How to Date a Wall Street Man

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"How to Date a Wall Street Man" - Samantha Daniels

As a professional matchmaker with an office in New York City, many of my clients are very successful, high profile Wall Street men.

I have spent the better part of 12 years learning all of their habits, their likes and dislikes when it comes to dating, women and relationships and what they want specifically from me, when I am matching them with women.

Hence, I know, better than anyone, what makes Wall Street men tick.

Here are a few tips for the women out there who are dating or would like to be dating a man on Wall Street:

  1. Be prepared to charm him out of talking about work when he first arrives to the date. Unfortunately, a lot of guys on Wall Street have a hard time leaving work at the office; it's your job to get his mind on you and off the S & P.
  2. Learn a little something about the financial markets and notice if something huge happens on a given day, negative or positive. Things like the fact that Facebook is going public is not just financial news, it's world news and you don't want to seem clueless if you completely missed something like that. You don't have to become an expert but at least if you know something you can participate in a conversation with your guy. Additionally, you need to be prepared that the volatility of the markets might make your guy's mood unpredictable, especially on a day that his personal portfolio went down dramatically.
  3. While a Wall Street man tends to like a little bit of a challenge when it comes to dating, he still likes things to be convenient and easy for him. A lot of women think that if they play hard to get, they will land a Wall Street man. This is NOT the case. Yes, you should be confident and avoid being a pushover but, at the same time, you shouldn't be difficult. You need to be accommodating or his schedule and time constraints or he will get frustrated and find another woman.
  4. Tell stories that are short and sweet because the mind of a Wall Street man is always moving so rapidly and focusing on so many different things that his attention span for social stories is very short; don't be insulted by this, just tell your stories in a way that he can listen. Save your long, draw-out stories for chit-chatting with your girlfriends.
  5. Be sexy. Wall Street men tend to like women who are attractive and that other men notice when they walk in the room. This does not mean that you should look sleazy or inappropriate, this just means that you should bring your "A game" when you go out with him, whatever that is. Every man is attracted to a different look and a different type of woman so if he's interested in you, he's attracted to you but you need to maintain his interest by continuing to look your best.
  6. Don't get upset if he checks his BlackBerry or takes a call during a date; this is very common of a Wall Street man and has nothing to do with whether or not he likes you. The advice that I give Wall Street men about their need to bring business onto the date is that they should forewarn you when they first sit down that a call or a message is coming and apologize in advance. Albeit the fact that this would be an easy thing to do, they won't always remember to do it, so don't get offended.
  7. Don't get upset if your Wall Street guy isn't as romantic as you would like him to be. Men, by nature are never as romantic as women want them to be, but Wall Street men especially are very business-like and think practically not romantically. If you want him to be more romantic, you are probably going to have to lead the way, and teach him what you want.
  8. Wall Street men tend to be attracted to women who are in industries other than Wall Street. This does not mean that if you work on Wall Street, you won't end up with a Wall Street man, however his eye tends to be looking towards non-Wall Street women. Hence, if you are a Wall Street woman and you are interested in dating a Wall Street man, you need to make sure that you let him and others see that you are not all business all the time, that you have a soft, feminine, family-oriented and fun side when you are not in the office.
  9. When it comes to getting you a gift, a lot of Wall Street men are all about extravagance over thoughtfulness. If you are a decadent woman, this will work well for you, but if you are a woman who prefers a man to be thoughtful over spending lavishly on something you don't really want, you might be disappointed. This does not mean that a Wall Street man can't be thoughtful, many are. However, a lot of Wall Street men are so busy making lots of money, that when they think to buy you something, they don't care about the cost as long as it's easy to get for you.
  10. Don't get upset if your plans get scheduled by his assistant. Even though, it is dating 101 for a man to pick up the phone and call you for a date or in this day and age to text you for one, many Wall Street men are so reliant on their assistants that they prefer to have you on their schedule just like a business meeting. Do not take offense to this; this does not mean that he likes you all the less, it just means that he likes to be organized and efficient and his assistant helps him accomplish this.

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Comments (40)

Feb 10, 2012

"As a professional matchmaker with an office in New York City, many of my clients are very successful, high profile Wall Street men."
http://www.johnthomasfinancial.com/about/leadership

Feb 10, 2012
prospie:

"As a professional matchmaker with an office in New York City, many of my clients are very successful, high profile Wall Street men."
http://www.johnthomasfinancial.com/about/leadership

I think that dude played Xerxes in 300

Feb 10, 2012
swagon:
prospie:

"As a professional matchmaker with an office in New York City, many of my clients are very successful, high profile Wall Street men."
http://www.johnthomasfinancial.com/about/leadership

I think that dude played Xerxes in 300

"John Thomas Financial"

I...can't even...

"When I was young I thought that money was the most important thing in life; now that I am old I know that it is."
- Oscar Wilde
"Seriously, psychology is for those with two x chromosomes."
- RagnarDanneskjold

Feb 10, 2012

This is golden

Feb 10, 2012

great find!

Feb 10, 2012

3 is true. You like me, or you don't. I simply don't have time to deal with it.

The rest.....mehhhhhh I dunno, sounds like a stereotype. Most people here are pretty well adjusted except for the bankers, but even they're cool when they're out.

Feb 10, 2012
UFOinsider:

The rest.....mehhhhhh I dunno, sounds like a stereotype. Most people here are pretty well adjusted except for the bankers, but even they're cool when they're out.

Seriously, and really clueless stereotypes at that. "...the volatility of the markets might make your guy's mood unpredictable, especially on a day that his personal portfolio went down dramatically." My personal portfolio is down, I'm mad! My stocks in the stock market! I'm a stockbroker!

"Tell stories that are short and sweet because the mind of a Wall Street man is always moving so rapidly and focusing on so many different things that his attention span for social stories is very short..." What? Your story is too long, make it short, I don't have time for this - I have to go check my personal stock portfolio!

Feb 10, 2012
prospie:
UFOinsider:

The rest.....mehhhhhh I dunno, sounds like a stereotype. Most people here are pretty well adjusted except for the bankers, but even they're cool when they're out.

Seriously, and really clueless stereotypes at that. "...the volatility of the markets might make your guy's mood unpredictable, especially on a day that his personal portfolio went down dramatically." My personal portfolio is down, I'm mad! My stocks in the stock market! I'm a stockbroker!

"Tell stories that are short and sweet because the mind of a Wall Street man is always moving so rapidly and focusing on so many different things that his attention span for social stories is very short..." What? Your story is too long, make it short, I don't have time for this - I have to go check my personal stock portfolio!

Who isn't shitty after a bad day at work?

Feb 10, 2012

Be sure to ask your man for a hot stock tip

Feb 10, 2012

S & P

^ great play on words

Feb 10, 2012

Great list!

Feb 10, 2012

3 is absolutely correct

Feb 10, 2012

I hope all of the gold digging bitches gain a lot from this article -_-

If your dreams don't scare you, then they are not big enough.

"There are two types of people in this world: People who say they pee in the shower, and dirty fucking liars."-Louis C.K.

Feb 10, 2012

10 is retarded though. the rest is a net benefit to most of us here, the advice boils down to put up with his shit. which is good advice whenever anyone is trying to be upwardly socially mobile.

Feb 10, 2012

Amusing.

Honestly, do you guys get more or less attraction from women when you mention you work in finance?

Feb 10, 2012
RE Capital Markets:

Amusing.

Honestly, do you guys get more or less attraction from women when you mention you work in finance?

More....

Feb 10, 2012
RE Capital Markets:

Amusing.

Honestly, do you guys get more or less attraction from women when you mention you work in finance?

More....

Feb 10, 2012

I think the article is pretty spot on...

Feb 10, 2012

This has been posted 3 times.

The answer to your question is 1) network 2) get involved 3) beef up your resume 4) repeat -happypantsmcgee

WSO is not your personal search function.

Feb 10, 2012

I actually want to hear a woman's perspective on this.

Feb 10, 2012

I don't see how having a high paying job would contribute to less attraction, I think it's a matter of IF there's a change in attraction, not which way

If your dreams don't scare you, then they are not big enough.

"There are two types of people in this world: People who say they pee in the shower, and dirty fucking liars."-Louis C.K.

Feb 11, 2012

Am a female. To me this article just says... don't date a wall street guy.
Specially #8... please do act more homely and dumber than you are. The mentally simulating conversations are to be kept for his mates.
I admit I would find someone in Finance more attractive (same goes for engineers) for the ability to have a striking conversations.
Not trying to be a feminist and I don't represent all women. But just my 2 cents worth.

Raptor.45:

Be sure to ask your man for a hot stock tip

Lol... this scene comes to mind however from Sex and the City.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gDElbx5-DRE&oref=ht...

Feb 12, 2012

To the girl who said: "Don't date a Wall Street guy." Wow, you misconstrued the entire list. It suggests that in general, he's got several things going on in his mind. No reflection on the woman.

Feb 13, 2012

For the girls...

Only 6 & 8 are decent advice for women looking to date finance guys... even then, 6 should be managed aggressively after a date or two... as for 8, I don't want to discuss finance, economics or politics with a date. I'd rather have a laugh, flirt or talk about more interesting and fun subjects. If you want to discuss the Facebook IPO or monetary policy for hours when we're on a date, you might as well have a penis as far as I'm concerned... telling a couple of short jokes about the Winklevoss twins or Zuckerdouche is fine.

The rest is nonsense or bad advice for women (especially the advice not to play hard to get).. you'll end up with the dregs of the finance gene pool... pure scum.

Feb 13, 2012

Playing hard to get should not be confused with playing "cold." Hard to get is playful, whereas cold is standoffish. Subtle difference, but it really does make all the difference...

Feb 13, 2012
Feb 13, 2012

From a Top 10 School, non-golddigging girl's perspective, finding out a guy works in finance generally just means he's overcompensating for something. The BSD fascade gets old- fast. If you feel the need to act like you're a BSD, you clearly aren't a BSD. And after talking to him for a few mins I can generally figure out what he's overcompensating for. Also, I don't have too much respect for Wall Street men because I know it takes no real intelligence/extraordinary brain power to do well in IB/S&T. I do realize that last statement is extremely hypocritical seeing as I work on Wall Street but whatever.

Feb 13, 2012
Iamnotamonkey:

From a Top 10 School, non-golddigging girl's perspective, finding out a guy works in finance generally just means he's overcompensating for something. The BSD fascade gets old- fast. If you feel the need to act like you're a BSD, you clearly aren't a BSD. And after talking to him for a few mins I can generally figure out what he's overcompensating for. Also, I don't have too much respect for Wall Street men because I know it takes no real intelligence/extraordinary brain power to do well in IB/S&T. I do realize that last statement is extremely hypocritical seeing as I work on Wall Street but whatever.

What are you overcompensating for?

Feb 13, 2012
Iamnotamonkey:

From a Top 10 School, non-golddigging girl's perspective, finding out a guy works in finance generally just means he's overcompensating for something. The BSD fascade gets old- fast. If you feel the need to act like you're a BSD, you clearly aren't a BSD. And after talking to him for a few mins I can generally figure out what he's overcompensating for. Also, I don't have too much respect for Wall Street men because I know it takes no real intelligence/extraordinary brain power to do well in IB/S&T. I do realize that last statement is extremely hypocritical seeing as I work on Wall Street but whatever.

Yeah, so I guess you couldn't possibly be overcompensating for something given that you're on Wall Street.

Feb 13, 2012
Iamnotamonkey:

From a Top 10 School, non-golddigging girl's perspective, finding out a guy works in finance generally just means he's overcompensating for something. The BSD fascade gets old- fast. If you feel the need to act like you're a BSD, you clearly aren't a BSD. And after talking to him for a few mins I can generally figure out what he's overcompensating for. Also, I don't have too much respect for Wall Street men because I know it takes no real intelligence/extraordinary brain power to do well in IB/S&T. I do realize that last statement is extremely hypocritical seeing as I work on Wall Street but whatever.

Yeah, so I guess you couldn't possibly be overcompensating for something given that you're on Wall Street.

Feb 13, 2012
Iamnotamonkey:

From a Top 10 School, non-golddigging girl's perspective, finding out a guy works in finance generally just means he's overcompensating for something. The BSD fascade gets old- fast. If you feel the need to act like you're a BSD, you clearly aren't a BSD. And after talking to him for a few mins I can generally figure out what he's overcompensating for. Also, I don't have too much respect for Wall Street men because I know it takes no real intelligence/extraordinary brain power to do well in IB/S&T. I do realize that last statement is extremely hypocritical seeing as I work on Wall Street but whatever.

since when do you have to have a job that takes extraordinary brain power to gain respect?

If your dreams don't scare you, then they are not big enough.

"There are two types of people in this world: People who say they pee in the shower, and dirty fucking liars."-Louis C.K.

Feb 13, 2012

TraderDaily & duffmt6
I don't believe I'm overcompensating for something- it seems to work a bit differently with women on Wallstreet. But in the event that I am over compensating for something, I certainly don't want a boyfriend/husband with the same issues.

And Scottj19x89- The majority of smart girls want a smart guy that can keep up with her. I was a Neuroscience & Biology double with a minor in French, so I appreciate an engineer or a compsci programming brain more than a finance brain.

But this is just my perspective. Any other girls out there have any input?

Feb 13, 2012

100% truth

Feb 13, 2012

on the other hand, a lot of girls like it if you are on the phone. I def. been in situations where I pretended to be on calls whilst a friend of mine was on the other end of the line laughing his ass off. Some women (not all - just some) who want to date you because of your job or whatever just like this role

"TOMORROW? I SAID TODAY! BIND IT AND SEND IT TO MY PLACE BY COURIER.... YES THAT IS HYDE PARK CORNER 1 (completely made up). YES. RIGHT NOW. AND GIVE ME THE OIL PRICE FOR THE LAST 2 YEARS (completely random for an M&A guy). ..... LISTEN I DONT CARE WHETHER HE IS THE CEO! .. OK GET THIS DONE, NOW!"

works wonders with the wrong kind of women.

Feb 13, 2012
LDNBNKR:

on the other hand, a lot of girls like it if you are on the phone. I def. been in situations where I pretended to be on calls whilst a friend of mine was on the other end of the line laughing his ass off. Some women (not all - just some) who want to date you because of your job or whatever just like this role

"TOMORROW? I SAID TODAY! BIND IT AND SEND IT TO MY PLACE BY COURIER.... YES THAT IS HYDE PARK CORNER 1 (completely made up). YES. RIGHT NOW. AND GIVE ME THE OIL PRICE FOR THE LAST 2 YEARS (completely random for an M&A guy). ..... LISTEN I DONT CARE WHETHER HE IS THE CEO! .. OK GET THIS DONE, NOW!"

works wonders with the wrong kind of women.

Lol...yeah at the train station in Hyde Park corner... you know what, I will just meet you at Buckingham palace.

Feb 13, 2012

^ exactly

Feb 15, 2012

@iamnotamonkey: lol at your preference for programmers and compsci guys. You both deserve each other. Btwn his enlightening discussions on writing code and your fascinating with the human genome, maybe you both will conjure up enough boredom to put each other to sleep. Meanwhile the finance guy has not only interesting conversation but the ability to apply his knowledge to making positive returns while the programmer can only hope to live the way the Finance guy can (along with his girlfriend) if he actually joins a trading desk. Otherwise he's no different than a biglaw associate. Barely in the upper middle class....Middle if he's in a high cost city in NY.

Good luck with that.

Feb 15, 2012

Well your douchiness and need to compensate for something (probably a boring personality) by putting down programmers and saying that they're much more boring and useless than you are may be a reason why she doesn't like the finance guys... but then that would mean that I implied that you're all the same, that would just be stupid, wouldn't it?

If your dreams don't scare you, then they are not big enough.

"There are two types of people in this world: People who say they pee in the shower, and dirty fucking liars."-Louis C.K.

Feb 15, 2012
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If your dreams don't scare you, then they are not big enough.

"There are two types of people in this world: People who say they pee in the shower, and dirty fucking liars."-Louis C.K.