Living in 2 cities

What…

I think this only makes sense if it’s drivable. EG having a place in Malibu and West Hollywood. Greenwich and NYC. SF and Monterrey.

Flying between cities every week would suck. 

My dad used to do that. We could have avoided it had we purchased a house where he worked at the time like 30 years ago, but it's far too expensive now (on top of him now being retired and no longer traveling that far).

Philadelphia and NYC, spent the week doing my internship, came back to Philly when I got out of work Friday and back to NYC on Monday. Last couple weeks I was commuting everyday and that was terrible, 5 hours on the road sucks ass.

throughout my life I have changed countries, cities and regions frequently, my family worked in public service jobs and were asked to move around.
My career took off in multiple locations due to rotation programs, girlfriends, and friends in multiple locations.

I am currently in NYC and near London, UK.

There is value in these kind of scenarios if you have a real life in both locations and can juggle the time and efforts it takes to keep up these two worlds. If you are simply moving back and forth and keep missing the action on the other end.. it might be more difficult. Also, my gf and I don't have children yet - it might be more difficult with kids.

What are the complexities?
- Doubling up. I need a car in each location. When I buy shoes I like, I have to buy two pairs - one for each location. Credit cards? Probably 2-3 in each country. ETC This costs money and time and storage space.
- You will miss out on family events, eventually. I have worked and live in eight countries now. At the beginning I made the effort to quickly fly in for a baptism or wedding. Or maybe there was a family reunion or some BBQ that was relevant. Now, a decade later, I barely talk to my family members. My sister and I are completely estranged, my parents and I see each other maybe once every 4-5 years (they travel, I travel, ..). Eventually you will no longer make the effort. Or maybe that's me.
- Costs
I had years where I paid 20K in airfare alone. That was to cover all the friends' weddings, bachelor nights, not missing out on family affairs, dealing with HER family as well (also abroad), and simply doing random stuff like shopping in Los Angeles.
- Quality of life
Quality of life is an interesting one; on the one hand side, you are a globe-trotting international professional. You see and do all the things many people can only dream of. But in each location your spending power is effectively 50%. Your house won't be as big, your car is not the latest model or the biggest engine, your furniture might be from IKEA. Why? Because you can't justify spending everything you got on one location - there is at least another one to take care of.

A the end of the day every individual has to make the call whether one location might be enough. Unless there is a really good reason, there is often no point in wasting time, money, effort and more in being in multiple locations. After all, there is no way you can be in two locations simultaneously.

Mon - Fri on the desk on Park Ave

Fri 7pm - Sunday 11pm, wheels up and straight to Bogota 

Colombian ass makes you spend a shitton of money