Getting bored of the person you're dating

EDIT: Got too personal

Does this happen to anyone else? There aren't many people I can discuss it with because it makes me seem like a terrible person.

I get interested in someone. I begin to like them. They like me back. We begin dating and I'm really into them at first and then all of a sudden I'm bored.

This is happening with my current girlfriend. We've been dating for 3 years now. She's really sweet and I was really into her at first. There's nothing at all wrong with her. We share interests, she's actually a really interesting person, and we enjoy our time together. It's just that now I'm bored and disinterested. Simply having a text conversation feels like a chore. I'd rather stay home and watch Netflix or hang out with friends than spend time with her.

Has anyone else had this issue? If so, have you ever been in a long term relationship in which you stayed interested, i.e. is there hope for me?

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Yeah I’ve been there before. Either she’s marriage material or she’s not. The more time you spend with her (especially if you don’t think she’s the one) is the more time you’re missing meeting the right person who sets you on fire.

You can either try to spice up the relationship or drop her. Maybe go traveling with her and if that doesn’t work, move on.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

We try new things and initially, I thought that maybe that was the issue, but I still have the uncertainty that she might not be the one. I feel terrible because she’s a really nice girl but I also don’t want to waste her time. Best to move on

 

there’s nothing wrong with her or our sex life, she’s a fun girl we travel sometimes. the thing is the passion, it’s gone and I’m not trying to force anything right now, sad it has to be this way but oh well.

 

Spend some time away from her - next time you will appreciate her more and the spark will be back. You need your own hobbies and some separation to really appreciate what you got. 

 

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