Girls wanting to know exactly where I work at… do I tell them?

Title basically says it all, I just moved to New York and have been talking to some girls on dating apps and some of them have asked exactly what company I work at… Is this normal/ should I tell them where I work? I prefer just saying I work in finance but sometimes they ask follow ups to know what company I’m working for.  If I worked at Goldman or something I would be fine letting them know, but I'm at a relatively small EB and I guess I just don’t want them knowing since I feel like it’s kind of personal.

so I guess my question is, am I just being paranoid and tell them the bank I work at? 

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Seeing as you refer to your girl as "them," sure, tell "them" anything you want. 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 
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The word "them" refers to multiple. As in, he's talking to multiple girls on dating apps...

makes sense

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

Yeah my VP got into hot water with HR after going on stage and telling the entire bar what bank he worked for and what group he was in and then proceeding to rub one out to show his appreciation for everyone there (He bought everyone a round too). Sad to see that some people just pray on other people’s downfall. Stay safe guys🤞

 

Don't do it. I've seen tiktoks of vindictive girls contacting HR b/c guys ghosted them or did some other mild thing that was blown out of proportion. 

"I'm going to make him an offer he can't refuse."
 

No, remember there was a guy who posted about calling some bitchy chick fat and she told his boss on him or something. No woman needs to know where you work unless you're in a serious relationship.

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Simple.  Just lie about it, but that assumes they don't know how the internet works and can't just look you up on LinkedIn.  Which makes me wonder how you are meeting these women on dating apps.

 

When I was on dating apps I intentionally spelt my name wrong so they couldn't do that. Ain't no reason some lady I don't know needs to be looking up my background. 

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Don't tell them where you live, where you work, or what gender you are. 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 
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Don't tell them where you live, where you work, or what gender you are. 

Tell them your pronoun and nothing more. 

 

We are at the point where we are afraid to tell girl where you work.  This is a normal question.  If you are at a bar and a girl asks you where you work, are you going to lie or say it is confidential.  You are going to look an idiot.  If you are worried about them hunting you down at work or telling HR about you, just do not act like an asshole and you should be fine. 

 

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