Am I crazy trying to pull this off?

What? You don’t even know this person. Gonna assume this is a troll. 
 

Not gonna lie, there is this really cute girl where I work. We don’t even work for the same company, so it wouldn’t be weird if I ask her out. But I know the feeling you’re talking about.

Not to take over this thread, but how does one break up with a girl without hurting her feelings?

Me- "Hey! Sean! (Sean is my quant) Can I get the latest beta values on accepting a startup offer over PE for a girl"  

Sean- "They are pretty shit."

Take up your other job and email her like a normal fucking human being?

What you feel isn’t love. I’m married and recognize love is just a bunch of chemicals in my brain. What you feel is an infatuation, which can lead to love if sustained over a long period of time. But with that said, one conversation is not nearly enough to make a life altering decision. There’s a lot of factors: she may just not be into you that way, she may not be married but can be taken anyway, she can be attracted to other women and not men, who knows?

You are fucking nuts if you decide your career direction based on feelings of likely one-sided "love" from a 50 minute conversation. 

Thx for the input guys. This is why I love and hate this forum: always sober and risk-averse. I am not gonna take the offer, provided if I have one, but will partially blame you folks if I am single and never find that feeling again by 35.

Might as well try long distance.

Rub one out and then think about it...

The PE firm won't cheat on you

One moment you’re in love next you find out she’s been choking on some other dude’s dick in 1080p on OnlyFans...

The only sensible decision here is to take the PE offer. However, I urge you to go chase love at the start-up and post a follow-up on this forum. We need to hear how this pans out.

I would say make the move if this was already something serious. But how many girls have you dated/talked to within the past year ? Chances are not that many, because you’d realize there’s tons of talent out there, and you don’t have to jeopardize your future over some wild hunch that you stumbled across your soulmate. I’m not saying this because PE is a great gig that pays well (because I do believe being happy overrides all of that hardo bullshit people peddle on this site), but you would change the trajectory of your life for some girl you’ve only talked to over an interview. If you’re so convinced, make a fucking trip out there/ hit her up through email/ use the FUCKING INTERNET first. But hold off on betting all your chips just yet.

Tbh the best way to go about this is to keep your options open (career wise) and see if there’s any way u can contact her just in case you take the PE one. Once you do that it’ll be up to you and her as to whether you want to go ahead and give the old relationship a go in my opinion 🤷🏾‍♂️

This is the kind of content I signed up for, thanks mate

(the sharpest guys in every room are always analysts + a couple really successful MDs) and associates/VPs who took the promotion are more or less viewed a failure. (which is quite unfair)

obviously the entire post is incoherent... but is there any truth to this??

After reading this post I’m like 

Hit this hardess up on LinkedIn and take her to coffee like a normal stalker would.

Don't think about this until you've jerked off. Better think with your mind than your dick on this one

Considering what month it is I'm not surprised we're getting this level of simp posts.

Well, deciding your career path over a 50 min interview doesn't sound very rationale. 

That being said, even if you did hit it off, this was a one-off meeting that could go nowhere. Plus, who's to say she's even there come early 2021. 

step 1) take the PE job

step 2) email the girl and ask her to meet you for drinks so you guys can continue your previous conversation ("hey sally, i really enjoyed our conversation the other day...i'd love to meet for drinks after work so we can continue our chat...are you free Thursday or Friday evening?")

if it was mutual attraction, she'll gladly meet you...win / win

If she's interviewing you presumably she's higher up the food chain. What makes you think you have a chance with her? 

She's probably choking on the chode of some Chad Morgan Stanley VP based out of Menlo park 

Hmmm, what if the ethical guidelines of the place she works at forbids relationships with colleagues? It's always a bit awkward anyway. And do you really want your girl to be your boss?

^^if you needed more reasons to not be so idiotic

How do you PE offer without realizing you can choose both? Turn down the Corp Dev offer and call her for coffee a week later. 

Yes, do it. Don't even look back. /s

Go jerk off. 

I was having a rough day. Thanks for making that post.  After reading it I feel better .

But you are young, you should seriously meditate those feelings out and stay focused on yourself.  You should also realize that MDs appear smart because they've grinded hard and know their stuff through years of work and maturation and seeing cycles and how to be the best and most strategic at handling through those times. 

It seems like you're feeling infatuated with both the idea of smartest person in a room and a woman you don't know. Just take all these feelings you're having and see it as a learning experience as you recognizing how strong your hopeful romantic side can be influencing your decision making, and then realize how to not let that blow up an opportunity you've been working on for yourself to have a better life or make a good, productive and positive decision.  This won't be the first time it shows up from the sounds of it. And it's not a bad thing, it sounds like a quirk you have, just don't let it take away from something that you already have and is important to you.

Last bit of advice, they're looking for a new person to make their careers and therefore lives easier, do not introduce your hopeful romantic side into the equation to make lives more complicated when the reason for you being there is to further the firm's goals.

If youre interested in her, ask her out. Don't change your career to pursue this woman that may or may not be into you that's weird and creepy. Separate the business and social spheres-- perfectly fine and more efficient to ask her out. If she says no, then great! you didn't ruin your career over it! If yes, congrats! you didn't need to ruin your career over it!

as a female I am telling you... dont do this. 

it's not love.  it is infatuation. dont base your life decisions on a person you dont even know.  if you feel that strongly about her call and ask her out.  if there's something, you can try long distance or move et cetera later on ONCE YOU GET TO KNOW HER.  I dont know why men do this but you guys paint a perfect image of us women as soon as you meet us then slowly lose your shit as you realise we are not perfect nor will we ever be.  rose tinted glasses my friend. 

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Hahahahaha

Assuming this was even a little serious, simply see it as choosing a pivotal career move vs. a fleeting connection which frankly you could probably get over w some post-nut clarity (!)

The ultimate flex would be to date their boss

San Fran? Tech?

Most likely you'll find out she's a woke anti-capitalism, anti-Wall Street, SJW.

Don't throw away your PE offer for this.

Damn is this what 2 years of IB does to a man?

seems clear this 'ended' before it ever 'started'

Risking it all to send a dick pic. Please keep us posted with updates sir.

I just slid my rescinded offer across the table and I said, "Sorry guys, I gotta see about a girl."

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