What is a healthy, loving, lasting relationship like?
I’m 23. Although I want a great relationship with strong marriage potential, the few experiences I’ve had have been mutually obsessive, jealous, controlling, possessive, and toxic whirlwind romances that imploded after a few years.
I have considered being patient for a bond to materialize with someone because that’s how my friends who are in healthy, loving, lasting relationships did it so it seems like the right way to do it. However, it seems like what stops me is that unless the other person is completely hopelessly and irrationally enamored and consumed with me, I will dismiss it as not ‘real love’ and lose interest. I only get more involved when they’re completely infatuated with me. So far however, it has led me to train-wrecks and mutual heartbreak. I assume for some reason that if the person isn’t infatuated with me that they’re just settling for me… then I tell myself ‘it can’t be a great relationship if they’re settling.’ I only get more invested if they’re infatuated because it feels like a ‘safe’ situation for me. It could also be that I, the partners I choose, or both of us have poor relationship skills. I have tried to think of the two kinds of loves as the self-destructive pleasure you get from a drug addiction as opposed to the satisfaction you get from working out, having a healthy diet, and getting enough sleep. However, I don’t think it’s that I have some sort of addictive kind of personality because I have my life together in every other way except this and have never had an issue with any sort of addiction whether it be drugs and alcohol or sugar and social media.
Is it possible for a great, lasting relationship to have started off with no infatuation? What is a healthy, loving, lasting relationship like? What does it feel like? How is it different from a toxic relationship?
A healthy relationship is what you want it to be. Every person is different just find what you want in a relationship.
Just know that there are going to be ups and downs in every relationship, you have to work together when you’re down; in other words work on eachother.
A healthy relationship is what you want it to be. Every person is different just find what you want in a relationship.
Just know that there are going to be ups and downs in every relationship, you have to work together when you’re down; in other words work on eachother.
1 Corinthians 13
New International Version
13 If I speak in the tongues[a](A) of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy(B) and can fathom all mysteries(C) and all knowledge,(D) and if I have a faith(E) that can move mountains,(F) but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor(G) and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b](H) but do not have love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient,(I) love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.(J) 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,(K) it is not easily angered,(L) it keeps no record of wrongs.(M) 6 Love does not delight in evil(N) but rejoices with the truth.(O)7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.(P)
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies,(Q) they will cease; where there are tongues,(R) they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part(S) and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes,(T) what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood(U) behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror;(V) then we shall see face to face.(W) Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.(X)
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love.(Y) But the greatest of these is love.
#blessed
Jesus in Mark 10:21-22: "Jesus, looking at him, loved him and said, ‘You lack one thing; go, sell what you own, and give the money to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; then come, follow me.’ When he heard this, he was shocked and went away grieving, for he had many possessions."
Corinthians: "ayo I dig that POOOON i need me some shawty ayo gimme dat cfa bb oh else I wanst go to heven i got nuthing but ubb"
Disgree with Corinthains on this question
Thanks, grew up Catholic but haven’t opened a bible in a while. Have you felt that before? I’ve only felt that way for work, hobbies, or friends, never a person I’m dating. With them it’s either a rollercoaster or nothing. Not sure if that’s normal
It kind of sounds like you want to be worshipped.
A lot of good stuff in the New Testament. A couple of good rules to go by for my wife are:
Be quick to forgive each other, because we will fail each other almost daily.
Try to out serve each other (in the bedroom too).
The fact that this topic has had 7 comments (excluding mine) and 0 personal anecdotes in the past 2 days tells a striking story about the WSO user base.
I guess I’m not alone
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