What is your worst tendency?
Most of us try to present ourselves in the best light, what would happen if the person who sits opposite of your asks for your worst qualities? Would you lie to them and BS them with the 'I work too hard' stuff or would you be honest
For example, I would consider myself to have a dictatorial tendency to disregard the well-being of both myself and people who work for/with me just to get the job done, and be a complete asshole about it. Think of the type of boss who would work until 2 am and send you emails asking for material on your birthday.
What are your worst tendencies and do you embrace for ashame of them
Why?
He's highly levered.... those bills gotta get paid man!
Lol I've done some psychoanalysis on myself, I'm extremely capable with a lot of potential, but I get in my own way too much and have self-destructive tendencies (a lot).
If I could fix that shit I'd be a CEO.
pretty much yeah
Adderal = Apathy hahaha
I don't know what you folks are lacing your Adderall with but I never found it to be motivating. It's a focus tool - it doesn't make you want to do the work.
Same. If anyone has dealt with this and gotten past it, your thoughts would be much appreciated
My worst tendency is I don't suffer fools. If I think you're a fool you'll probably pick that up if you're around me enough.
I hear you
Not the best tendency to have around clients
heh alright fun exercise. I'll play. These are only the ones I recognize. I have a lot more. Kind of tricky because there are positive aspects to a lot of these.
-Very quick to come to a conclusion about who or what type of person someone is and dismiss them. I loathe weakness. I don't care the reason for it. I heard someone say the other day that some people loathe visible weakness because they know they have it within themselves and they try so hard every day to quelch that self. Seeing it in someone else reminds them that they have it within themselves too. And you resent that person for not fighting it. So the proactive path is compassion, not loathing. I need to work on practicing compassion. I try to maintain a relationship until I'm confident I've extracted all value I can out of them. Being in real estate, this means I have to play nice with pretty much everyone because I can extract value from pretty much anyone in real estate. I'll manage your rentals, buy your house, sell your house, lease your condo, find you a condo, get you invested in rehabs, collect a referral fee if you don't like me. Whatever. Lot of being nice to idiots and doing motivational interviewing to gain their trust. This is probably more transparent than I'd like it to be, but it works often enough for me to have no incentive to change. I'd argue there's great value in being able to make quick judgement as well. I think mine are usually correct. I love humanity, but almost all individual humans irritate me. I can't stand lazy people, entitled people, or idiots. I also lean heavily toward the belief that free will is an illusion. So I loathe these people while feeling compassion for them having no control over being loathsome beings. I hold a lot of contradicting views. Mushrooms made me comfortable with that though. We all do.
-I have immense difficulty with moderation in anything. I'll work nonstop for two weeks straight on multiple projects/fields, get overwhelmed, and spend 2-3 days drunk and high eating garbage. I'll fast for 10 days and then drink a bottle of gin and eat 6 burritos. I'll work out very hard every day, push through warning signals from my body, get injured, work out through that, get injured again, work out more as if I can punish myself enough to make the injury go away. Finally get injured badly enough where it interfered with my daily life enough for me to have to take months off. Be extremely frugal for a long time even though I don't have to be, then order everyone I know a flatscreen at 2am one random night.
-This one has no upside, but I have atrocious spacial reasoning. I can't get anywhere without a GPS. Been this way all my life. A lot of people thin they can relate, like oh yeah I have a hard time in a new city too. No dude. I used a GPS to get from my house to my high school job, which was 4 miles away and involved like 3 turns, for over a year. I have two backup GPSs in the car because I will literally have to call the police if my phone dies.
-Tying in with the impulsivity thing, I have a really hard time controlling negative moods and emotions. You'd never think it because I don't show any negative emotions really. I'm either really chill, annoyingly exuberant and energetic, or stoic. When I'm stoic, I feel like shit inside. Melancholy is tolerable. Extreme irritability, discontent, and fury are very bothersome things to feel - especially when they're not proportionate to a stimuli.
-Very good at learning from my own mistakes. Absolutely unable to learn from those of others. I read a lot and shit like that on a variety of topics, so I know of a lot of pitfalls people make - financial, relationship, physical, psychological. I still keep doing the wrong shit until I make the mistake myself. I had to break my neck to stop riding motorcycles. I knew they were fucking death traps the day I got my first one. I had to catch 4 felonies to stop selling drugs. Had to get expelled from college to stop drinking in class. Had to lose an internship to stop drinking at work. Took an overdose with collapsed lungs and pneumonia to quit doing heroin. I'm really trying my best to be safe these days because I know my nature is reckless. I drive as safely as I can in the safest car I could find. I try to have as clean a diet and lifestyle as possible. I do my best to be super nice and courteous to everyone I encounter. I don't do hard drugs anymore. Because there will inevitably be some profoundly detrimental shit I do to myself. So I'm trying to balance it out. The last thing I do that I know is stupid but that I haven't gotten a big lesson in yet is walking through rehabs and demo'd houses. I've fallen collapsed through a shitty front deck through two flights before, but landed on my side in the snow. Didn't have to go to the hospital for that one. Think I might have had a fractured rib. I walk through shit like (pictured) weekly. I'm really careful, but a lot of these houses are 100+ years old and straight up cut in half toward the end of the demo with joists missing and shit. I think once my wife is confirmed pregnant, I really need to stop. It's not worth the money. They can find some other young guy for this shit. I got other shit to do.
-I'm very quick to throw my hands up and say, 'fuck it all, burn it to the ground. Start anew.' Throughout my life, I've followed a pattern in building up a situation, proficiency in something, relationship, business venture, etc. And when I feel like the pace at which I'm learning and being challenged has slowed and it's no longer interesting, but annoyances associated with that activity persist, I lose all patience for said annoyances. I invariably self-sabotage, deal with the consequences, and start fresh either in a totally different, or sometimes in the same, arena. Thankfully, I've been on about a 3 to 4 -year streak of maintaining gains for the most part and not burning everything down. I have fantasies about throwing it all to the wind in spectacular fashion and starting new lives constantly though. I've started hanging up the phone instead of telling people to pound sand and it's been going well. That's a small improvement. I just like to see results though - drastic changes. Up or down doesn't matter a ton. Once you get far enough up, you start to think, 'Gee, I could really cause a lot of damage here if I wanted to. It would be spectacular.'
Wish I could SB this twice if only for the total honesty and rare truthful self-reflection.
I notice this in myself as well. This is a real problem of mine because I get visibly upset, frustrated, and sometimes angry with people who display weakness and say, "I can't". I noticed that it is because I share a lot of the same self doubt and it is a daily struggle to be super productive throughout the day. Fighting to not give in is a conscious effort, so I project that out and get mad at people who don't fight it.
SB'ed because (like noted above), you really were brutally honest.
Yeah, when I do that, I shit all over them in my self-talk. Then I'm like, 'Who the fuck are you to tell them how to live? Their goals are different than yours. Maybe they don't have goals. This life has no rules, you self-important fuckwad.' 'OK all goo points Goldie, but this shitstick is in your way - interfering with your progress. Who are they to hinder your shit by even a millimeter?' 'Goldie, you fucking dipshit. You self-entitled cunt. You think the world owes you zero resistance? Step over the cracks. Don't blame the crack 'cause you tripped over it like a clumsy dumbass.' And so on and so forth..
GoldenCinderblock Will you be my mentor?
you'd end up dead
On your spacial reasoning. How early did you start experimenting with psychedelics? Ive a fair amount of psychonauting and I think this affected my spacial reasoning. I have the exactly same problem as you. Get lost if I haven't driven the path 50 times. It fucking sucks
It's always been like that. On drugs, I got into them early. I probably had 200 DXM trips by the time I was 17. It's a common issue for bipolar people to have poor spatial reasoning for some reason.
You fucking pussy. That's how you want to live your life?
I lose respect for leadership very easily if I see them making careless mistakes. I don't expect perfection from everyone and my work product is rarely perfect as well, but I hold my superiors to a higher, maybe unrealistic standard and so if I see basic stuff like typos in a filename being sent up the chain or emails going out with blatantly wrong info I could have easily vetted for them, I get frustrated and am less likely to engage with them going forward. It's even worse if we're having a P&P working session and they make a suggestion that any analyst would know to be ignorant or illogical. At that point I more or less write them off.
Obviously this is a self-sabotaging approach because if you don't get leadership exposure, even with bad leaders, then you don't become leadership but day-to-day I just lose so much motivation if I'm around to see this stuff going down.
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Very quick to judge...usually I end up being right but still scary sometimes how quickly my initial opinions form.
My worst is probably that I'm not particularly empathetic. I know people around me go through rough times, but I have a hard time genuinely caring about their problems. I know what questions I'm supposed to ask and what they want to hear, but I'd prefer if they went to someone else for comfort.
My worst is probably that I'm too straightforward, sometimes it is better to remain silent or lie than actually telling people the truth. Not everyone understands and accepts the truth.
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Holy cow, that's some tough shit you have to suffer. It is good that you gave up your old life and saved yourself.
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