Numerous times I've made it through numerous rounds of interviews to be shut out in the end. In the current process, I've had three phone interviews and they flew me in to meet the team one morning. Got a very positive phone call about three weeks ago saying the team thought I was the strongest candidate (but they had one more interview), heard they'd be making a decision this past week, and I haven't heard. I know it's not a for sure "no" at this point, but it got me thinking that they are likely working out something with one of the other candidates (i.e., I'm likely the fall-back option).
It got me thinking... is it normal to feel resentment towards an employer that shuts you down or thinks of you as their second or third option, whether you know that or not? I've heard that jobs aren't girlfriends, so "get over it," but I actually think I am the opposite. I don't want a committed girlfriend, so I don't care what one of my "partners" does, but I would want a job for several years, so I personally do feel some resentment towards employers that turn me away.
Curious how many of you are the same, how you deal with it, etc...
I feel like I am burning too many mental bridges.