Dating a senior person from another firm?

What do you think about dating between an analyst and an executive director or vice president from another firm?

Without giving away too many details, I know 2 people who are in this situation. Both are in global markets/sales and trading divisions of two bulge brackets. She's an analyst/first year and he is an ED at the firm I'm joining and also a family friend. Are there compliance issues or something? There's nothing wrong with this right? Reason I ask is because one of the senior guys on her team knows the ED and saw the two of them making out at Central Park this weekend.

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whoa.. i think that is clearly inappropriate. i really think you should talk to HR or compliance about this matter... and since it seems you are the only person aware of this relationship, you should definitely bring attention to it - who knows what may transpire between those two. that type of behavior is inexusable and definitely raises a red flag

 
nickelbagswhoa.. i think that is clearly inappropriate. i really think you should talk to HR or compliance about this matter... and since it seems you are the only person aware of this relationship, you should definitely bring attention to it - who knows what may transpire between those two. that type of behavior is inexusable and definitely raises a red flag

What law does that violate? They can date who they want.

 

I think it is fine. No need to create an issue in the firm you are joining and heck, don't do that to a family friend! Unless you can prove that they are swapping confidential information then you're still probably going to walk away with nothing more than a headache and a big red flag on your own record. I don't think what they are doing breaks the law.

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Phoenix09What do you think about dating between an analyst and an executive director or vice president from another firm?

Without giving away too many details, I know 2 people who are in this situation. Both are in global markets/sales and trading divisions of two bulge brackets. She's an analyst/first year and he is an ED at the firm I'm joining and also a family friend. Are there compliance issues or something? There's nothing wrong with this right? Reason I ask is because one of the senior guys on her team knows the ED and saw the two of them making out at Central Park this weekend.

I believe the rule of thumb is missionary and doggy is deemed appropriate, anything else should promptly be reported to HR.

 

Dude the guys SN is nickelbags, how much credence can you give to his comment?

You better learn quickly that nothing good comes from office gossip...keep your head down and your mouth shut unless the family friend is cheating on his wife and you are best friends with the son there is no reason to say anything to anyone...guy code bro

I agree with aadp its a stupid question

 

Thanks guys. I'm not going to rat anyone out but I'm just curious to see if this was a common thing and if there were any compliance issues since someone else at the analyst's firm caught them making out in public

 

I wouldn't say anything either and I'm not even a guy. Tons of people who work at different banks date and some are (omg) even MARRIED!!!!!!!!

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