How do I get a girlfriend?
I'm a very career oriented college student, and spend most of my time studying in college to get into law school for corporate law. I'm nearly done with my first year of college looking to finish with a 4.00, have interned at a fortune 500 company, and have an offer for a fortune 50 internship this coming summer. What I don't have going for me are personal relationships.
Plato once said that beauty is a reflection of the soul. So I suppose I should be looking for a girlfriend who has similar interests. It's been difficult so far though, since I go to a small rural school with no professionally-minded people. What's worse is that the odds are in my favor at my school, with 60% females and 40% males and I haven't found someone with chemistry.
I'm not looking to shoehorn a relationship with anyone, but I suppose I'm asking where is a good place to look? Where would Wallstreet types look?
lol
You asking this to WSO is like an alcoholic going to a bar and asking how to quit drinking
Joining a fraternity helped me improve my social skills during college.
Be careful what you wish for...
This will be detailed in the next WSO Technical guide, be patient.
Maybe you should quit quoting Plato as a freshman in college? That can't be helping...
Here's an idea: the next time you see a girl that you find interesting (pretty, smart, funny, whatever), go up to her, say hi, remember to smile, and ask her a question.
"Hey you are one of the few women in this class, why do you think more girls don't sign up?" "Hey there is an awfully long ling for this restaurant, what makes it so good?" "I thought that question you asked was very insightful, what made you come to that conclusion?" "Excuse me, I couldn't help but overhear you like XXXX - I'm a big fan also, have you seen them in concert?"
You'll know very quickly if the conversation is going anywhere.
Remember that girls are people; talking to/picking them up/dating them isn't rocket science and anyone who tells you different is an idiot.
Given where you go to school, you may not find people that you click with. I thought I was lost until I moved out of the blue-collar ghetto I grew up in, and only fully came into my own among people like me after I started working in the front office.
But, you should still give it a go while in school, and the way I'd do it is by challenging yourself to get outside of your comfort zone in social interactions. Just set an amount of time every week to be social and go to as many events/places in town as you can and try to understand what the people there are about, without judging. You can't just stick to the things you're into, because you will never know that there is a whole wide world out there, and that people of great character you would love to have in your life are present in pockets of all walks of life.
Also, if you just don't know how to interact, watch some pick-up artist seminars on Youtube. Try to avoid lectures by douchebags and find material by guys that seem like genuinely likable reformed geeks. They may stress getting laid as the ultimate goal, but what I learned from these videos also made me a better professional who's a keen observer of body language and way better at small talk.
haha
Binge watch Californication and start acting like Hank Moody. Just go up to girls and start talking to them without giving a shit and keep in mind that wittiness is key. Also, cut the plato shit.
"Plato once said that beauty is a reflection of the soul"
Sounds like the beginning of an SAT essay.
Get out there and explore. You're bound to gel with someone.
I think you're probably limiting yourself too much in looking for other career-minded people.. Just talk to girls and find someone you like, don't be all too worried of whether or not the girl is business-focused.
Plato also liked sex with youngs boys.
In fact, "Platonic love" originally referred to a situation where an older man has a relationship with a boy which appears to rest on a foundation of buggery, but in fact involves no buggery at all. More of the divine Eros, not so much of the more base, corporeal Eros.
Which is not to say Plato didn't bugger young boys. He only buggered some young boys.
Others he just told stories about slaves in caves, invisible men and that sort of stuff.
This was standard behaviour for the time. In classical times, the full saying was "When in Rome, do as the Romans. When in Greece, grab an ephebe and pack fudge."
In short, if you're quoting Plato, the ladies may think that you are a pederast.
You should see if you can get laid a few times before you "shoehorn" this relationship.
How Tiger are your parents btw?
You should always have two "elevator pitches".. one for employers and one for the girls. Practice on both and you'll be rich sleeping next to a model.. or two :)
what kinda model: DCF or LBO?
Accounting model, on a mac
Haha bro you are a genius for this!
http://www.amazon.com/Panther-1-7-oz-Cologne-Spray-Growl/dp/B001LNG4YG
The thing I love about high school chicks: the older I get, they stay the same age.
To quote GSelevator: "if you want a friend, get a dog, if you want a friend with benefits, date a PR chick".
In my humble opinion, finding a girlfriend at this particular stage in your life may be quite difficult. College girls have diverse backgrounds, interests and characteristics. Look at it as a double-edged sword, you may find one that is a perfect fit while having to deal with others that are completely out of your "requirements". For your particular case, it might even come as a heavy liability if you are focused on college that much.
Regardless, if you wanna just FIND women for the thrill and experience, simply go for it. There is no secret formula.
Keep yourself clean, work out on your body, ALWAYS maintain a good posture (physically and spiritually, you gotta present that 'Alpha' aura) and treat the lady well; this last one is arguably the most important. By "treat well" I mean, be gentle, polite, show her that you are interested, be able to intrigue her, ask questions that can be both ice breakers and questions that make her stop and think. Select the girl that you're interested in, approach her gently, ask a few questions. If she's good in progressing with the conversation, go on with it. If she gives short answers with no interests on your side, say: "Alright, it was great meeting you! :)" and try again some other time. There is no shame in that. I particularly have had cases where women were enthusiastic to keep talking to me and other cases where they just gave me "yes/no" answers and a look that clearly stated "please, f*%$ off"
Take it easy, remember what happens, learn from your mistakes. Don't be afraid to try, don't be hesitant to approach. Remember that all of your friends today were once strangers, the next girl that you talk to could potentially be your wife. Life is that crazy. Don't waste time on it
Good luck!
"Gentle?" "Treat well?" "Polite?" Fuck that. It's college. Be alpha. Take a 2 story beer bong without flinching or a 6' bong hit without coughing, rip your shirt off and yell "who's slobbing this knob tonight bitches!?!?"
Dingdon08,
Frankly that is a valuable strategy, but for the short-term period of fun only. I just don't see how he would be finding a girlfriend with that specific approach (I might be wrong, just saying from what I saw through experience).
And what I meant by being polite is: in case you encounter a girl outside of a party, being able to give off a first good impression is key! If you're able to seduce a girl sober, you will be able to do it while she is drunk, however the vice-versa might not be true in all cases.
How to get a girlfriend in colllege: Meet some drunk whore at a party, go home with her and fuck. Then hit her up on the weekends to see what she's up to then you bang again. Then you guys start to hang out on weekday nights. Then you get lunch together in between class. Then you start to get dinner together... you see where I'm going with this?
Why are you going to a small rural school? It doesn't seem aligned with your personality nor career goals....perhaps consider a transfer.
Why do you "need" a girlfriend? What the hell does that even mean to you? Why are you basing the value of your life on whether or not you get to have sex exclusively with someone for a short period of time?
Astonished at how far some people get who think like this.
Yeah really the key is just to party with them and things will just happen, and forget Pua stuff it'll just get you over thinking everything ...talk to everybody and don't care
In any case, using the "yolo" approach might be great to give you confidence and experience for a start.
"Having a girlfriend in college is like packing your lunch and bringing it to an all you can eat buffet." LOL
That comparison was something else. +1
As for the OP, I guess this settles it for you my friend, good luck on whatever choice you make.
Tinder
Don't go to law school. No girl wants to eat that $200,000+ in debt for a career with dramatically declining opportunities.
Don't quote Plato.
Don't think you're "above your school." You're obviously not, since you go there.
Don't think "where would Wall Street types look" for a girlfriend.
Instead...
Go to parties
Drink alcohol
Have sex
Stop being a complete tool
Seeing some really substandard 'advice' here. Some of this 'advice' would probably get you something other than a girlfriend; something that you'll probably regret...
After I graduate with my MS and land a job, I think I might actually take the plunge and get on Christian Mingle (srs)
Get in good shape Do interesting things Don't have shit social skills.
Christ man. Sit back and have a beer. And then have another. And another. And keep having beers until you feel confident enough to talk to a girl.
You being on this site is the most telling reason lol
Go to Whole Foods in the daytime on a Saturday or Sunday .... always good talent
Why are you posting on such an old thread? WHAT THE FU..
16 Commandments for Getting a Girl (Originally Posted: 04/16/2013)
My issue with these types of posts isn't the content, it's the presentation. I hate the PUA shit not because they're wrong (a lot of the time they aren't), but because they sound like douchebags. I'm breaking these points down to give you a different way of looking at them.
Sort of. If you really love a girl and you've been in a decently consistent relationship for more than 3 months, you can get away with saying it first if you really mean it. Don't include casual sex/fuck buddy-type periods in calculating those 3 months.
This more applies to guys that say it after 5 dates. It's not necessarily the challenge of capturing interest, it's showing that you're putting thought into what you want. You don't know somebody after you've gone out a few times. Hell, you don't really know them that well until you've spent 1+ years with them. But after about 3 months you should have a solid idea of who they are, so it's okay to make that move without looking like a pussy.
You don't have to make her jealous, you just have to show you're not so bitch-whipped that you're afraid to talk to other girls. Also, it's good to keep in minding that joking/messing around with guy friends is flirting when engaged in with female friends.
True and false. They do want to be "The One", but they also want you to be the center of your own existence. If your life revolves around her and what she wants, what do you bring to the relationship? Nothing, you're a glorified slave. You have nothing new and exciting to share with her. You become boring.
Again, false and true. It's not about playing by another person's rules, it's about making sure you get what you want out of the relationship too. If she's pushing you to be in a committed relationship and you don't want to be, then don't. There will be places you lay down the law, places she does, and places you agree. Don't fight her on everything just because you want to hold the upper hand. Of course, if the two of you agree on everything, make sure she's not the one always bring up the boundaries or "rules". That can easily turn into her thinking you lack a spine.
Obnoxious, though the general idea is right. You don't want to be texting her everything and anything that you're thinking. Would you do that with your best friend? No, they wouldn't be your best friend for long and/or they'd tell you to fuck off. The goal is to be in a relationship with someone who can/is your best friend, so treat that person like it. You don't want to be telling her "I love you" 20 times a day. If you have to tell her that many times, then you're obviously insecure about the relationship. Being insecure is going to land your ass on the street. Doesn't apply during major life events/days (engaged/married, having children, year anniversaries, etc).
This is called flirting. It's fun. Make sure you know the difference between flirting and being annoying.
This depends. If you're in a dating phase, of course, why not date multiple women and see which is best for you? If you commit to a relationship, be a fucking man and stick to one girl. I'm fairly certain that's what the author meant, too bad he didn't say it.
I agree, I apologize when I've done something wrong. And that's not when you accidentally get a wet cappuccino normal, it's when you do something like cheat on her. The general rule I go by is if I'm saying "I'm sorry" more than once a week, either I shouldn't be in that relationship or I'm seriously fucking up. More on this later.
Ziiing. Women aren't always logical, but that doesn't mean they're stupid. Make sure you understand the difference between reacting to her emotions and getting played by them.
Agree. I hold off on physical compliments until I've been seeing a girl for a while (usually 5-10 dates). I don't give a shit how much time she spent getting ready, I'm probably going out with her for more than her looks. Probably. The catch to this is, if she is normally an 8 and looks like a 10, I'll most likely make note of it in some subtle way that she's sure to pick up on. Outright saying "you're beautiful" is boring and way too easy.
I agree, minus the "irrationally" part. But honestly, blah blah blah, no shit. You have to be confident. Nobody wants to hang out with or date someone who doesn't think highly of him or herself. If you think little of yourself why the hell would I waste the time to find out how little I think of you? Another thing, excuses are obnoxious. Apologies have their time and place. You apologize when the offense you've committed is deserving of one.
You don't apologize: -When there's been a miscommunication. It's likely both of your faults. -When it's a personal belief. -When the expectations couldn't possible be fulfilled. -When it's something insignificant. -When every other fucking word you say is "I'm sorry".
You do apologize: -When something is truly your fault. -You cause physical harm (read: most anything that causes a mark to appear, use discretion, this doesn't always apply) -You damage your relationship. -You damage her reputation.
Yes. Who goes around talking about what they're bad at. If you like something you're bad at, don't say "ugh I love tennis but I suck at it". You say "I'm not great at tennis yet, but I will be."
Definitely make sure she knows what you want. While a lot of guys joke about rape, it's not funny or something to fuck with. No means no. If you think no might mean yes, it means no unless you've discussed it previously. Even then, exercise extreme caution.
Sex is a shitload better when she is being pleased. If you make her feel spectacular, 99% of the time she will do a damn good job of reciprocating. If she doesn't, get out. Also, communicate with her, it helps.
This is the truth. I generally drop girls that pull this shit regularly, I advise you do the same. It's usually indicative of deeper issues that will only get worse with time.
I mostly agree. Just don't be so ignorant of her wants and needs and so self-centered that you lose her because she is getting nothing out of the relationship.
So you ended up agreeing with most of it, what is your issue exactly again?
You seem to call a lot of Roissy's stuff douchebag in a way like it doesn't work. Being a douchebag in America is the point, girls love that shit there. If you want to play nice guy game, you need to gtfo of North America.
Actually, as I said in the post, most of it does work. Also, you don't have to be a douchebag. With certain types of girls it's necessary, but in my experience, just being confident and making sure you get what you want out of a relationship works on the quality girls.
this.
Sorry OP but you are doing it wrong.
it's not about being a douchebag, look for common themes, not nouns. It's about being strong, confident and having a direction in life.If you're easily affected by stuff and dont know what you want, then how can you support them and their kids. Its biology 101.
I wonder how much of this shit would be necessary if the women in this country weren't so ridiculously overweight.
Believe it or not, there are parts of the world with far more attractive women that actually like being women. Imagine that!
Agreed.
However, I can't figure out a way to make money outside the US, so I guess it is what it is for now. I'm also not based in NYC, which I have heard is way better than most other places in the US.
living in amsterdam, not yet seen a woman over a US size 14, under 40, that didn't have an english/american accent. And not a single guy with a backbone. Fishing with dynamite.
Sort of like New York City.
This list itself is for a guy without a backbone. Needs to do all these things to prevent the girl from feeling any power or control such as not being to affectionate or apologizing etc. Stupid list, only people with weak self esteem need to do these things. Then again, that is most men/boys in today's world.
In terms of getting girls, there is one rule that dominates all others, which I got from Woody Allen (believe it or not):
80% of success is showing up.
there are only 4 things you need to do
1- Make her smile and laugh 2- Make her feel good about herself 3- Stimulate her intellectually 4- Stimulate her physically with both affection and sexually.
done. its not that hard or complicated but a lot of you make it out to be
5- Challenge her
Other than that, I agree.
The golden ratio can be expanded even further to even more obsessive success if done properly and early enough in an exchange. Precursor, always have dank ass plans (even if you don't). Dinner and a movie? Sit down motel 6, try private dining reservations, uber cabs, bottle service and brunch at a place with a pool the next morning with equally chay bros running the same gambit on essentially the same girl. But now is not the time for plans, for you have to get the number before you can not use it. I have become really skillful at drinking (Bro tip, drink) and getting girls numbers who are way out of my league (try or you'll never know, FOMO). Day one, hour one, minute fifteen, hand girl iphone with blank new contact open, "Can you fix this for me?" You then verbally invite the girl to join you in partaking in these definitely extravagant, possibly true, plans occurring next week. Radio silence until one day out. Invite, accept, just have fun. FROM THERE ON OUT only text when you are doing something worth doing. I am talking like two texts a week, and even then very simple. Less is more. Blame lack of response on being busy, have a job... be busy. Combine this with two in the kitty and increasing free time with career advancement (wait it is the opposite?) and you should always have a DOD, dime on deck.
I'm taking your sig, as I believe it also applies to me... g'day
@D M: I'm sorry I was such a bitch before... I just get really caught up in the moment. You were right... I will try my best to make it up to you!
[quote=Louboutins and Leverage]@D M: I'm sorry I was such a bitch before... I just get really caught up in the moment. You were right... I will try my best to make it up to you!
a wise traveler once told me the key to getting women is "be great, be desireless, be gone"
Yes, I like these http://us.christianlouboutin.com/us_en/shop/women/botticellita-calf-2.h…. This is what gets me in the mood.
Note to self: I am half way into the night and can't see the light.
I would sex a girl wearing those. Twice.
I hate that response.
I don't think I've ever experienced the friendzone. I'd love to have a great wingwoman.
She would win. Because she has two tits probably. And you have none probably.
I also have no idea what just happened here.
might be a long shot but does anyone have advice specifically related to pokemon (and in that vein, rlated to attracting similar female water-type pokemons of the same species/similar species?
thanks and let me know, rly need help w/ this since I've been single every reaching lvl 6 :/
>>2013 >>only dating other water pokemon
Pick up artists and the dating industry (Originally Posted: 03/24/2009)
Does anyone here read or practice any pickup/seduction stuff? I'm talking like stuff related to "the pick up artist" on VH1.
I've recently started getting into it, it's actually not nearly as cheesy as that show would have you believe. I personally have a goal of being able to attract beautiful women (or at least one), and it seems like it just takes practice.
I mean, when it comes down to it, part of the reason that some guys are into banking is because it will help you get on the path of marrying that trophy wife, along with collecting cool toys along the way. From reading, I've learned that money doesn't really do anything for attracting a hot woman.
I picked up Magic Bullets by Savoy after reading a review online. There are some pretty good reviews and stories about how the book helped guys.
Wow dude, I was just about to make a thread like this, you beat me to it.
I don't read any of the weirdo stuff like Mystery Method or whatever but I did come across a guy named Paul Janka's work a few days ago and watched a few videos on him and read his manual, he has some good tips in there. Here is the link: http://blog.juliaallison.com/Images/Paul%20Janka%20-%20Getting%20Laid%2…
I don't consider myself a nerdy, awkward guy so I feel like his advice is more relevant to normal guys who just need a few reminders on how to brush up on your game
I realize this thread is a bit old, but great e book.
''What I write here is what I’ve found to work and what I do in my own life. None of this material is hypothetical. I just had sex with my 100th women; I should have made a t-shirt for her. I keep a spreadsheet of these girls, just as a record, with an “X” if they let me bang them in the ass. I’m 30, and most of these women have been screwed since I moved to NYC 3 years ago – about 70 of them. That’s more than 20 girls a year, and I had a girlfriend for a spell. Also, although there are some rough ones in there, most of the girls are good-looking (7’s or 8’s) and several are 9’s and 10’s, including 3 super-hot models. And I don’t have any money.''
A lot of his strategy is based on picking girls up in the middle of the day, which a banker could never do!
I have two buddies that have studied this stuff, and honestly, in less than 2 months, they have really improved their game (both bar/club and one of them has amazing stripped game).
Like you said - it really is just practice, and a numbers game to a certain extent. I have friends who I know that years of practice probably wouldn't do a dent, but thats mainly bc of their personality and just general nature. Can't be discouraged easily as well, since the rejections are kind of where you learn what works and stuff.
I have been going out with them and learning similar stuff from them, and it really is fun just trying all those ridiculous openers and transitions and stuff, but I'd be the first to admit that I'm not exactly that guy who can pull this stuff off regularly.
On the other hand, I had another friend from vandy who I met in NYC who had ridiculously good natural game (and he wasn't that great a looking dude).
Nuff said.
haha roofies, anyone seen that ep on 30 rock where the ex-bankers give tracey the roofies
hahaha sighm that episode is classic. "you can do anything you want to me..."
I read The Game by Neil Strauss, interesting book, but magic tricks? Seriously? Some of the stuff just goes too far.
However, I have a few friends who do sarge and their game is definitely strong; however, I don't know how much of that is PUA and how much is them, as they had good game before too.
reading financial alchemy by soros, thinking I'll get into a hedge fund.
..on a serious note, date rape is no laughing matter.
The world has changed. And we must change with it.
Thanks, Cornelius.
I know nobody meant any harm by this, but nice to hear the voice of reason.
You know what your problem is? You're putting the pussy on a pedestal.
at least I'm not the only one quoting 40 yr old virgin on this site.
The world has changed. And we must change with it.
Classic movie. But seriously, if you're turning to books to tell you how to get laid, you are definitely putting the pussy on a pedestal. It isn't that hard to pick up women, but if you stand scared in the corner thinking of what some doucher told you to say you aren't going to get anywhere.
If I met someone 5 years ago who took PUA seriously, I'd think it was kind of cool that they have pretty much broken down manipulating women into dropping their panties into a science. Now I just think its fuckin pathetic.
Besides that, its fucking annoying. Every d-bag is trying this shit everywhere you go. I'm a guy and I'm getting fed up with it, I could imagine how girls must feel once they realize what these dick wads are upto.
I was out at a bar last weekend with a couple of girls. I must have been approached by 3 or 4 different guys trying to get into a conversation with me and parlay it into a convo with the grls I was with. Its fuckin annoying and transparent (from a guys perspective). This one dbag comes up and says "guess what song I just requested?" I knew what he was upto and I'm thinking to myself "seriously dude?" Anyway, the grls I was with were pretty hot and this guy looked kinda like a better looking, Jewish Artie Lang. I have to give it to him, he was pretty slick. So he skillfully brings the hottest of the 3 grls Im with into the convo, and skillfully pushes me out of the exchange. So here I am drinking and talking to these other 2 grls, and for a split second I think "there's no fucking way he has a shot with this girl... does he?" Then she makes eye contact with me, and gives me a really dirty look for walking away and leaving her there with him. I smile... read all the books you want and troll every PUA message board form here to Phuket, I'm still smashing at the end of the night.
Later I was to find out that the "guess what song I requested" was the best he had. After I left the exchange consisted of:
Artie Lang: "what kind of sweater do you think I'm wearing?" Girl: "um-" Artie Lang: (eagerly cutting into her 'um') "Its Ferragamo!"
Bottom line is... guys who get girls get them because they just dont give a fuck. You can read a book to teach you how to act like you just dont give a fuck, but obviously if you're fucking studying 3 hours a day on how to learn this shit... you care way tooooo much to ever naturally get pussy... and have any self-esteem.
Exactly.
What ever happened to just being someone worth knowing? With the exception of my wife (who I pursued), most of the women in my life have approached me. I think I'm a pretty average looking guy, certainly nothing to write home about.
It's all about how you carry yourself. Most of you act like you might never get laid again, and the broads can smell your desperation miles away. It doesn't matter how many books you read and how well you fake it. If you haven't done anything with your life, you're probably a pretty average loser and are relegated (for the most part) to back-alley tug jobs by aging Thai hookers.
When you've actually accomplished something in life besides sitting in a classroom, you will gain a sense of confidence that is like catnip to women. You can sit at the bar, sip your bourbon, and wait for them to come to you. Or not, it doesn't matter. Your nonchalance will make you irresistible.
But here's the hard part: you have to be someone worth knowing. If all you do with your life is follow a well-established path laid out by thousands of risk-averse pussies before you, then you won't be someone who women will sense on an innate level can provide both excitement and security.
Go have a TRUE near-death experience. Not some contrived bungee-jumping thrill that lasts 20 seconds. I'm talking about laying it out there. After you've conquered fear in the face of death, women won't be such a big deal. At that point, they'll flock to you.
Getting introduced to friends-of-friends is the way to go
Fellas, a humble woman's perspective...
I've never read "The Game". Didn't have to. I knew all about it because I once worked with women who read "The Game". They read it because one girl had a BF who admitted to her he read "The Game" and it apparently 'changed his life'. Whatever. She was curious, bought the book. Was shocked. She shared her discovery with another female coworker. That female shared the knowledge with someone else... etc. Sigh.
Interestingly, that same office had a bunch of asian men who notoriously spoke of "The Game" with each other. So I always thought it was an asian guy thing.
Anyways, my two cents... "interested is interesting"... starting a conversation with someone is not rocket science. Simply become interested in what someone is saying/doing and the law of attraction will cooperate. Also, I agree with Jackofalltrades above, best way to meet quality people is through friends-of-friends etc.
Have any of you read Magic Bullets by Savoy? I'm going to shamelessly plug my review of the book... it's at magicbulletsreview.org, seriously the book changed my life. Let me know if any of you have read it - it's a lot different from the "magic trick" stuff you hear about. The Game is old news.
While we're on the subject, check out this movie if you haven't seen it:
The Tao of Steve
Donal Logue is hilarious as a fat fuck who hits a bong like a diesel train and has a way with the ladies. You just might learn something.
A close friend of mine did this and began to constantly take down 7 and 8s every time he went out. However, now this shit has been commercialized, chicks are well aware of what he is doing when he sends an insult and compliment their way. As such, he's jerking it a lot more than he used to.
I find it fascinating how far female preference has changed from what nature had intended it to be. From the old idea of men preferring young and good looking mates, and women preferring the leaders/most resourceful of their given tribe, we have arrived at poor sat tutors and shitty magicians with massive self esteem issues(aka mystery) mating with everything under the sun.
You're all amateurs. Real pros utilize the D.E.N.N.I.S. System.
Gotta be honest, that pick up artist crap is retarded.
"but, but, it works!"
No, being fun and interesting and not coming off as a creep works. Just generally having something to say works.
agree with the above for sure. Most of the crap the SAT tutor in the above link says is just common sense, I'm sure it helps people that don't have a natural game due to being engineering students and what not. But the general point is pretty straight forward: get a number, take a girl out, don't act like a dumbass, possibly hook up. Don't know if you really need to read books or study it, just go out and interact with people, you end up seeing what works for you and what doesen't.
i like the lava lamps better
do I have to post a video... on this?
Another woman's perspective:
Based on my observations/friends: a guy who is not desperate and able to have a casual, smooth conversation does okay. Playing it cool or acting uninterested goes particularly well which is why it is the crux of any pickup guide let alone Mystery Method/PUA. When a guy acts cool or slightly uninterested/mixed signals, the woman sits there and wonders: "what's so great about him that he's walking away." Lure of the chase too, yada yada. It's also a signal that the man is clearly not desperate/has standards/other options. (Kind of like a job interview....you walk in there with no other options and you really, really want it - it shows and it's a turn-off. You walk in there with a few other cards in your hand and a cool demeanor, it's attractive....not to mention that the other cards in your hand validates the fact that you are a great candidate because other people want you too.)
Personally, I think Mystery/PUA take the whole idea too far. There is a distinct difference between acting suave/cool and acting like a creepy asshole. Use one of those ridiculous lines and I'll not only decide that you're a creep but also wonder if you are a Mystery/PUA follower which would just magnify the repulsion.
Also: what you put out is what you get. The type of line that impresses a certain woman should tell you a lot about her. I.e. The one who is impressed by the exclamation that you have a Ferragamo sweater may probably be slightly more shallow/interested in brand-names and wealth.
On the other hand, if it's just about getting laid for a few nights, such opening lines might be better than the smart/funny/dork ones. I don't know.
Just my humble opinion.
My 2 cents: while the gimmicks/routines part of PU is pretty annoying, not to mention easily recognizable today vs. 5 years ago, there are some good concepts that can be picked up from some of this stuff - be confident, don't be needy, don't care about the outcome, etc. Also just manning up and actually APPROACHING girls and having a normal conversation no matter how nervous you may initially be. This stuff seems obvious in retrospect but you'd be surprised how many friends I have including some good-looking ones who are just too scared to approach and don't believe they can actually meet a girl in a bar - when they see some of this "PU" stuff, it blows their minds to see that this is possible if you just try.
I'm thinking a lot of it is the placebo effect. You tell a dude you have a surefire way to pick up girls, and you just have to follow the formula exactly.
Well, that guy goes out and starts to hit on girls. He's getting experience he otherwise wouldn't have gotten. And, as many have said, it is a numbers game.
That said, some of the pick up artist stuff is just stuff that most guys learn naturally; however, the folks buying these books probably haven't gone out much...For instance, look at the "neg"; it is an inconsequential insult/teasing. Most guys would just consider that part of flirting, and not give it a second thought. But, for the guys buying PUA stuff, it might help for it to be spelled out.
How to Pick up Girls from Facebook 101-Pay attention and take notes (Originally Posted: 01/24/2011)
This guy must be a banker...
BSD for sure
Awesome, now I know all the secrets of how to seduce women on facebook. Very good insights.
HAHAHAHA too funny. "Lava lamp on, panties off, simple math brothers."
If he really had that much, he should've been less fat...
"bang bang bang bang" haha great material
he follows his own advice, credit to that.
His accent is so fucking annoying. I see the bulls hat, where would someone who sounds like that be from?
UBS
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