How much will girlfriend’s dad being an MD help?
I am a rising sophomore at a semi-target and am super interested in going into IB. My girlfriend of 6 month's dad happens to be an MD at an UMM shop in a tier 2 city. I have met him once before, he seemed to like me well enough, and I hope to get to know him better in coming months (not just because of his career but also because I love my girlfriend). I would love to work his firm as from what I have heard from WSO the city has a LCOL and the firm pays above street with decent culture. I am curious about a few things: is this worth the potential risk of breaking up and losing a job? how much help do you think he could have at getting me an internship at his firm in the city he works in? What about in NYC? What about the Lower BB firm he used to work in? I understand if these questions are hard super dependent just looking for a bit of input.
Extra context: I have a 3.8+ GPA with a decent resume, am confident I can prepare well enough for any technicals, and am non diversity. Additionally, I know that his prior firm does have OCR from my school but am not sure about his current firm.
Dont bro… just dont. Keep your GF's dad out of your professional life. 6 months isn't a lot and if shit hits the fan you're screwed. I was in a similiar spot years ago so DM me, I don’t wnna get doxxed on here
I bet you could— just make sure she offers to help, never ask (you can hint at it)
So you can’t get in on your own merit? Hope you don’t have any strong opinions against diversity programs.
I support diversity programs and I don’t give a shit when brad’s dad’s golf partner gets him the job. Everyone’s gonna play the cards their dealt. If Brad, the diversity hire, or I aren’t qualified I trust we won’t last long in finance anyways
who gets in on their own merit anymore??
What the fuck are the comments here? Fuck yeah use him to get you a job. Don’t “use” him, but you can definitely tell the gf you want to work in finance blah blah blah and ask if she’d be willing to mention it to her dad?
If you’ve met him before, maybe meet him again if it’s like a family dinner or whatever and see if you can get one on one time. I wouldn’t outright ask for an internship but would definitely try and steer the conversation towards how you’re looking for an internship.
I think best case scenario in all aspects is he gets you interviews at other shops due to his connections bc as mentioned before, it would be bad if you break up and still work for her dad
This. Not weird at all, it's old school networking. My dad got his first job from his girlfriend's dad (they broke up later, but he kept the job cuz they're unrelated if the dad is a professional and you break up with the girl amicably).
Girlfriend doesn't matter; don't even mention it during your process. It's only relevant if you are interested in his group, in which case, approach it the exact same way that you would any other MD coffee chat. It's a warmer intro, but don't change your approach.
Even with all that, expect nothing and ask for nothing but his advice/experience.
Seconded. Ask for advice and to talk about his experiences, you're warm enough to at least get your girlfriend's dad's advice. You'll know if he actually wants you to work for his firm (and if he likes you in general) if he offers to give his daughter's boyfriend an MD-level referral before you ask for it.
This has to be GTCR or MDP
This is why diversity hires exist
Personally, I'd try to keep it separate. If you get close with him, I'd feel okay asking if you could pick his brain a bit, but after that it's up to him.
But it could get messy and overly dramatic / possibly put a bad taste in his mouth about your intentions.
I’m not sure how this is even a question…
Of course you talk to him and ask him advice and ask insightful questions. What else are you going to talk about around the dinner table?
everyone wants to be asked advice and every dad wants his daughter dating someone ambitious.
His firm recruits from your campus so it’s not that much of an ask. And he knows the game. He’ll offer if he likes you. If not, keep networking.
Depends on how deep it can go
I mean it’s already going deep into the gf
Sounds like you’re planning to get fucked 24/7
What happens if you get the job and you and your gf break up? Gonna be an interesting dynamic inside the office…
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