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Feb 4, 2018

Drugs

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Feb 4, 2018

Joint?

Feb 4, 2018

Two bags of grass, seventy-five pellets of mescaline, five sheets of high powered blotter acid, a salt shaker half full of cocaine, and a whole galaxy of multi-colored uppers, downers, screamers, laughers... and also a quart of tequila, a quart of rum, a case of Budweiser, a pint of raw ether and two dozen amyls.

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Feb 5, 2018

I take Quaaludes 10-15 times a day for my back pain, Adderall to stay focused, Xanax to take the edge off, pot to mellow me out, cocaine to wake me back up again, and morphine.. well, because it's awesome.

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Feb 4, 2018

Buying a physical planner and writing down all your responsibilities for the semester will help a lot. When everything is written down where you can visualize it, you don't have to carry the constant anxiety of all of it in your head all day.

Other than that, run three miles a day, jerk off a lot and save one day every week or so to do your own thing. During the peak of recruitment senior year, every Sunday night I would make sure all my shit was done, then I would light a candle, put on an old Mob-Drama, smoke a joint and eat a pint of ice cream. Sometimes throw a half-xanax bar down the hatch too if I really needed it. It does wonders to reset your stress tolerance.

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Feb 4, 2018

Solid advice mate, thanks for sharing. I have my last exam (that in fact is the most difficult) before graduation next Monday, and my nightmare is to fail it.
At the same time I have to put through an internship, waiting for MSc's admission feedbacks as well. Horrible times!

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Feb 4, 2018

You'll do fine brotha, life always works itself out if you work hard. Best of luck!

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Feb 5, 2018

On top of writing everything down, toward the end of the semester when days got really tight I had to go as far as planning out my tasks by the hour to make sure I could get everything done. Give yourself a finite amount of time, get shit to 80% and move on to the next thing. If there's time later go back and refine things to get that extra 20% if you think it's important enough.

Definitely hit the gym 3 days a week to help with stress. Run, bike, or hit the heavy bag. Do as little or as much as you have time for, just don't let it be zero.

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Feb 4, 2018

Jerk off, sex, run and movies. If it persists I would echo what LReed wrote, half-xanax bar

The name of the game, moving the money from the client's pocket to your pocket

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Feb 4, 2018

Watch Powers of 10, from the 1970s, and realize how insignificant we all are

Imagine you don't get into whatever program you want, you fail your internship, you fail your exam, your friends all abandon you, your find out your girlfriend has been cheating on you since you met. So what, life goes on. You'll find a way. You're probably smarter than most of the kids around you, have some faith in yourself

I would't jerk off, that always made me feel worse, like a spineless loser, but I guess it works for some.

Xanax is great but don't make it a habit.... if you're going into banking life is not necessarily going to get less stressful, so take it from someone who managed stress poorly, you don't want to start bad habits.

Acid, mescaline, and friends can help, but they're time-consuming and may cause you to change you life direction and join a band or live in a cabin in the woods or become Steve Jobs

Also, I like meditation these days

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Feb 4, 2018
Real Marcus Halberstram:

Going through a bad moment for university, internship and so on, so Im pretty stressed out with constant anxiety.
How do you guys deal with this?

Anxiety appears when stress is not adequately taken care of by coping mechanisms.

Therefore, first identify your stressor. Then, figure out a coping mechanism to deal with it. The inability to deal with stress by coping mechanisms, specifically for anxiety, necessitates a certain type of benzodiazapine, depending on the acuteness of the anxiety. Xanax is the most acute type of benzo and deals with issues like panic attacks, but is largely overprescribed by recreational users getting a fake diagnosis. Valium is at the other end of the spectrum, and is akin to an approaching cloud of anxiety. The half life of valium is long as well.

But, chemical therapy (drugs) are really a crutch to get you through a hard time, then you come off of them at a later point to deal with the source of the issue. Chemical therapy (drugs) are good in a way if you keep repeating the same neurological path of anxiety, which leads your mind to believe that this is the only way to take. Think of your mind and neural pathways as a forest, where the worn paths are the ones you have taken in your mind and the more well trodden ones are the ones you are comfortable taking. They may be the incorrect paths, but you are used to them, and have to find different paths. You feel the maleffects of catastrophizing thoughts (thinking the worst thing will happen - happens to some people) and can't figure out a way to change.

I believe that only in severe cases are drugs a requirement for a lifetime in the class of benzodiazapines. I feel that behavioral therapy can target the source of stressors. You don't need a therapist or psychiatrist for this, but a psychiatrist would be the ultimate professional for behavioral therapy as they do both chemical/behavioral (drugs/talking) vs a therapist who just practices behavioral therapy (talking). But, our true allies in behavioral therapy in life are our friends, family and people we love and trust.

Often, when we meet with people we love and trust, chemicals are released in our mind (oxytocin). These chemicals very healthy for the mind, and at the same time you can just relax and talk to them (you don't even have to talk to them about your issues). But, even if you don't talk to them about your issues, the mind is repairing itself in a way. Proper nutritional health and exercise are very good as well.

Finally, we have THC. Oh, how I love thee. The refusal of the USA to bring this seed of the earth that God has called good to the free market pains my soul. I think THC can replace a lot of benzodiazapines.

In summary, target what is stressing you out and then use your coping mechanisms to resolve it and release your anxiety. Sometimes when I had a really busy schedule and had no time to work out (coping mechanism), I'd just go on the treadmill in my building and run 1 mile as fast as I could and then leave. I feel strongly that hitting max heartbeat or trying to get as close to it as you can (at least once a day) is a great tool for healthy living and the release of anxiety.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Feb 4, 2018

Running is proven to release dopamine into the bloodstream, raise your body's temperature, help you manage oxygen more efficiently (which is necessary for feeling more energized) and increases focus. It's the best natural stress manager.

I used to run whenever I needed a break between studying, working, and other parts of my life to get back on track. Do it for sustained periods such as 45 mins to 1 hour and cover 5-6 miles each outing. Just be careful running down hill, stretch, and loosen the hips to avoid putting too much impact on the knees. I got nasty injuries from it, but it could've been avoided for sure.

Also, jerking off or sex is also really good and relaxing lol. Something I personally like is a nice, warm, indulgent cup of coffee because of the stimulating boost, making you feel like you could run through walls. Plus, caffeine from coffee is proven to be good for the heart.

But, just spend time with friends for 1-2 hour in a day. You would need to be strong to pull away, sometimes when it's just about to get good. But, it can help you relax and know where your focus needs to be over a sustained 6-10 hour window, with hanging out acting as a reward.

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Feb 4, 2018
iBankedUp:

Running is proven to release dopamine into the bloodstream, raise your body's temperature, help you manage oxygen more efficiently (which is necessary for feeling more energized) and increases focus. It's the best natural stress manager.

I used to run whenever I needed a break between studying, working, and other parts of my life to get back on track. Do it for sustained periods such as 45 mins to 1 hour and cover 5-6 miles each outing. Just be careful running down hill, stretch, and loosen the hips to avoid putting too much impact on the knees. I got nasty injuries from it, but it could've been avoided for sure.

Yeah, running is great. I hate it sometimes, but it is great.

I started getting into long runs training for the 70.3 Augusta Tri a few years back. I was in Canada at the time taking long runs through the hills on the road for 10-12 miles once a week.

I will never forget the views, the sunrise, the crisp air, and my knees slowly giving out, week after week.

lol, damn.

My knees are fine now, but I just don't run long distances.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Feb 4, 2018
Isaiah_53_5:
iBankedUp:

Running is proven to release dopamine into the bloodstream, raise your body's temperature, help you manage oxygen more efficiently (which is necessary for feeling more energized) and increases focus. It's the best natural stress manager.

I used to run whenever I needed a break between studying, working, and other parts of my life to get back on track. Do it for sustained periods such as 45 mins to 1 hour and cover 5-6 miles each outing. Just be careful running down hill, stretch, and loosen the hips to avoid putting too much impact on the knees. I got nasty injuries from it, but it could've been avoided for sure.

Yeah, running is great. I hate it sometimes, but it is great.

I started getting into long runs training for the 70.3 Augusta Tri a few years back. I was in Canada at the time taking long runs through the hills in the winter on the road for 10-12 miles once a week.

I will never forget the views, the sunrise, the crisp air, and my knees slowly giving out, week after week.

lol, damn.

My knees are fine now, but I just don't run long distances.

Yeah, my knees are in much better shape now, but I too stopped running as much recently. I used to do 5-6 miles twice a week. It helps in the gym too, because it gives you better management of oxygen for heavier lifts, making you feel like stamina is a lot higher.

Ironically, the main reason I felt the need to stop though, was in order to squat haha. Couldn't do those heavy lifts with my knees going out. One time, I almost collapsed because my knees were so sore

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Feb 4, 2018

Engineering school was as stressful as it gets, especially considering I was a non-traditional student, married, and we had our first child a week before the start to my junior year in electrical engineering school.

I was still young back then, so I could still run like the wind, which I did. There were two avenues to relieve my anxiety in my 20s: exercise or Jack Daniels. The latter of the two cost a lot more money. Plus, I never got in a fight with my bride, or anyone else, because I went out and exercised. I never woke up after a night of exercise feeling like my eyeballs were on fire and my gut feeling like I'd swallowed battery acid. I never woke up after a night of exercising, wondering where my car was, or where all my money went. It was an excellent alternative.

Good luck. Find something that takes your mind off of what is bothering you. Preferably something that will allow you the opportunity to stay in shape. Good eating, exercise and enough sleep goes a long way towards staving off depression and anxiety.

Feb 4, 2018

Try to leave some time to do things that make you happy or that you enjoy. For example, in order to keep up with the constant stress of life, I surround myself with humor like watching funny things on YouTube. Sometimes, it's just the smallest thing that makes you happy and keeps you going.

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Feb 4, 2018

Recreational drugs can become a crutch if not careful.

Feb 4, 2018
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  • Reading Communist Manifesto
  • Harass someone online
  • Jerk off
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Mar 2, 2018

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Feb 5, 2018

Mad drugs and running.

Mar 2, 2018

rahulekbote, sorry about the lack of response. Maybe one of these topics will help:

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I hope those threads give you a bit more insight.

Feb 5, 2018

When I'm stressed out, I eat a lot. But on the weekend, I have to go out run or do shopping

Mar 2, 2018

I've experienced the same thing as you when it comes to running. Wakeup 30 minutes to an hour early depending on how long it takes you to run and shower and run before you start your day - in addition to getting this out of the way I always feel better for the rest of the day working out early. Since it seems like you enjoy working out you might try my strategy of taking pushup breaks between problems, every 5 problems/topics, or just whenever you're feeling unfocused. Gets the blood pumping and if you do this often you'll find yourself doing 200+ pushups a day easy. As far as wasting time, there's no one fix all - just remind yourself of your goals, and how hard you'll need to work, and take care of what you need to. I've told my roommates on multiple instances that I need to study, and not to let me talk to them, watch TV in the living room, etc. Once I even reversed the lock on my door and had them lock me in my room for 5 hours (although that may be extreme).

"We train like we do so that on our worst day we can still destroy them on their best day."

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Feb 5, 2018

I suffered major anxiety as a freshman as a result of excessive ecstasy taking at a rave, which led me to thinking I was having a heart attack lol. It was so bad I could early get out of bed to go to lectures and when I did, it felt like there was a huge weight on my chest, stomach pains and cloudy vision. I would strongly recommend staying away from pills, they don' tackle the root of the issue just, sweep the issue under carpet. I started doing a lot of exercise, began rationalising and actually asking myself wtf am I being like this for and developed a method of self control. It's still there in particular if I go on a heavy party bing like ski trips etc. however I developed a mechanism on control and push that shit aside it's about developing metal resilience. also actually a big thing for me was caffeine, it's worth taking a break from coffee as that can be a major root of anxiety. I stayed away from it for a year until I got stuff under control and can now do it. Also I didn't do ecstasy for like 3 years until was at some rave in Brooklyn and stayed away from weed as that shit makes me so paranoid.

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Mar 2, 2018

Serves the bastard right for spreading all of that non-GMO bullshit.

One would think that blow would not be an effective chemical stress mediation effort anyhow. That's heading in the wrong direction. Alcohol would have been a better plan from the beginning on multiple levels.

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Mar 2, 2018

I'm long CMG and I'm about ready to join this guy

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Mar 2, 2018

Just stick to booze.

Mar 2, 2018

Just stick to Bombay Sapphire,

Mar 2, 2018

Just $3,000 since JANUARY?

The guy should be a priest!

Mar 2, 2018

It was more like $3,000 per delivery

It ain't what you know, it's who you know

Mar 2, 2018

How do YOU deal with stress?

Mar 2, 2018

Good question. Some things are meant to stay private..

It ain't what you know, it's who you know

Mar 2, 2018

i kill hookers. not the classy ones though. truck stop hookers.

Mar 2, 2018

If weed will be legal soon and alcohol is legal why can't this be slippery sloped already to be no big deal

Mar 2, 2018

The best way to win the war on drugs? End the war on drugs. Can't believe we waste tax payer dollars investigating/ prosecuting shit like this. All while allowiing cartels their revenue stream and the power that comes with it. Legalize everything.

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Mar 2, 2018

Cue dozens of fedora-wearing wso nerds flocking to the user whose moniker is "alibabes"

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Mar 2, 2018

So Ali is for Muhammad Ali (my favorite boxer)...

It ain't what you know, it's who you know

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Mar 2, 2018

Give the dood a break, turning a profit from soggy burritos sprinkled with fecal bateria is going to take a bit of creativity for sure

Mar 2, 2018
Going Concern:

Give the dood a break, turning a profit from soggy burritos sprinkled with fecal bateria is going to take a bit of creativity for sure

I usually go with the bowl (double meat - chicken & steak) cuz it is always more food. Burrito tortilla or taco tortilla on the side of course.

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Mar 2, 2018

He should have expensed it

Feb 5, 2018

This might require a heightened sense of self awareness but try to genuinely convince yourself that nothing truly matters. For that brief moment, your mind will be put into perspective and you will notice your present issues are really very meaningless in the greater scope of life.

"Life goes on"

Carl Van Loon
Van Loon & Associates

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Mar 2, 2018

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Feb 5, 2018

Look at the problem and see how its going to affect you in 5 days, 5 weeks, 5 months. Most of the time it doesn't really matter.

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Mar 2, 2018

During long periods of studying you get to the point where your mind gets groggy and you find yourself procrastinating and drifting off doing whatever else. When I was in school I always made a point to go to the gym every single day during finals week whenever this happened. It didn't matter if it was morning/afternoon/night--I would go work out, shower, grab some food then get back to hitting the books. Felt amazingly refreshed once I got back. I did this every semester for four years and it worked like a charm.

That being said, I would do ANYTHING to go back to the days when finals week was the biggest worry in my life.

Mar 2, 2018

At my school, we have a midnight streaking through the libraries on the first day/night of exams. Crowds actually gather in the library to watch. I guess this is stress release for both parties.

Mar 2, 2018

big fan of working out when stressed. i never felt like i had enough time to get in a full 1 or 1.5 hour workout though, so I did a lot of circuit training for 30-45 minutes. Gets your heart rate up, builds muscle, and requires a lot of explosive energy (depending on what exercises you do) that I always found helped get a lot of the pent-up energy and frustration out that came with sitting in a chair for 13 hours straight staring a textbook.

also, if you're musically inclined, pick up a guitar or something and just take a 10 minute break. you can "reward" yourself for reading x number of chapters with 15 minutes of music or something. always helped me.

Mar 2, 2018

At the end of every quarter (when targets are due) my desk goes apeshit. No joke. The only thing I do to combat the stress and long hours is to hit the gym after work. Luckily my company has an amazing gym that open till really late (thank you IBD guys).

Mar 2, 2018

Taking long walks around campus while listening to awesome music. Helps destress. On the other hand, caffeine intake increases as the days get closer to finals.

"Our biggest regrets are not for the things we have done but for the things we haven't done"

Mar 2, 2018

Always take short breaks when you've been studying for a couple hours straight. Decreasing returns start happening real quick if you don't do that.

Metal. Music. Life. www.headofmetal.com

Feb 5, 2018

Exercise, nutrition, Jiu Jitsu, constantly improving myself in some way, good sleep, not drinking, sauna, cold exposure

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

https://arthuxtable.com/

Feb 17, 2018

Probably the best, albeit shortest list.

Feb 5, 2018

Self loathing and anger usually works for me.

Feb 6, 2018

Try out some meditation.

Headspace (mobile app) is a good place to start. You can do 10 free 10 min sessions. General idea is to clear your mind or "create headspace." In doing so you're acknowledging your stresses and anxieties, but not succumbing to them.

I don't think I am stressed and I've been using it. It's great

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Feb 17, 2018

And if you don't want to spend on Headspace, Sam Harris gives you 2 free meditations based of Vipassana

Feb 15, 2018
rahulekbote:

Recently dealt with office stress and anxiety but what helped me with this is travelling and meditation, it feels much better after this and being able to concentrate on work.
on similar note read this article about how to reduce office stress, you will like it too.
Read Here: 8 Great Ways To Deal With Office Stress

+1 regarding the meditation.

Also understanding my place in the universe and putting my issues in perspective.

Feb 7, 2018

Always keep the macro perspective in mind. Sure, things might suck on a micro-level, i.e. today, this week, this month or even this year. But if you always keep the big picture in mind, and you have something to work towards, then issues on the micro-level will affect you less. So much of the stuff around us, happening right now, is just noise and doesn't matter. Think 1-2-3 years back. How much of the stuff you worried about then, actually materialized and had a real impact on your life? My guess, not much.

Keep grinding and stay positive. Good times will come.

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Feb 7, 2018

i would recommend no drugs or porn unlike most of the other people on here

you need to get really mad and then kick the shit out of someone or take MMA classes or something similar to that and then you won't be anxious anymore and it really does relieve stress

Feb 7, 2018

blow a huge load

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Feb 7, 2018

Echo what was said about having everything that stresses you out written down in some form or fashion. I have everything that has to happen in my life down to family phone calls written down in my padfolio. Your stress and anxiety levels will be chopped in half. Now you stress on everything that's on that list and has been on that list for too long, but that's a much better problem to have.

My general stress and anxiety is compounded by my obsessive thought patterns. To break these thought patterns and to hit a daily "reset" button, I try to remain in marathon-shape year round by running 3, 5, 7, and 9 mile runs. Working my body to the point of physical exhaustion is my zen. I'm starting to work in Yoga twice a week now to make sure I balance the beating the shit out of myself with the healing and nurturing.

Drinking is only a temporary fix. You're just buying time, that same stress and anxiety will be there when you sober up.

The grass is interesting. Sometimes in life, I don't have the answer to the problem. My obsessive nature tries to solve that same problem thousands of times over with the same, rote way of thinking. Almost every time I "break the glass" and indulge, I am released from the confines of the framework I was using to think about how to solve the problem and I'm flooded with different types of thoughts that were almost trapped in my head somewhere. The come down leaves me with the peace and solace of having action items that I didn't have before on how to solve issues. Great stuff, but I only break the glass when necessary.

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Feb 8, 2018

Read Seneca, , Musonius Rufus, Epictetus and Marcus Aurelius.

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Feb 8, 2018

I do really appreciate your help guys, your thoughts and past experience. Really thankful to have found this forum with such amazing ppl!

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Feb 9, 2018

This is going to sound remarkably simple and almost stupid... but it works. You want to approach your challenges the same way peak performers you will see in the Olympic competitions do. (And I've worked with Olympic contenders and finance people so keep reading...) First, you need to schedule breathers- time to decompress your nervous system that is jacked up by the normal stress chemicals released to deal with competition. While you want that chemical drip to be at the right force to perform at peak levels, we can only walk around at peak levels of this chemical drip before we burn out. Also, when we let our chemistry get to a tsunami force, our performance plummets. It looks like an upside down U. Too little activation of your nervous system and your head isn't focused and in the game. Too much and you are ramped up to play not-to-lose and ramped too tight for your frontal brain to even be in the game.
You want to keep you frontal brain in the game. The most recently evolved brain region, the frontal area, is required for peak performance. In the face of high levels of stress chemicals released when we are in rapid heartbeat stress mode, this part of the brain shuts down for business. This ramps us up further- we call it anxiety or stress- and it becomes a vicious cycle. So- the answer is this- breathing in through the nose has been actually proven to keep the frontal brain alight. Clenching your hands into fists, breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth a few times will ratchet down your nervous system and jumpstart your frontal brain. Taking a breather- a break- even if it's a 3 minute walk where you breathe in through your nose will provide relief. And, just as Olympians do, schedule in breaks to let your nervous system decompress and your frontal brain rejoin the game.

"An assist is as good as a goal." - Wayne Gretzky

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Feb 10, 2018

Truly inspiring. Thank you so much Doc!

Feb 9, 2018

xanax, sex

Feb 9, 2018

Download the Calm App on your smartphone and mediate for 15 mins a day
or as frequently as possible.

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Feb 9, 2018

SO I get it I have been stressed with school before back at Uni as well. HOWEVER, and this is only for you to decide: if school stresses you this much to the point of "constant anxiety" maybe consider a less stressful job than banking/pe/whatever because school stress is a menial fraction of the mental fatigue caused by or compared to work stress. That is not to be discouraging. I truly believe anyone can change their perception if they really want to. Perception and attitude are the name of the game. BUT if you don't feel confident that you can do that then consider a different professional path. LIfe is too short to go into a job that will provide you nothing but ulcers and headaches. I saw many ppl in IB who came from good schools and felt, "well it makes sense on paper to do this" but HATED it. As a result, their physical and mental health declined, they made the work environment worse, and their careers maybe would have been better off doing something slightly less intensive. Again, this is not meant to be discouraging. but rather to keep it real. I completely disagree with the comments about substances. It is, in my opinion, a great thing to utilize various substances to enhance certain feelings but being reliant on them as "gear shifters" WILL NOT WORK. There's too much evidence out there for me to waste any more time defending that point. SO in summary take a good long hard in the mirror, realize it is just school and use the "stress" as fuel to commit to massive action in a propulsion to change your overall perception or use college as a great lesson that maybe you have a different stress ceiling and that maybe considering different avenues is the way to go. Either way, swallow the ego and decide this for yourself. This is an anonymous site, I have no idea what you're going through, nor do you for me. I am simply stating what I think would have been nice to hear a while back and or what I think many of my colleagues would have benefited from. Also, and no offense, school isn't easy but it's probably the easiest segment of your life you'll have for a very long time. Try chatting with an MD with a wife and kids, and then notice how calm they are relative to maybe the average person logging 90hrs whilst still being a good dad, husband, etc. It's a different breed in this industry, for better or worse. Either change the perception or change your course. And also, try focusing on the good not the bad for the day. Hey at least you are in college. Hey at least you have an internship. Hey at least you (hopefully) have your health. Enjoy the good times while they're here mate!

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Feb 9, 2018

Definitely go see a psychiatrist. It is not sustainable to live with stress and anxiety. Maybe try finding a psychiatrist that offers counseling as well. Drugs definitely help. (Prozac is a good example.)

Feb 9, 2018

Sleep, meditation, and writing. Sleep is self-explanatory. I think lots of people, especially in finance, tend to write off meditation... until they realize that Ray Dalio attributes much of his success to it. Transcendental Meditation (TM) is particularly useful. If you have the time and cash to go through the course, I'd recommend it. I did so after finishing a Summer Analyst stint and am super grateful for doing it. Writing is huge for reasons similar to keeping a planner. Getting all of the thoughts raddling in your head on paper goes a long way, and generally lessens the "noise" if not silencing it completely. Best of luck.

Feb 9, 2018

Deadlift

Feb 9, 2018

Somebody I admire once said that as a practice of gratitude and perspective they remind themselves on a daily basis that this is their pre bowel cancer years.

At first I thought it was odd, if not idiotic. But like most good advice its simplicity masks a submerged but weighty truth; in the trenches of every day life its hard to appreciate and acknowledge all that is good until it's been abruptly seized or jeopardized.

Realize it's impossible to know what life has in store, and that someday you might look back on these days fondly. Or in other words, don't wait for bowel cancer to realize that all those years prior, despite the stressors, uncertainty, and work-load were pretty damn good.

Feb 9, 2018

First, study nootropics. They are neutraceuticals for cognitive enhancement and anxiety. I would try L-Theanine in the morning, This produces GABA, a very well studied anxiolytic that has little to no side effects. Also try Alpha-GPC to start. Then start stacking. I think non-flush niacin helps, and also magnesium-taurate. There are several magnesiums, but this one has the amino acid with it, and is what i take for stress. L-theanine is also an amino acid. These work pretty good. Study which combinations, dosages, times of day are good for you. Some nootropics help sleep. These are way better than benzos, and they are not addicting, and the don't build tolerances, no withdrawals. Study the literature and science.

Feb 10, 2018

Interesting point. I've been using nootropil in order to obtain better study's performance. It works for anxiety as well?

Feb 9, 2018

Martial arts - I do muay thai and after stressful days at work it does wonders. hard to add something else to your schedule I realize but even one hour a week on a Saturday will feel pretty good. I was nervous until I jumped in, everyone was cool, and now im 6 - 7 months in and wish I had done it sooner

Feb 9, 2018

Agree with the meditation, writing, and exercise points above. Also, being comfortable with the worse case scenario has done wonders for me. If I don't accomplish a certain goal, I know I'll be alright. Look at your past body of work and where you're at today as a source of confidence. You've had to be smart, resilient, and resourceful to get where you're at, no reason for any of that to change through school/work etc.

Feb 9, 2018

It's fucking hard. Unbelievably hard at points. I know what you're going through. Take comfort in the fact a lot of people are going through the same situation.

Some people like escapism, like drugs or videogames. I think that isn't very healthy as the problem's still there and if you do solve it, you most likely will still turn to your escape method afterwards.

Something that will make you feel great are friends and family. Talking to somebody over the phone or in person will make you feel a lot better. Those sort of relationships are the things that will make you happy above all else. I don't think I would have got through the difficult moments in my life without my friends and family.

Exercise and meditation are great, healthy hobbies to consider. I find they make me feel great.

I will recommend if you're at a university to consider the university counseling service. It's usually free and or if it's not, cheap. You've got the time now before you start work and it's confidential.

You should feel proud of yourself for sharing your problems. There's a lot of people out there that carry this weight without sharing it while it eats away at them. You're on a good track already, I'm sure you will do well.

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Feb 10, 2018

Mate, is from ppl like you that we are able to reach an equilibrium.
Thanks for sharing, thanks for your time and your advices. I will follow your words word by word.
Wish you all the best

Feb 9, 2018

Talk to a doctor or a mental health professional.

Feb 10, 2018

I've always viewed stress as an indicator of uncertainty. For example, if you knew you'd ace the exam, you'd have no stress related to the exam. If you were sure you'd get the internship, you'd have no stress related to the interview...and so on. The existence of stress is a physical manifestation of the uncertainty. To reduce stress in a situation, look for ways to reduce uncertainty. This will work to a certain extent but some uncertainty will always remain since you can never know for certain how events will play out. Ultimately, the realization that the full implications of any event can never be known and that your perceptions of an outcome are purely a figment of your imagination and not consistent with reality will result in a certain level of indifference and detachment to outcomes. When that happens, stress naturally declines.

For example, you may believe that if you don't get a particular internship your career will be derailed or somehow negatively impacted. The uncertainty of whether you'll get the internship coupled with this view of the significance of the internship becomes very stressful. But your view of the internship is an illusion. Maybe you get a different internship that is less desirable to you now but it results in a different career path that is better for you in the long run. In real time you simply don't know the full implications either outcome.

Warren Buffet was really bummed out that he didn't get into Harvard. That was his first choice. Instead he went to Columbia. At Columbia he met and studied under Ben Graham, and it was this experience that shaped his investment philosophy. I'm sure Buffet would have been very successful had he gone to Harvard but I doubt he'd be the Warren Buffet we know if he wasn't influenced by Ben Graham while at Columbia. The point is that the reason Buffet was disappointed by not getting into Harvard is because he had a scenario in his mind where going to Harvard was better for him than Columbia. This mental scenario is an illusion and the tendency is to be over confident in its accuracy.

Be nimble...roll with the punches and don't let your mind mess with you. You will never know the full impact of any event. Put forth your best effort and if things don't go your way just remember you don't know how this is all going to end, and maybe plan B is the best thing that could ever happen to you.

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Feb 10, 2018

Such a story! Very thank you mate, do appreciate your words. All the best

Feb 10, 2018

Realize that what you are going through is a temporary circumstance and you will make it! Think about how you will reward yourself when the internship is over.

If it's an internship at a bank, realize that jobs at banks are designed to suck and by the time this internship is over you will have the knowledge to know whether you want to continue that lifestyle or find a new path with less stress. What you're going through is a temporary rite of passage that you will someday reflect on how you made it through and became stronger as a result.

Feb 10, 2018

I deal with anxiety quite often, and no matter how much you try you cannot really plan for an anxiety attack. As drugs do help at times it sometimes makes it worse

as @LReed said up top try planning out your days. Think of meal prep but for task mgmt. Sit down every sunday and plan out your week. What test/ homework needs to be done, what needs to be done for work, appt. Throw it all in a calendar ( fantastical) is what I use. The majority is done and out the way and you can make slight changes throughout the week.

Exercise- weather physical or mental. Run is good but not for all people some use weights. I would also try to meditate. <-- Hands down the most beneficial thing you can do

other than that having time for friends and family help, taking a walk or hike in nature helps separate you from the constant grind. I find this very helpful. Listening to music. and burning sage ( sounds weird but the aromatherapy of sage has very calming affects) i do this at night before I go to bed because I have had it stick to clothes on occasion and people thought it was bud lol

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