. Loyal and Loving
- EXTREMELY hard to come by nowadays. Regardless, there is nothing I find sexier than a girl who has all of the traits listed above and is fully committed to me. Knowing that she will always be by my side, regardless of whatever shit comes our way, is something that would cause me to settle down for good.
This is a lot to ask for, but these are my preferences and help me to have a good sense of what I want in a girl. One of the girls I am currently seeing exhibits most of the qualities I listed above, so they're out there! Good luck with your searches monkeys - I know it can be tough but you must persevere!
Very tough to find that in the city but there’s hope
Damn solid ass list but idk if it's possible to find a girl like that in NYC
Rlly is a solid list. I hope we can all find a girl like this in NYC. It’ll be hard as fuck but worth searching for. Easier to find on campus rather than in NYC
I agree with all of these bullets and hope everyone can find someone that checks all their boxes, but lets be realistic here. If she hit 10 or 11 out of these 15 (attractive & fitness included by default) I'd be more than happy.
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Pizz we’re waiting on you too
After the first date or two she has to at least “reach” for her wallet. I don’t care if they actually pay, but I’ve gotta have that Seinfeld reach.
Any smart/ambitious girl can ruin my life and I wouldn’t complain.
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