Best Paths If You Want a Family Life

In college and recently been talking to some senior people within the industry, and its come to my attention that their lives fucking suck (imo.) Yes they make millions, but they have no real family life, no friends, and no life outside of work. It got me wondering as to what would be the best path to take if I want to have a good life in my 30s (Finished by 6-7ish?) while not making corp dev money, ideally around 400k+ in my 30s. Is this is too unrealistic to ask for?

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Associate 1 in PE - Other

Hard disagree. Often times, MM is often sweatier because of how unsophisticated your clients are. Unless you're talking about regional boutiques, but even that can be a toss up because of the lack of resources at your disposal.

This really only matters at the junior level. Presumably you are more senior before moving from a BB to a MM firm. As an MD, WLB doesn’t really change if clients are less sophisticated or my firm has less junior resources. Sucks for juniors though, no doubt.

 

Would disagree there. Would say this is the case because MM MDs also usually have no idea how to manage unsophisticated clients. Either because they were brought up in MM and didnt have good role models or because they were shitty VPs at better places. At least that has been my experience. If you were a top performer and go downmarket with WLB in mind, would def think its doable.

 

Kids nowadays think about exits before even getting into banking lol.

As someone who's worked in Corp dev, PE, and IB, here's my two cents:

  1. Your perspective will change, so there is really no point of setting up a long term goal when you are still in school.
  2. Start you career in IB def, you will be able to move around after but IB is good training ground
  3. Mega funds are not holy grails if you want WLB and corp dev doesn't have the pay

I decided to go back to IB after the whole round coz - at least they pay and i won't get canned for making the wrong investment decision. We eventually all end up where we belong.

Hope it helps.

 

wuandale33

Prob LO AM but those seats require CFA+MBA and are really rare.

LO AM or LO at a family office - seats dont require a CFA or MBA - easily would be making 400k+ by 30

 
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Corp Dev in tech actually pays well? Did 3 years in IB, made ~320k in Corp Dev covering a tech niche. About 6 years into the workforce, and all the roles I am exploring are 300-450k total comp, covering parts of the hardware and data center market no one wants to cover. Work hours are 9-6, weekend work is exceptionally rare, team is anti-face time, so we are hyrbid

So Corp Dev in tech is a chill life, find a larger company to go to if you wanna have a chill life. Smaller companies you wear a lot of hats but also make more

 

Holy dream life, would you say this is common? All the threads I’ve seen online say theyre making way less than this or to expect way less. If its uncommon, what would you recommend to maximize comp?

 

Tech is very boom and bust, it is not like other more stable industries. Because of this, there are windows of opportunity that you can capitalize on (e.g., going into TMT banking in 2021 when the GS TMT survey came out). 

I went into semiconductor Corp Dev when AI took off and made the 320k figure as there was no talent that wanted to cover semis, everyone wanted to go to PE MF doing B2B SaaS. I am now recruiting, as there is a window to do strategy and M&A at leading AI labs and hyperscalers with outsized comp. If you are in tech, there are going to be segments that pop off every few years. When that happens, you end up having a lot of leverage 

So it is not very common but very doable imo. While there are lots of bad Corp Dev jobs out there, I have a few friends in similar seats 5-7 years out of college making 300k+ as managers/sr. managers in Corp Dev in SF at startups and large tech companies - hours are a lot better than IB/PE/GE, the culture tends to be better, and esp if you're corporate than a lot of people have families 

 

If you are willing to put the work in and grind and be broke for a few years, I left IB to become a wealth advisor at a BB. I love my life now. I have a family I come home to, I leave work whenever I want, travel around to meet clients and prospects and have a great time everytime. Making great money with unlimited upside in comp. I know many many advisors that make way more than the average MD and work 1/4 the hours

 

I grew up in the Bronx projects, never met anyone “rich” till I got the banking. It’s all about reaching out to folks and selling yourself, the firm and team. I know many advisors who had 0 network and just built a multi million dollar book of business with nothing but emails and a phone.

That’s exactly how I’ve done it too. I dont have a massive book yet but it’s growing.

 

The best semi-realistic finance lifestyle I have witnessed, by far, are senior investment bankers at a BB firms, working out of a small satellite office. Get to live in a desirable location for purely personal reasons (including taxes). Get paid a top BB salary + bonus (if they are good). Have no junior team to manage; as a result, not expected to do any heavy lifting on execution. Travel and get involved as much or as little as they want. Majority of time spent on pure sourcing activities; lots of fun client events, dinners, golf, etc.

Very few of these seats and generally only available to established senior bankers, but they are more common than you would think in spots like Miami, Denver, Seattle, Phoenix, Aspen, San Diego, etc. Pretty much every BB has some bankers with this set up, but it’s generally not well advertised and they often are officially listed as working out of NY, SF, etc. 

 

I was fortunate to have this as an analyst. The senior director in a satellite office needed an analyst and I was stationed out there by myself but staffed out of NYC. Left at 5pm when my director left but was working till late, could basically wfh on a whim and LCOL city. Was a good gig except group was shit with ass culture. My director was a chill dude tho

 

I don't think banks ever advertise those roles because they hand craft them for those MDs who say they want to move there and they oblige, otherwise they lose a high earner. I'm no longer in banking, but I work in tech sales at a scaleup, I get way more autonomy and sway with the founders than employees at other departments. Basically I can tell them I want to move to Miami while still covering my territory and they will most likely oblige. For the way more senior sales people (BSDs) they definitely oblige. 

 

I work at a boutique middle market investment bank in a Tier 2 city. We typically leave the office around 7pm during the weekdays and have limited work on the weekends. There are multiple guys in their late 20s/early 30s that are having kids and can manage to have a good family life and get paid well.

 

Usually, I have found that most people are pretty transparent when you talk to them on the phone, less so in an interview setting. So, if you can set up a networking chat, I would directly ask what their WLB/hours look like. If you can talk to someone that has exited that group/Company, that is the best option. This is super important though, one of my best friends from college works at a mm bank in the same sector as I do in a different Tier 2 city. I work 60-70 hours a week with minimal stress. He works 80-90+ consistently and is very stressed. We get comped essentially the same, he might make like 5-10k more

 

Search around on here as there are plenty of posts on the topic and all of those are highly variable depending on the seat. But VP at a real MM fund you’re clipping 500k/yr, at least 2mm DAW, and when not traveling I’m home in time every night to have dinner with the fam and put the kids to bed. Oh and when traveling I basically get paid to check out new cities, golf, drink, and have nice dinners and shit.

BD is paradise.

 

You can exit direct from IB. Many smaller endowments and foundations are generalists, so you will have to teach yourself more about public markets. David Swenson's book is a good overview. Other common paths in are from OCIO and LP consultant (like Cambridge Associates or Parametric) roles, or direct from the buy side (i.e. PE Associate->cover an endowment's PE book). Less commonly, I've seen juniors from a buy-side IR role make the jump. This industry is much more accepting of various backgrounds; it's not like PE where you must have done IB or consulting before

 

VP in PE - LBOs

This is a good one too. If you can make MD at a large FoF or similar LP roles, it can pay well and be pretty cushy. Tough to get there though since there tends to be little turnover for that very reason.

FoF is less cushy because there's always going to be pressure from your own LPs. But pay will be higher than other LP jobs, and you may get carry. I also personally doubt the longevity of the FoF business model. OCIOs and consultants do the same thing but are cheaper. FoFs only make sense for access reasons (like really blue chip VCs)

 

Family offices are a solution, but need heavy diligence to make sure it’s the right one. But a family office of a billionaire ex-financier who hired legit folks to run it can be 40-50 hours a week and only a slight discount to MM PE (could be $600k as a principal, for example, in your mid 30’s). Again, family offices vary widely but there are gems.

 

Really good wlb, respectable company, will get good reps, and comp is not that much less than MBB. A lot of people I know there have stayed there for years. It’s not like MBB or high finance where you stay for 2 and pivot.

 

Corporate banking at a BB pays really well and good Wlb. By the time you’re a VP (late twenties, early 30s) you’re pulling in $300k+. You’re also at least partially client facing at this point with execution tasks left to A&As. Get to go to nice dinners and events etc. as an MD you can be pulling in $500k+ with a pretty chill 50hr work week. Only thing is there can be some amount of travel involved.

 

Corporate Banking, Capital Markets (DCM, ECM, Syndicated Finance), Venture Capital/Growth Equity, Structured Products, and even Commercial Banking (relationship management or client facing product groups) if you can position yourself to a good portfolio. Have also seen folks pull in that much in Corp Dev at companies with M&A focus or working into P&L ownership roles for a large business unit. Outside of finance there are plenty of revenue generating roles that can hit $400k+ in your 30s across a variety of industries. Tough to break $250k in corporate roles unless your name is attached to tangible revenue or profitability targets (unless you're in an executive level position at a sizable company). 

 

I'm a finance manager (FP&A/Strategic Finance) in a MCOL city, make $130k and work 40-45hrs a week at age 31. My wife makes $55k in a super easy job, so HHI is around $185k. We own a home and have a kid. 

In 2 years I'll probably be around $200k all-in after I guide us through a growth equity round and hit my director promotion. VPs around here make around $250-$300k and I'll be there before 40 hopefully. It's not the kind of numbers people usually post here, but my monthly expenses (mortgage, car insurance, etc) are like $3k a month. Granted you aren't driving $75k cars and wearing Rolexes, but I also don't hate my life lol. I also referee high school basketball just for fun and that acts as a side hustle for extra spending money. Giving a coach a tech foul is serious stress relief. I even have time to lift weights 6 days a week. I'm in better shape now than I was in my 20s.

Just for reference, median household income in my metro is $77k. We're over double that and still enjoy life. It's totally do-able with "regular" jobs like Corp Fin and tier 2 consulting firms. Just be intentional and don't be a dumbass and it's not that hard.    

 

Definitely doable in corporate banking. My VP is out of the office everyday at 5 and pulls in around $350k, doesn’t seem like he’s very stressed, if at all. Also saw a datapoint anecdotally floating somewhere of a Director who pulled in $550-$600k working like 10-20 hours a week lol not sure how accurate but pretty insane regardless

 

For the reverse perspective, I grew up with an MD dad at a BB and I definitely remember him being present. The VP / Director years were busier I'm sure but I was too young to remember that. By the time I was conscious he was home at a decent hour every night and always there on weekends. Took plenty of vacations throughout the year. He was definitely traveling a lot though. 

This is one of the larger BBs with tons of resources and juniors though, so he could take time off and separate professional from personal life. He has explicitly told me that is not possible at leaner platforms. 

 

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