I recently talked to an older guy who told me how back in his day, at the age of 22 or so men were married with kids and already starting families. In my generation, it feels like that is not as common at all except for certain conservative cliques and groups.
There are studies out there saying that men are getting married at a much later age, how America is "bachelor nation" and how things like the traditional chase for a family life have died down compared to a few decades ago.
A handful of people have referred to the 20s as "extended adolescence" already and some have even said "30 is the new 20".
I think back to hundreds of years ago before "college" became a thing for most people, it seemed like by 18 or so a lot of people were already having families and life spans were shorter. College was not really a socializing hotspot meant for fun debauchery like it eventually became decades ago.
What if we are living in an age of social change, a big social change, that impacts younger people in their 20s and even 30s without even realizing it? Like something is happening before our very eyes and we don't see it yet but years later we look back and say how we were seeing it....
Now I don't mean adolescence as in still living at home but it seems like with older generations, if a man past the age of 25 was single, casually "getting around", having drinks with some friends, partying, traveling the world and not marrying and having kids then he was a social outcast or something was wrong with him. In most ways he was the odd one out while everyone else had settled into the married life.
These days, especially in big cities, it seems a lot less strange. What could it mean for single men?
Could it mean that the age old adage of college being the best period in life for making new friends starts to be less prominent and certain areas of big cities become socializing hotspots for people in their 20s?
More communities for single people in this phase of life who no longer have to worry about being targeted for not having kids and being married?
Or who knows, maybe it is just wishful thinking.....