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Dating as an Investment Banking Analyst

Could someone with experience please comment on the dating life as an analyst? Especially those who started work already with a girlfriend.

Having a Relationship While In Investment Banking

As an analyst at an investment bank, it is well known that you will work hectic hours that can range between 70-100 a week. That being said, our users shared that when it comes to having a relationship while working in banking, it is important to communicate realistic expectations about your work life to your significant other.

monkeyman2010:

It's all about what kind of relationship you have. If you can give him/her realistic expectations and if she/he can live with those standards, shouldn't be a problem.

Our users shared that it is realistic to plan to speak with your significant other 10 - 20 minutes on the phone a day and go out once a week (but sometimes will have to cancel last minute.)

User @CaptK, a private equity partner, shared that while these are realistic expectations - they can be difficult to adhere to:

CaptK - Private Equity Partner:

This is all accurate, but it sounds a lot easier than it actually is in practice. The trouble is that those 10-20 minutes a day are going to be at weird times, and most of the time you'd rather be sleeping.

Plus, if you are able to manage one night a week going out, you're going to want to spend it at least a couple times a month with friends or other analysts from work. There's only so much free time, and you need to spread it around in order to maintain relationships (girlfriend and friendships).

User @ideating shared how one friend maintained a successful relationship:

ideating:

I had a banker buddy who did it really well during his 2-year stint. At least once a week, he'd have his girl come to his office and they'd grab dinner somewhere nearby and quickly catch up on things. He also frequently sent her flowers (once a month) or buy her little things; nothing extravagant, just enough to show he listened to her. Those gestures take less than 2 min. but go a long way. The other thing he did was make sure she got along really well with us (his friends); most nights we went out with him, she would be there but it wasn't annoying because she really fit in well with us (would act like a wingwoman, do shots, etc.)

User @KB24TD21, an investment banking analyst, shared detailed personal experience about both herself and her boyfriend who are both in the industry:

KB24TD21 - Investment Banking Analyst:

My bf is in the industry and it can sometimes be brutal and it can kill a relationship without a foundation but its about understanding and knowing the other person well. You just have to make sure that each of you understands what's going on and what is expected. And that you make the most of the time that is available.

So its keeping contact during the day, its calling when you can, its doing things for the other person. If I could I would grab his dry cleaning while doing mine or he would stop by my office area for a quick lunch.

Everything is made easier in my relationship because my bf is friends with my girlfriends and I'm friends with his guys. So he can knock out 2 stones by having me around with his guys. Or he can be around when I'm with my girls. It's hard but doable

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[in reply to Tony Snark"]

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[in reply to Tony Snark's dating tip]

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