Mom is friends with an MD from GS... how do I approach this?

I am a freshman at a semi-target. My mom is friends with an MD at GS and she told him im pursuing a career in IB. He gave me his email and told me to reach out to him.

I realize he can't instantly get me a job or internship. I just don't know how to approach this email. I obviously want to introduce myself, and learn from him. But I have no idea what to say or do. Thanks so much.

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Dec 30, 2018

Use him as a mentor; get coffee, exchange email conversations, ask for his advice, ask for advice about classes to take, and then if you've kept up a relationship with him by the time serious recruiting comes along for you (1-2 years), hopefully he can be of assistance with that.

Even if not, however, just use him as a mentor. Perhaps if he can't get you a GS job he could help you out with other firms that he no doubt has contacts with.

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Dec 30, 2018

"Friends"

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Jan 4, 2019

Next time the guys over he should come running towards him yelling, "Papa its you!"

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Dec 30, 2018

get your mum to bang him. Blackmail him by threatening to tell his wife. FT secured.

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Dec 30, 2018

A great contact to utilize. You should first email him introducing yourself, and asking to set up an introductory call / meeting. Tell him that you have interest in the industry and would look forward to learning more from him, as he has extensive expertise and experience.

Over the next few years maintain a connection with him, reaching out approx. every 3 months to keep the relationship fresh. Try to set up lunches, golfing, fishing (any hobby that you both like) and get to know each other on personal level. If he likes you, by the time you need internships and full-time opportunities, I'm sure he will do what he can to help.

Best of luck with this.

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Dec 31, 2018

Great response. Thanks a ton.

Jan 1, 2019

Getting some Forest Gump vibes here.

"Is there a... Mr. AdderallMonkey?"

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Jan 1, 2019

Dude, he is banging your mom, the least you could do is ask him for a favor...

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Jan 2, 2019

A lot of good points mentioned above but I like action points so here are a few things that I would suggest:

  1. If he is really close with your mom, be direct with him. If you want to be in M&A, and that is your preference, just be frank with it. And also check which business unit he is in, let's say he is in ECM or Principal Investment Group, don't ask him to refer to M&A since you are more likely to be placed into a group that he is working with. The unit that he is working at should be your first choice, only then move to whatever unit you want.
  2. Be specific in your requests. If you are already good with technical, ask him to refer you to meet with people who are involved in recruiting or specific units that you want so that you are on their radar when the time comes. And once again, double check which units he is close with and that he is reachable. Again if he is close to M&A desk's MD and there is an opening, ask for that. Don't ask for cross-boarder China M&A when there is no such desk and also he doesn't have any relationship there.
  3. If you feel that it is stuck and no going anywhere at GS, focus on a sector - let's say Consumer. Then ask him to refer you to people at other banks who are covering consumer - be it a coverage desk, M&A, industry desk, research.
  4. If he is one of those, I don't like you to use my connections to get you a job directly then use all of his time to help you craft resume, practice interviews and also make case studies that you can use for your future interviews. Used to have a mentor at PwC who was like that.
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Jan 4, 2019

TheStory you're the man

Jan 4, 2019

1 in 4 WSO'ers agree!

Edit: 2 in 5 now - not too shabby!

Jan 5, 2019

Wouldn't that be 2 in 7? hmmm

"If you ain't first, you're last!" - GOAT

Jan 5, 2019

Now it is 2:5 or 2/7, but it was 2:3 or 2/5 when I wrote that edit

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Jan 5, 2019

True... my b

"If you ain't first, you're last!" - GOAT

Jan 7, 2019

Spongebob is gay and not even funny ironically.

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Jan 11, 2019

You think you're a tough guy for calling someone "gay"?

...faggot.

Jan 13, 2019

This is one of those instances where irony loops back on itself and you forget where in the cycle you are. I loled nonetheless

Jan 3, 2019

If your mom is hot, let me know and I can give you a job at the MCDonalds I work at.

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Jan 5, 2019

Step 1 - Get a paternity test
Step 2 - Let us know how step 1 goes

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Jan 5, 2019

Pic of said mom?

If the glove don't fit, you must acquit!

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Jan 11, 2019

Why the fuck would you tell us its your mom and then expect realistic answers? What choice do you have but to schmooze with the guy? Just pretend like you give a shit about him personally, and then make it known that you're trying to break into IB. See where things go. Unless you're ok with your mom doing "favors" for this MD for preferential treatment.

Jan 12, 2019

Tell her next time they get together to warm more than his dinner.

Jan 13, 2019

Is your username your last name? Bold move

"If you ain't first, you're last!" - GOAT

Jan 13, 2019
Number Crunching Warrior:

Is your username your last name? Bold move

Yeah between India, Pakistan, etc... I'm sure it's easy to narrow it down.

If the glove don't fit, you must acquit!

Jan 13, 2019

Haven't met many people with that last name. You'd be surprised how unique it is in banking

"If you ain't first, you're last!" - GOAT

Jan 15, 2019

If the glove don't fit, you must acquit!

Jan 15, 2019