How to connect with other analysts and associates at MF REPE shops?

Currently at a small (~$3B AUM) shop in the Mid-Atlantic doing AM/some capital markets stuff. 1.5 YOE. Desperately trying to build connections in the REPE space by me. MM guys will almost always take a quick call or even a coffee/lunch, but these megafund guys never respond. 

Obviously I know how annoying it must be to be at a prestigious shop and get harassed by mouth breathers fiending for an internship, but I feel like I can easily speak their language and provide some value to a conversation by talking about what my fund is doing. There must be some secret sauce to this I'm missing.

I'm so eager to get into a firm like Carlyle or Starwood, and I know my experience is light, so I'm willing to wait a year or two to build that up. I'm just struggling to connect with those that work there now so that when it's time to apply, I'll have those relationships.

Any help/guidance would be appreciated here. I feel like I'm so out of the loop on this kind of stuff.

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Not sure how to do this, but I'm sure these people have their food spots, and probably go to some gym/golf/workout/running/yoga/pilates group, maybe even real estate conferences/clubs, or any hobby in general. Some of these things probably cost a bit to get in, but you will probably have a higher probability of meeting them. Lots of bets to make, so not sure of the validity of this strategy. 

 

Build relationships with people who do business with them and eventually ask for an introduction. You want to know the extroverted junior level people at these companies. If you’re in a capital markets role, I’d imagine there are several external Lending people who know people at the companies you’re interested in. Make friends and meet their friends. Coming from a guy who worked at one of those firms.

Edit: this does not mean to compromise on authenticity or treat relationships poorly. It’s the opposite. Make genuine reciprocal business relationships, and your friends will naturally go to bat for you.

 
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Build relationships with people who do business with them and eventually ask for an introduction. You want to know the extroverted junior level people at these companies. If you’re in a capital markets role, I’d imagine there are several external Lending people who know people at the companies you’re interested in. Make friends and meet their friends. Coming from a guy who worked at one of those firms.

Edit: this does not mean to compromise on authenticity or treat relationships poorly. It’s the opposite. Make genuine reciprocal business relationships, and your friends will naturally go to bat for you.

It will be quite easy to identify the Starwood or other megafund guys in the gym. Just go out in the gym floor and look for the guy struggling to bench a plate on each side. 

 
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Unpopular opinion but wtf - there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be at a mega fund. The smartest and most hard working friends I have (in real estate) work at BX, Starwood and the like. They get great experience and, believe it or not, do enjoy the work. It’s fine to respect them and not want to be them. Some people would rather work 90 hrs a week and maximize comp than go drunk golfing with buddies after work. It’s crazy that people can’t at least respect the hustle. 

Best way to meet people is through friends. If you have no friends, get some. Fellow alumni should also be pretty receptive.

 

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