Do You Gossip?

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Be honest. For everyone's sake and for your own! Are you a gossiper? Are you an instigator?

At every job I've worked at people like to say that they don't (of course) and 5 minutes later they are talking crap about someone to me.

I get the working somewhere for years can cause this type of closeness where people feel they can gossip, but there also gets a point where things are toxic.

Almost every job I had, women flock to me (since I was the new girl) and talked my ear off about each other. When I started finance, being that I am one of the few women in the office I thought this wouldn't be a thing.

But it still exists everywhere! So, are you part of this problem? Or are you on the other end of it.

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Aug 16, 2019

As much as I WISH it didn't exist it does. I don't really care tbh but younger people, especially analysts who are competing with each other tend to do this. As I get older I'm like really........... don't we have more important things to focus on. Apparently not for some people!

I never waster my time with that stuff but I think a lot of the younger entitled people 100% do

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Aug 16, 2019

Right! It gets to a point where your job takes up your time and you don't give a flying f*%k about anyone else's business.

But still sometimes people would come into my office or at lunch and try to waste my time with it and I hate it. To top that off because I don't participate it ends up becoming about me. But I don't care enough to do anything about that. I just want to focus on WORK

Aug 16, 2019

Not a gossiper, but definitely guilty of being a bitcher.

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Aug 16, 2019

What's the main difference between those in your opinion hahaha just complaining?

Aug 16, 2019

Gossiping to me is saying "Hey, did you hear that this person did this?"

Bitching is "This company is fucking stupid and is run by morons"

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Aug 16, 2019

The key to avoiding gossip is to just talk shit in front of the person's face.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Aug 16, 2019

keeping it 100 as always

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Aug 30, 2019

Ah the good old Bridgewater way

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Aug 16, 2019

trash talk everybody...give as good as you get

just google it...you're welcome

Aug 16, 2019

it seems like a lot of people actually do this hahaha

Aug 16, 2019

2nd year analysts in IBD definitely have a reputation for gossip... usually about associates, VPs and first year analysts

Aug 16, 2019

I think analysts anywhere tbh haha

Aug 18, 2019

I feel like I should say no for ego but truthfully I have and if I get pissed enough it probably will slip out again

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Aug 18, 2019

Better to admit it than be in denial like a lot of people r

Aug 19, 2019

Your post said be honest so might as well admit it though I think 95% of ppl do this as well

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Aug 18, 2019

I'll complain, not gossip, about people both to their face and to others, for example "I can't fucking stand Eric and if he tells me about the girl he hooked up with a month ago in nantucket one more time I might paralyze him" but never like creating rumors or shit talking people for stuff they don't deserve. I think my line is drawn at complaining, if that makes sense. My office is pretty small though and we tend to get along pretty well, even though it definitely has some characters. I would never really shit talk someone behind their back.

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Aug 18, 2019

To the face is always the best way to go if something needs to be said. I am not confrontational but if I feel like something needs to b discussed or brought up I will

Aug 18, 2019

I guess I'm not a person who really gets mad at people tho. I just prefer to work through any issues. Like the "Eric" example is just like standard office shit talk that I fuckin roast him (not actually named Eric btw) for all the time too. Like I just won't ever wanna diss someone behind their back, and I like pretty much everyone I meet so it's pretty hard to actually drive me to that point.

Aug 18, 2019

Crazy grown men and women even get up in the morning and think about talking about this. This leads me back to the previously mentioned "analyst theory". When kids are at the age that they want a ton of responsibility and haven't been in the work force too long. it usually results in shit talking, and as they have more things to do it declines

Aug 18, 2019

I can definitely see that though often times I am the youngest in an office and keep to myself. Then there r older ppl (still in their 20s) that do it a ton. I think it depends on the person and if they are satisfied with their job

Aug 19, 2019

Definitely has a lot more to do with maturity than anything else but a lot of people at that age are not mature so it comes with the territory

Aug 22, 2019

Blows my mind that people have the time to worry about crap like this. Clearly not enough work to go around these days.

Aug 18, 2019

Always hear it among younger ppl in the firm and surprisingly sometimes from hire ups if they disagree and don't want to be upfront about it. Not my cup of tea for obvious reasons. The people who say things are also the first to be talked about and then later associated with drama

Aug 18, 2019

100% agree. Those that dish it get it first in return

Aug 19, 2019

Sometimes though people will also talk about you if you dont participate. Its always best to just do you and not care otherwise you will always be bothered by something someone says

Aug 18, 2019
isa2130953:

Be honest. For everyone's sake and for your own! Are you a gossiper? Are you an instigator?

At every job I've worked at people like to say that they don't (of course) and 5 minutes later they are talking crap about someone to me.

I get the working somewhere for years can cause this type of closeness where people feel they can gossip, but there also gets a point where things are toxic.

Almost every job I had, women flock to me (since I was the new girl) and talked my ear off about each other. When I started finance, being that I am one of the few women in the office I thought this wouldn't be a thing.

But it still exists everywhere! So, are you part of this problem? Or are you on the other end of it.

Hell, yes, I gossip. I'm a gossipy little bitch. I was recruited by an intelligence agency and declined because I told them that I couldn't keep a secret.

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