Am I crazy trying to pull this off?

I am a 2nd yr analyst at a EB with a decent PE offer on hand. After getting into banking, I immediately knew this won't be for me after 2 yrs (the sharpest guys in every room are always analysts + a couple really successful MDs) and associates/VPs who took the promotion are more or less viewed a failure. (which is quite unfair)

As speaking with more PE folks in last a few months, I found out some of the smartest guy were only able to get VP prom after 4 or 5 yrs. With that reservation on my mind, combined with a couple other factors I went through a few corp dev interviews with tech start-ups. I had a superday last Friday, when I met the team and found the most attractive and lovely girl I've ever talked with. We had a 50-min interview in the 30-min slot.(yeah, I didn't care to mention my next interview coming up and the entire convo was nothing but amazing.)

I've run hundreds of different scenarios in my head and confirmed she hasn't married. I'm sure I crushed the superday and can get the offer with my background. Should I renege my PE offer for a person I barely know? I felt a strong feeling of love that I'd never experienced and has this occurred to any of you?

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Nov 9, 2020 - 7:21pm

This is the most autistic post I've read all year, keep it coming OP +sb and you should DEFINETLY reneg your pe offer for this random chick you met for 50 minutes.

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Nov 10, 2020 - 12:00am

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Nov 9, 2020 - 6:16pm

What? You don't even know this person. Gonna assume this is a troll. 
 

Not gonna lie, there is this really cute girl where I work. We don't even work for the same company, so it wouldn't be weird if I ask her out. But I know the feeling you're talking about.

Not to take over this thread, but how does one break up with a girl without hurting her feelings?

  • Intern in IB - Ind
Nov 9, 2020 - 6:32pm

And you'll have more than enough money and a flexible enough WFH schedule likely to sneak a weekend a month to fly out and see her after you've confirmed mutual interest. After a couple of dates you'll know whether or not it's worth making official enough to love into together the next year. There's no reason to bet your career on this one girl

Nov 9, 2020 - 6:34pm

What you feel isn't love. I'm married and recognize love is just a bunch of chemicals in my brain. What you feel is an infatuation, which can lead to love if sustained over a long period of time. But with that said, one conversation is not nearly enough to make a life altering decision. There's a lot of factors: she may just not be into you that way, she may not be married but can be taken anyway, she can be attracted to other women and not men, who knows?

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  • Analyst 1 in IB - Ind
Nov 9, 2020 - 6:59pm

You are fucking nuts if you decide your career direction based on feelings of likely one-sided "love" from a 50 minute conversation. 

  • Analyst 2 in IB - Ind
Nov 9, 2020 - 7:33pm

Thx for the input guys. This is why I love and hate this forum: always sober and risk-averse. I am not gonna take the offer, provided if I have one, but will partially blame you folks if I am single and never find that feeling again by 35.

Might as well try long distance.

Nov 9, 2020 - 7:49pm

What happened with the girl - are you going to ask her out or what? 

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Nov 9, 2020 - 7:55pm

Bro there's a line between taking risks and being batshit insane. Listen to Future "Chase a check (Chase it), never chase a bitch (Don't chase no bitches) ". I'm sure you'll find love someday :)

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  • Intern in IB-M&A
Nov 9, 2020 - 11:02pm

Honestly, take it. Lockdown's been boring, we could all use some reality entertainment

Nov 10, 2020 - 12:02am

If I had an SB  I would give it to you!! LMFAO!!! Op needs to listen to some Future and get his priorities straight. 

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Nov 9, 2020 - 10:45pm

I would say make the move if this was already something serious. But how many girls have you dated/talked to within the past year ? Chances are not that many, because you'd realize there's tons of talent out there, and you don't have to jeopardize your future over some wild hunch that you stumbled across your soulmate. I'm not saying this because PE is a great gig that pays well (because I do believe being happy overrides all of that hardo bullshit people peddle on this site), but you would change the trajectory of your life for some girl you've only talked to over an interview. If you're so convinced, make a fucking trip out there/ hit her up through email/ use the FUCKING INTERNET first. But hold off on betting all your chips just yet.

Nov 10, 2020 - 2:55am

Tbh the best way to go about this is to keep your options open (career wise) and see if there's any way u can contact her just in case you take the PE one. Once you do that it'll be up to you and her as to whether you want to go ahead and give the old relationship a go in my opinion 🤷🏾‍♂️

Nov 10, 2020 - 3:04am

(the sharpest guys in every room are always analysts + a couple really successful MDs) and associates/VPs who took the promotion are more or less viewed a failure. (which is quite unfair)

obviously the entire post is incoherent... but is there any truth to this??

Nov 10, 2020 - 9:34am

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Nov 10, 2020 - 2:04pm

step 1) take the PE job

step 2) email the girl and ask her to meet you for drinks so you guys can continue your previous conversation ("hey sally, i really enjoyed our conversation the other day...i'd love to meet for drinks after work so we can continue our chat...are you free Thursday or Friday evening?")

if it was mutual attraction, she'll gladly meet you...win / win

just google it...you're welcome
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Nov 13, 2020 - 10:58am

To me the smartest thing to do by far is to take the PE job and ask her out to see where it goes. And btw happened to me a few times to meet a girl for the first time (e.g. friend of mutual friends) and end up "clicking" with her a lot. I don't like regrets so I always asked the girl out when it happened and in all those cases the thing went on for a few dates but after a while all the magic disappeared and yeah some were interesting girls, but not as special as it seemed at the beginning. Remember that these feelings fade quickly, PE jobs don't. 

  • Analyst 1 in IB - Gen
Nov 10, 2020 - 6:59pm

Hmmm, what if the ethical guidelines of the place she works at forbids relationships with colleagues? It's always a bit awkward anyway. And do you really want your girl to be your boss?

^^if you needed more reasons to not be so idiotic

  • Analyst 1 in RE - Comm
Nov 11, 2020 - 1:48pm

I was having a rough day. Thanks for making that post.  After reading it I feel better .

But you are young, you should seriously meditate those feelings out and stay focused on yourself.  You should also realize that MDs appear smart because they've grinded hard and know their stuff through years of work and maturation and seeing cycles and how to be the best and most strategic at handling through those times. 

It seems like you're feeling infatuated with both the idea of smartest person in a room and a woman you don't know. Just take all these feelings you're having and see it as a learning experience as you recognizing how strong your hopeful romantic side can be influencing your decision making, and then realize how to not let that blow up an opportunity you've been working on for yourself to have a better life or make a good, productive and positive decision.  This won't be the first time it shows up from the sounds of it. And it's not a bad thing, it sounds like a quirk you have, just don't let it take away from something that you already have and is important to you.

Last bit of advice, they're looking for a new person to make their careers and therefore lives easier, do not introduce your hopeful romantic side into the equation to make lives more complicated when the reason for you being there is to further the firm's goals.

Nov 11, 2020 - 8:51pm

If youre interested in her, ask her out. Don't change your career to pursue this woman that may or may not be into you that's weird and creepy. Separate the business and social spheres-- perfectly fine and more efficient to ask her out. If she says no, then great! you didn't ruin your career over it! If yes, congrats! you didn't need to ruin your career over it!

Nov 12, 2020 - 6:50am

as a female I am telling you... dont do this. 

it's not love.  it is infatuation. dont base your life decisions on a person you dont even know.  if you feel that strongly about her call and ask her out.  if there's something, you can try long distance or move et cetera later on ONCE YOU GET TO KNOW HER.  I dont know why men do this but you guys paint a perfect image of us women as soon as you meet us then slowly lose your shit as you realise we are not perfect nor will we ever be.  rose tinted glasses my friend. 

Nov 13, 2020 - 1:55am

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Nov 13, 2020 - 2:45am

Hahahahaha

Assuming this was even a little serious, simply see it as choosing a pivotal career move vs. a fleeting connection which frankly you could probably get over w some post-nut clarity (!)

Nov 13, 2020 - 4:02pm

San Fran? Tech?

Most likely you'll find out she's a woke anti-capitalism, anti-Wall Street, SJW.

Don't throw away your PE offer for this.

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Nov 16, 2020 - 10:09pm

I just slid my rescinded offer across the table and I said, "Sorry guys, I gotta see about a girl."

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