What do you honestly look for in a girl?

What makes a woman more attractive to you romantically and how can that woman "win you over"? I'm having romantic troubles lately, guys I know tend to only take a sexual interest in me but I'd like something more and I don't know who or how to go about it.

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She's gotta be dumb as shit. Nearly retarded. I need her to have full facial tattoos, to the point where the only job she could do is be a tattoo artist. Dyed hair is a must, especially blue or purple. I need to make sure I never have to meet her father. She can't be gay (duh) but she should have been bisexual in high school for at least a year. Lastly, if she didn't study english I don't want her.

 

Strong character, intelligent and decent enough looks (good hygiene, healthy, makes an effort with her appearance). I don’t think this is too different from what women look for in a guy, at least what they say they look for. That’s for a serious relationship. For the time being, I don’t care about serious relationships and I probably won’t until I’m early 30’s at the minimum, for reference I’m 22 right now. So depending on how old you are, the guys you date just feel the way I feel, not really your fault. Maybe find someone slightly older then yourself who’s tired of sleeping around and wants a good woman. 

 
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I’m happily married and agree with your points. I know some guys will care about the prestige of a girl’s education/ career but honestly it doesn’t matter. If you’re into whatever you’re doing and want to succeed (whatever succeed means to you), that’s attractive. 
 

And before any trolls come and talk about non targets or whatever BS like that- my wife and I met at a non target and she earns nearly IB money because she works in tech (like I do as well). That’s not what’s important. She’s super into UX/ UI engineering and really likes making things accessible to those with disabilities and into the marketing/ psychology side of website design. 
 

It’s important she’s into something, not so much where her career is at. 

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Just a few things. I may not be the typical late twenties guy, but you'll find that as guys pass 26 or 27 that they slow down and realize that they need a partner. Don't give up! 

I'll say this was me. I didn't really care about serious long-term relationships in my early to mid twenties that much. I just enjoyed being single and pretty much doing whatever I wanted on a whim. Now, at 28, different story. Looking for someone to come home to and have a slower pace of life to enjoy the finer things in life that I couldn't quite do earlier. A real long-term relationship that has future potential.

 

There was a girl that I was seeing who I didn't see any future with, I initially just thought I would see her for some fun. But I really fell for her. Looking back, it wasn't looks or mind-game tactics or any of that nonsense, etc. - it was because she was chill and she cared about me.

 

A normal, friendly, motivated person who is pretty (doesn't need to be a model) and has an idiotic sense of humor. She has to be able to find my jokes and dumb shit funny or else it won't work. Ideally wants kids but have not gotten to that point yet. Ideally does not want to live in NYC forever, and even more ideally is from where I am from and wants to move back there eventually (or would at least be open to it). It's hard to look for a lot of this shit right away tho. Like some people are just special and click with you, and thats why you gotta get out there and meet people. There are only two-three girls I ever knew who met a lot of these criteria, and one of them was a close friend and one I only hooked up with, never dated (did date the third). 

Dayman?
 

I like girls who don't show an interest in me. It never turns out well, if she starts showing an interest in me then I lose interest; my therapist told me thats a sign of low self-esteem.

 

I like girls who don't show an interest in me. It never turns out well, if she starts showing an interest in me then I lose interest; my therapist told me thats a sign of low self-esteem.

Omg, I am so with you. I can't respect any club that would have me as a member. 

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I like girls who don't show an interest in me. It never turns out well, if she starts showing an interest in me then I lose interest; my therapist told me thats a sign of low self-esteem.

Omg, I am so with you. I can't respect any club that would have me as a member. 

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"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

Honestly the number one thing for me is being down to earth.  I don't want to have to pretend to be cool or someone else when I'm around my significant other.

 

For consideration for LT relationship:

Virgin/ lack of previous physically intimate relationships 

Conservative (politics) - last thing I need is some girl complaining to me about oppression, toxic masculinity , misogyny or yelling at me for saying non woke things. 

Health & Fitness - this one is big for me but a lot of it has to do with my own personal interests. Based on the way I live our lifestyles would be incompatible If the girl wants to drink her life to oblivion or order pizza every night. For the average guy, however, probably just doing a fitness class a few times a week would pass.

Personality- not expecting an angel but treating someone like a friend goes a long way.

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I'm lookin for a dime ... that's top of the line

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

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"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

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What makes a woman more attractive to you romantically and how can that woman "win you over"? I'm having romantic troubles lately, guys I know tend to only take a sexual interest in me but I'd like something more and I don't know who or how to go about it.

This is really about your approach as well as what messages you give off, conscious and no conscious. Women are usually attracted to various things such as: kindness, money, looks and the ability to make them laugh. Most of all women want to feel safe.

SafariJoe, wins again!
 

Must be from prestigious area(think Manhattan or Greenwich/Darien) with target background(think HS at Phillips Exeter/Andover, then HYP). Must be able to cook prestigious meals and have prestigious tastes(think Gary Parr’s chocolates). Must attend prestigious gyms, and must only go to locally renowned coffee shops(no Starbucks or D&D). Lastly, must have an appreciation for a penis in the bottom 25th quartile.

 

For me personally, first and foremost I want to know if she is a nice person. I would prefer to only live with and marry a nice person. I also am looking for someone who I think my family would like and see as a nice person and someone they too are happy to welcome to the broader family. I hope this helps. Good luck

 

For me personally, first and foremost I want to know if she is a nice person. I would prefer to only live with and marry a nice person. I also am looking for someone who I think my family would like and see as a nice person and someone they too are happy to welcome to the broader family. I hope this helps. Good luck

 

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"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 
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Aside from a few physical requirements, here is what is important to me (I feel monkey shit incoming):

-Didn't spend here late teens/early 20s constantly spreading her legs for guys, getting hammered every weekend, drugs, etc.

-Hasn't sold herself to the social media devil meaning she's not half naked in every other post selling cheap crap

-Maturely intelligent to where she knows that most of what she sees in society, the media, etc. is bullshit

-Values traditional qualities such as loyalty, family, spirituality, honor

-Meticulous about health and cleanliness

-Is sweet (an increasingly rare quality in women now a days) 

I have more but I realize such an individual is few and far between, if not nonexistent in today's world.

 

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