Was my ex a red flag?

Yes

Well at least she didn’t fuck them!

Yes obviously all huge red flags and in truth she probably did the above.

sounds like she just really wasn't about it or liked you. just move on she isn't worth the energy or mental headspace. 

Yes

yep, + you have the right mindset of focusing on the future

This is a precious life lesson and it is good to get it early on.

My HS gf (also from my country) cheated on me in college (in the US) under some pretty terrible circumstances. There were a lot of red flags that I ignored early on as I was too naive. And growing up in a stable household kind of programs you to hold on and make it work.

I was heartbroken then but after some time I am glad it happened. I think such experiences are necessary early on and they teach you what sort of partner you require in life.

I don't want to judge a woman (but yeah she's for the streets like the guy above said). Let her do her shit, you gotta move on. She's not compatible with you. Keep grinding and don't date seriously until you're older. You'll know when the right one hits you. You won't need to go searching for one.

How was the s3x? 

Her behavior does not sound good my guy. Girls sometimes flaunt other guys in your face when you’re in the talking stage and they want to date you to make you jealous. But if you’re in a stable mature relationship then there’s no need for this competition and it really sounds like she’s insecure and worried she might lose you. All it takes for you is to go out, have fun, and you’ll meet the right one sooner than you think

Bro she's a hoe. That behavior is unacceptable, I'd never be fine with my girl doing that 

In all honesty you are so unfathomably likely to marry your HS girlfriend that you should chalk it up to a lesson.


I’ve had three serious girlfriends in the past. Had the full range of sweetness, craziness, love, and hate from all three at various points. Those relationships lasted between 2 and 4 years starting in high school. Now single and not looking for anything because I’m just so exhausted from being in ‘boyfriend mode’ during college. The last thing I want in my 20s in NYC is a committed relationship. I used to crave the comfort of companionship, romance, dates / trips, and regular sex. Not that you can live without it completely but it’s good sometimes to focus on living life and not chasing women. It’s a little painful to tally up what I spent on those girls but I try not to think about it.


A Lambo can’t suck your dick but it won’t leave you in the middle of the night or threaten to defame and sue you.

She wasn't your GF.  You might've called her that, and she might've called herself that (sometimes).  But saying it doesn't make it true.  That's all single girl behavior.  And not even all single girls do that, just the ones from the 304 area code.

Congrats on getting rid of her, big win. You should focus on having fun and not worrying about a relationship right now. 18-25 is a good age range to focus on academics, athletics, having fun with your friends and getting your career set up. 25-30 is the time focus on settling down.

Bruh. She a thotty 

Dont date a girl with an active social media presence unless it's Strava

She had more red flags than a Chinese Communist parade.  And she wasn't yours. She belonged to the streets.

You’re better off with without her, man. Look forward to meeting new and better people. We’re rooting for you

You’re better off with without her, man. Look forward to meeting new and better people. We’re rooting for you

You’re better off with without her, man. Look forward to meeting new and better people. We’re rooting for you

Def for the streets. U shoulda just smashed and dipped, she seems hot but not the relationship type. Was she like this the entire 2.5 years or only when things started to fall apart? If the former, then that’s ur fault for putting yourself in that situation.

what future once said;)

Sounds like you dodged a bullet mate, I would’ve left her after the second bullet point