Ex-boyfriend (incoming MBB summer) abused me physically and emotionally and committed domestic violence, can his office rescind his offer?

He beated me several times and last time was in december but i did not call the police so currently there's no criminal charges on him. Now i decide to open cases in school and court, but the process may take up to 6 months. Is there a way that I can let his HR know and rescind his offer?

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Let the judicial system do its work here. He'll lose his job once he's found guilty. Can I ask why you decided to open cases after finding out he an incoming MBB summer?

 

We broke up 20 days ago and he got the offer back in summer when we were still together. The process breaking up with him was ugly and dirty which made me decide to open cases (he used to threaten me that he would mess around with my employers if I ever reported him). But the chance of wrapping up the case before June is low, so I was thinking about contacting his HR but not sure if his office would believe in me.

 
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We broke up 20 days ago and he got the offer back in summer when we were still together. The process breaking up with him was ugly and dirty which made me decide to open cases (he used to threaten me that he would mess around with my employers if I ever reported him). But the chance of wrapping up the case before June is low, so I was thinking about contacting his HR but not sure if his office would believe in me.

It is not HR’s job to field accusations. Deal with the courts first. 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

I would call their HR and tell them about the cases you are opening in both school and court, and imply there's an extremely high chance he will get in trouble.  And if either are successful, call again.

 

Our HR team gets email all the time from the ex-partners of our employees. They won't react or do anything. If they did, almost everyone in our offices were laid off already.
How would a random HR person in a company know whether this is justified or not? If things don't show up in the background check, it doesn't matter.
BUT:
A regulated employee (not all roles are regulated) shall self-report any potential issues after they were made aware of them.
If a person is not regulated and might incriminate themselves when reporting an issue, they are not obligated to act on it.

Not condoning what has or hasn't happened here, but there needs to be actual documentation of what happened /w evidence and a paper trail that you can then use.

 

File a court accusation on him to sue him, best if you hire a lawyer with evidence. Once you have documentation send that over to HR. If you don't have any documentation of texts or pictures of you injured from him, it will be pointless for you to even go to court. If he really did this, what a real of piece of shit to touch women and I hope he gets his offer rescinded. 

 

If he is criminally found guilty (school court likely won't count unless he is kicked out), yes he will probably be rescinded (or FT offer rescinded later on) and you should definitely email HR with proof of a conviction. HR will likely not make judgments on accusations or do anything right now until he is found guilty, it's not their job to determine this type of thing.

Best of luck and very sorry you are in this situation.

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