Attractive colleague - advice needed

I'm an incoming IB analyst, just interned over the summer. I got to work with another attractive female SA, and I'll be honest it was distracting. She's physically attractive but also had an amazing personality as we have been talking for a while. I think once we return to the office I'll be very distracted and lose productivity. Really don't want that to affect my work. I tried full time recruiting but it was tough for this year (COVID) and my current offer is really good, so it's hard to find another equal or better opportunity.

I know you shouldn't be involved with office romance but I honestly don't know what to do. Telling her probably will make things awkward but keeping this inside just kills me. I like this girl a lot. 

Sorry for another relationship post but I really need to put this out there! :D 

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  • Intern in IB - Gen
Nov 21, 2020 - 6:31pm

The amount of posts about this kind of stuff is frightening. Have none of you guys ever had to work or be friends with an attractive female? Keep the relationship professional, I can guarantee you that telling her would only make things weird as I am sure she doesn't like you in that way. Best case scenario is she doesn't find it weird but you burn a friendship in the workplace, worst case she finds it weird and no longer will work with you. 

Use your brain, there are plenty of fish in the sea. 

 
  • Analyst 1 in IB - Ind
Nov 21, 2020 - 6:55pm

I don't know what it is or how on earth I know this, but the fact that you ended your message with ":D" makes me very confident there's a 90% chance you look like some variation of this

 
Nov 21, 2020 - 7:12pm

My policy is, "don't date anyone in your own department at work."

Largely due to the fact - it can be awkward if they turn you down. Only would consider dating someone in a different department if we rarely if ever work together on a task/project (but even then, I try not to date at work ever - hookups do happen at my company apparently but I never ever engage in company gossip). 

 
Nov 21, 2020 - 7:26pm

This hurt to read. Don't put your career in jeopardy because you can't keep it in your pants. Go jerk off or something

if it was fun they wouldn't pay you to do it

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Nov 22, 2020 - 12:07pm

Is she in your group? Your division? If not, here's what you do.

 

You build some rapport and then you ignore her. Sounding like the desperate monkey that you are will drive her away. 

Float like a butterfly, sting like the bee.
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Nov 23, 2020 - 8:11am

Stay friends with her... then bang her friends who don't work at the bank. Duh....

that this didn't occur to you already means it'll never happen. Probably best to just spend your bonus simping on OF

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