girl who rejected/ghosted me messaged asking for IBD job

I matched this girl on a dating app around 6-12 months ago, and started talking for a little bit, eventually she started ghosting me, I tried my luck a few more times texting and inviting her out for dinner etc. but each time she just left me on read and never replied.

Anyway, it's now been a few months and she randomly text me saying she saw my team/bank is hiring and said she's interested in applying.

Now I'm unsure how to respond, do I either:

A) ghost her back

B) be salty and be like "oh you're still alive after ghosting me for so long"

C) be direct back to her like "the lack of respect for me you have to message me asking this after ghosting me all this time"

D) or am i overthinking and i should just be nice and help her

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You work at Morgan Stanley. If you take Lloyd Blankfein’s advice / GS Under Blankfein’s advice, you might be considered a traitor 🤣

That said, if you actually want to be a good employee for MS, then if she’ll be genuinely good at the job and a good hire then consider her. If you don’t think she’ll be good for the role you can kindly explain that to her and maintain good relations as Morgan Stanley does a lot of business with a lot of people and doesn’t want you giving them a bad name. Leave the dating talk for when it’s consensual for the both of you. Try to be the man of the relationship not the young annoying kid. 

Good luck young gun. 

 
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