College Dating is Awful
It's nearly impossible to find a partner while in college. Hookup culture/dating apps and social media have really ruined the dating scene. Out of my past 5 "partners" 3 of them just left me on delivered after talking for two weeks, one of them wasn't over her ex which is weird because why would you even be talking to me in the first place and finally the last just said she only does hookups. Im an attractive guy and don't have trouble getting dates I just have no interest in hooking up with random chicks and want a genuine relationship. Does it get better?
And why would u not want to hook up with random chicks? U realise u cant do that anymore after u get married right?
Raised christian and I just was never satisfied with hookups. After seeing how good a relationship can be its hard not to want one again.
Chad
I hate being at a non-target but you cant really compare the social aspect, Im at a large state school in a fraternity and on the crew team. Social aspect is easily the best part about college otherwise you would just be studying all day
lol
Ppl always tell me college is the best time to date. Well If that’s the case, I am boned for not finding any of the girls at our school to be gf material. FYI, I go to a VERY big and famous state school
You're not wrong. 20 year old girls have more dick being thrown at them now than in known human history. Not just any dick too, they can slide in a baller's DMs and get flown out if they look good enough and the baller's are sliding in theirs too. They're really losing their minds and get easily distracted and bored. It's easy for someone to say, "Not all women are like that." "Maybe it's the women you're choosing." but the reality is Gen-Z does have to deal with social dynamics that no other generation has had to deal with. Millennials can remember what it was like before social media and is responsible for building a lot of the apps that fucked your life up.
Women have always been women, but imagine Cleopatra with Instagram and Tiktok, Rome would have probably fallen a lot sooner. Like it or not you guys are gonna have to write the book on how to navigate a social media world filled with narcissistic dick drunk women. And these girls are going to write the book on what it's like to be a middle-aged woman that had too much dick in her life. Hopefully you can make a better world for your kids.
well said
Can't help but feel pessimistic about the social environment we've created for future generations with phenomena like this popping up thanks to social media.
I mean, that's literally what it is. Yes,
this is true, but what you're missing is only a subset of girls actually want this. Not everyone wants 40 year old haggard neckbeards making comments on their profile picks, or having to deal with guys sliding with unwanted pics. I know (or knew) quite a number of girls who had a very scant prescence on social media and some not even using their real name for apps such as FB. Our generation definitely uses texting/Messenger a lot more, and that does have it's consequences, but those aren't the consequences you are necessary alluding to.
Tinder and similar apps have never been known for finding a quality girl. I know some family friends who waited found a man in college and got married soon-after. Those sorts of girls though are known not to be on Tinder. OP needs to take some accountability and admit that he wants a quality partner and quick and easy sex that Tinder provides. Life doesn't work that way. If he wants a quality partner, he has to resort to the old-fashioned, time-consuming method of dating. This isn't to say apps will never work, but again they aren't really known for that sort of thing. They have a poor reputation.
3.5 billion girls out there. You'll find the right one, give it time.
#metoo and "guilty before proven innocent" (along with the great post about social media above) are new obstacles that males must overcome to get pussy in college. Sorry man.
Keep searching. 99% may be hoes, 1% may be what you're looking for.
The issue is that while you’re able to get girls on dates you’re not high value enough to ensure retention. You need to work on this.
I’m a value 99 with 200 HP
Not sure who game me MS. If you guys can’t keep your girls it’s not my fault.
The people that says that girls CANNOT stay in relationship because they have options are full of shit. They don’t want to because they find better options. But you think is they were dating Elon or Leo Di Caprio they would cheat ? Please. Just stop being insecure and be on your purpose, achieving your dreams, doing cool shit and taking her on your adventure, take them skydiving, take them to the Maldives, take them to Tomorrowland and they will laugh at the next guy that DM them.
Now if you’re an insecure skinny dude with no future, no friends, no money and no passions don’t be surprised if girls leave you. The truth is you won’t even be speaking to the insta girls anyways.
Btw I studied in some of the cities mentioned above (NYC/London/HK) and been single and in a relationship and it had nothing to do with the city. You guys making excuses.
Enjoy it while you can brother, 40 year old you might regret being too good for hookups
Yeah man it really is terrible and I have no idea how to find a girl who isn’t a whore at this point. Just got cheated on by the one I thought was different. Now thinking I might just have to go after religious girls
Seems like that's the norm these days man. Hope you're doing better tho
I don’t support cheating but once you’ve digested that, think about what you can do to improve your relationships in the future - do you need to stop being a yea man ? Stop being jealous ? Be more dominant ? Be more focused on your friends and life so she’s not the Center of your life ? Be more affectionate and loving ?
You may have met terrible girls but the only way is forward - maybe you can reduce the risk of being cheated on again
It's even worse when you're at a university in a big city. I've studied in a top tier global city (NYC/London) and a small city with a big town feel and the difference in dating market was crazy. Literally no one in the big city was in a relationship during university because there is simply too many options available. Whereas at a university in a smaller city a lot more people were in relationships.
So did you bang the linebacker?
edit: this was supposed to be a reply to the comment above
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