Is it ever acceptable to approach a girl at the gym?

I'd like to start by saying that I have been pretty firmly entrenched in the "don't approach girls at the gym" camp for all of my gym-going career (which is long and frequent, I'm shredded ;) ). So before people jump to the conclusion that I am an incel or creep, please note that.Β 

The question really is simple as the title - is there any time it's acceptable? I switched gyms recently in concurrence with moving apartments, and with that come a new crop of girls that exercise on the same general schedule as me. One girl in particular is very cute, fit, and honestly exactly my type. I have noticed that she definitely glances at me from time to time, and looks like she may be interested.Β  I was even doing crunches once and she started doing squats so her ass would sit on my face each rep (lol JK smile).Β 

Is there a play here? Is there any amount of times I could see this girl at the gym that would justify me introducing myself? Obviously would be ideal to wait and see if I see her outside of the gym ever, as I assume we live in same area; but I live in one of the largest cities in the US, so chances of that could be slim. There are easy ways to approach a girl at the gym - simply complimenting their shoes or asking to use a popular machine when she's done are ways to spark conversation, which will occur if she's at all interested.

Would love the off topic forum's thoughts. Bracing myself for ridicule but also interested in the discussion.

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hooletthedawgsout, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Fellow monkeys, Short everything

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Isaiah_53_5 πŸ’ŽπŸ™ŒπŸ’ŽπŸ™ŒπŸ’Ž, what's your opinion? Comment below:

If you always see the girl, you have the opportunity to just say a quick hi and then let the conversation develop over time. This is particularly advantageous to picking up chicks as you don't want to suffocate the girl and just keep it light the first couple times you say hi and then on the 4-5th time maybe get her digits or social media.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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PEarbitrage, what's your opinion? Comment below:

"Hi, my name is X, it is nice to meet you."

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She responds conversation develops.

She responds but goes back to her work out - "Enjoy your workout, I hope to see you around soon"

For fucks sake quit being a bitch.Β  Learn how to read people or life is going to be depressing af.

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4mo 
LeveredLegend, what's your opinion? Comment below:

You can tell this guy is drowning in puss

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eloquence, what's your opinion? Comment below:

You can say hi, quick nod/smile if you make eye contact, and see if she initiates a conversation over time. Don't ask for her insta the first time or anything stupid

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Miracle1111, what's your opinion? Comment below:

If she's giving you choosing signals then go in, but be sure you're reading them right.

There's a thin line between being a creep and being attractive. Usually, you're a creep if she thinks you're ugly. The same guy can do the same thing and say hi, but if she thinks he's hot then he's not a creep. You also have to look at it from her perspective. You go to the same gym, if you hit on her and she doesn't like you then she has the burden of having to turn you down but still see you at the gym every day. And it's not like a school where there's a safety net to protect her from creeps.

She can't just give you her social media and ignore you cause she risks the chance of bumping into you again. She can't give you her number, or a fake number, because she risks the chance of you asking why she keeps ignoring your texts. She can't hurt your feelings because she doesn't know how you'll react and it will make it awkward. This is the type of shit girls stress over. Some women's worst nightmare is rejecting a creep and then having him wild out and turn dangerous on her. That's why most women do everything they can to turn a guy down as easily as possible or ghost them entirely to avoid confrontation.

But that's her problem...Just shoot your shot respectfully and keep it moving if nothing happens. It's not like she's going to put you on Tiktok.

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Isaiah_53_5 πŸ’ŽπŸ™ŒπŸ’ŽπŸ™ŒπŸ’Ž, what's your opinion? Comment below:
Miracle1111

If she's giving you choosing signals then go in, but be sure you're reading them right.

There's a thin line between being a creep and being attractive. Usually, you're a creep if she thinks you're ugly. The same guy can do the same thing and say hi, but if she thinks he's hot then he's not a creep. You also have to look at it from her perspective. You go to the same gym, if you hit on her and she doesn't like you then she has the burden of having to turn you down but still see you at the gym every day. And it's not like a school where there's a safety net to protect her from creeps.

She can't just give you her social media and ignore you cause she risks the chance of bumping into you again. She can't give you her number, or a fake number, because she risks the chance of you asking why she keeps ignoring your texts. She can't hurt your feelings because she doesn't know how you'll react and it will make it awkward. This is the type of shit girls stress over. Some women's worst nightmare is rejecting a creep and then having him wild out and turn dangerous on her. That's why most women do everything they can to turn a guy down as easily as possible or ghost them entirely to avoid confrontation.

But that's her problem...Just shoot your shot respectfully and keep it moving if nothing happens. It's not like she's going to put you on Tiktok.

Lots of good points here. Key is to ask for her Snap while she's on the adductor machine. Totally not creepy.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Smoke Frog, what's your opinion? Comment below:

If you're truly not an incel, from your post you give off more of a douchebag / arrogant vibe than incel, then it should be quite self evident how to non-creepily approach a girl.

If you make eye contact a few times and she returns a smile, just walk up to her and introduce yourself.

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Miracle1111, what's your opinion? Comment below:

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