MD having affair with Associate
Turns out our MD, with teenage kids, is having an affair with a DEI Beckie in our team. I have evidence but I want to see what I can gain from this situation.
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its very common lol you don't know the amount of girls who get returns after SA because of relationships
A little surprised how many are unaware how common this is. It always occurs under the disguise of mentorship. Here is a little hint, observe your female peers who the MDs offer way too much attention than what is warranted by their seniority and performance. Observe her behavior at social events, is she acting like a work wife even though MD is several layers above her.
Does this really happen?
fs am at LSE and will say that i know 5+ who converted after this lol
Let say you’re an MD. Why the fuck would you risk your career sleeping with DEI Beckie. Either that’s one dumbass of an MD or this shit is made up entirely. Highend escorts are much cheaper if you just wanna fuck.
I also got hit on by an MD - no affair, just to clarify. He was in a different IB group but kept trying to “mentor” me, singling me out and sending messages by email and phone. He’d drop hints and test boundaries, and whenever something crossed the line, he’d pretend it was meant for his wife and that he'd sent it to me by accident after I didn’t respond - this happened more than once and I still have the texts. Over time, the “mentorship” seemed to become a pretext to stay in contact and push personal boundaries. I had to stay polite and diplomatic but whenever he started sending me texts again, I’d get mini panic attacks lol - so much fun.
this gotta be scotia LOLL
H**s thrive at Canadian banks
What makes you say that?
Deep cesspools of gender DEI
Can being hot make up the Semi-target - Target Gap
What's the real scoop here? Anything happened yet?
If you're going to cheat and you're already making good money, get a 21 year old Eastern European sugar baby from DUMBO House instead of a stressed out 7/10 MBA associate girl
I'm not mad at you guys. I'm just disappointed.
Close enough. She is A2A though
She hot?
Sounds more like A2M
Because the sugar baby is explicitly there for his money. The MBA associate is too but will at least pretend that she is into him because he is interesting/hot/whatever, and this will stroke his ego.
Post on LinkedIn and tag both of them, as well as your firm.
If you're being serious you should recruit for a new job before you do anything. Politics are multifaceted.
We are going to win and win so much that you will be tired of winning.
And you'll say Please Mr. MD, this is too much winning, I can't take it anymore
Affair with his wife is the real answer here
This stuff is messy and always will be and not just a banking phenomenon. I see the humor here around ways to extract value but reality no upside for anyone - those involved - or those that decide to drop a dime as not sure you may appreciate full dynamics of what is going on nor unintended consequences. Good luck with it and sorry in that spot. It’s unfortunate.
Leave an anonymous note by his desk telling him you know about his relationship and set a hidden camera. Then, upload the footage with his reaction on YouTube and drop the link on WSO
What’s with all the monkey shits? This is hilarious. 8/10 ragebait
Must be all the guilty Beckies getting triggered.
It's the MD
name checks out
"pick the best strategy" as if I can't choose all last 4 and keep the first 2 as coercion lol
"Demand Hawk Tuah from Beckie" is the only correct answer.
Write it all down somewhere. Collect evidence too. Then keep your little secret until you can get an advantage.
At 500 votes I will disclose the bank followed by the city at 750, and finally, initials of both MD and Beckie at 1000 votes.
you need to tell us the bank now because we have 500 votes
It’s either Scotia or TD
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Had to check if I was on wallstreetoasis or 4chan
Bump
Personally feel you should share the evidence with both HR and MD’s wife. The punishment should be similar for both the MD and female Associate.
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