Feeling Down About Being Rejected by a Devout Muslim Girl
Asked a girl out from the same office but different company. We've been talking for a year or so and have a lot of common interests and great conversations. I had no idea that devout muslims could not date or marry non-muslims. I guess I should have picked up the signs when she mentioned that she prays a few times a day but now I'm feeling super down in the dirt. She kept saying sorry and that she wants to get to know me but can't really do so because of her religion preventing her. Has anyone been in a similar situation?
Very strict religious people may have their own set of rules, and that can be in every religion. I know conservative Catholics, Jews and Muslims and they would never date or marry outside of their own groups. There is nothing wrong with it if that is what they believe in.
The good news is, there are other girls out there and the next girl (regardless of religion) might say yes to you.
This isn't going to work. Move on now and avoid the pain of trying to please her family because any devout religious person is going to stick to their own.
Normally it´s the guy that blows up in the face of the girl, not the other way around, so I guess you got lucky here...
Yeah, it sucks man but you just gotta accept and move on. (For lack of a better term) non-practicing muslim women are definitely out there, although prevalence may vary on where exactly you are. Where I'm from, there is a higher percentage of muslims and I dated a non-practicing muslim woman for a little until she went back to the faith. It sucks for sure but you just gotta accept it's really not a reflection of you as a person - just a result of you not being a member of that faith. As someone else said, this happens in quite a few groups and it just is what it is. Keep your head up and move forward. If you need some hope they're out there - I ended up dating & marrying a different non-practicing muslim woman :)
Bro I would just move on. If it makes you feel any better, it wasn’t really “you” that she turned down. My family is very devout, while I’m no longer religious and they would never accept a non-Muslim girl, it’s just a part of their mentality (and of many religious peoples mentality). I’ve had family members and friends of the family in this type situation. Non of them chose the girl or guy they liked and instead married someone that was a Muslim.
Of course there are many cases where it works out, but the people I know personally it didn’t work out for them. You should also know it’s not just the religious aspect of it. Sometimes people get cut off from their family and their entire community which causes a lot emotional and mental pain which they may not want to deal with it. This is true for other groups besides Muslims. I can’t speak for the girl you like, but I definitely know people who chose to marry a Muslim girl/boy because they didn’t want to get cut off.
Move on otherwise get her to convert to your faith.
Having taken the virginity of a previously devout Muslim who probably thought we'd get married, and dated a couple more, I assure you it's not worth crying over the spilled goat's milk friend.
OP - Devout Muslim girl can definitely date you. But she would probably need assurances that you would convert. And it would be all kinds of headache for her on the personal front with family etc. And you, OP would most likely have to wait until marriage for any real physical contact (presuming that’s important to you).
As others above say it would be a long tough road...for both of you. So it may not have been you; may have just been circumstances and that is much of life in any arena (personal, professional, etc). Chin up, there will be others.
Good Luck
Thanks man, I appreciate the reply and the advice. I'm presuming you are Muslim as well? One of my best buddies is Muslim and I can't believe I never knew he only wants to marry someone from the same community. I am super oblivious and had no idea that it was very common for Muslims to only marry one another. Anyway, thank you again for the advice.
Muslim guys can marry other religions, but Muslim women cannot. That is the law.
You know if she’s a naughty girl she may come around. I would continue being nice/flirty with her bc she may want some of your forbidden pipe
That is haram, may Allah smite you from your forehead to toes.
Devout people in any religion are not going to date outside their religion. If you are not religious, you would be making a mistake by pursuing this any further. Just find some chick who is not religious.
You are haram and it is impermissible and abhorrent for you to date her. Convert to Islam, see the light of Allah, and only then may you pursue traditional courtship with her.
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