New Analyst Overdrinking - Scared I opened up to wrong person
So there was a work event for new analysts last week and I spent 99% of it with one person who the details of our conversation is just getting back to me. It involved lots of crazy college stories as well as overseas experiences involving drugs and prostitutes both of which are illegal. I just found out he works in an HR related role but isn't HR, don't wanna say his exact role incase he reads this and I am shitting bricks.
For some reason he also chimed in on his own experiences but mine were crazier and more vulgar and I can't even remember all that I told him. I overestimated how much I could drink and didn't take into account my tolerance would be low given that I have abstained for a few months.
How do you think this plays out, do you think he'll tell anyone else? could he report me to top brass at the firm? I know I'm not gonna get fired but this is annoying. I don't wanna be the subject of office gossip.
Do you think it'll blow over if it does spread or can this stop me from getting promoted to associate.
So you said to an HR that a prostitute sucked your d*** and you expect to have a job where you will need to have dinners with clients?
I love this fucking forum
I already have a job lol. It is not a fireable offense, I didn't say that in an email
Idk at this rate we can put two Bud Lights in ya and you’ll hit the firm wide distro with the time you smoked crack in Amsterdam lmao
Sage Kelly has entered the chat
Heard from a friend at Jef that a kid got fired mid internship for asking Handler about Kelly during one of those intern lunches. Security perp walked the kid out and everything.
Imagine being so retarded that you told your worst secrets to a literal snitch
I am a literal retard when I'm drunk, I completely forgot about the conversation till I suddenly had what felt like a flashback in my home office, literally couldn't sleep.
Bro I wish I knew you IRL you sound like such a cool dude, I wish we were friends
You don’t wanna say his role as if this specific situation isn’t already identifying enough LOL
It's ok, I doubt HR people read this. I can't even remember the last time I saw a back office to front office post. I guess they all have up?
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Well you can't change what's already happened so I suggest you stop worrying about it and continue living like normal.
I think if you try to remember exactly what you told him and if he told you anything, if you have something on him, he has something on you it mutual destruction. I've said things twice before of a sensitive nature I couldn't trust them, first time they just told people for a laugh had some problems for a month then people forgot about it, two - three years later people thought some other guy had said it because in their minds it couldn't possibly be me.
Second time was a lot worse (A lot worse). I confided in someone, they then posted what I said in a group chat with 13 people, after a day everyone I worked with had seen what I said or heard about it. They claim they did it to help resolve an issue I was having with someone at work but they were just pissed at me for god knows what. (covid and lockdown saved me from this one, ended finishing in lockdown and ive never seen, talked or interacted with them in anyway, global isolation helped 🤣)
This could just blow over and all be forgotten about, especially if you were both drunk and saying crazy things to chances are he'll want to forget about it. I wouldn't get of his bad side if there the littlest thought that he would tell people, often times that feeling is right. You said he's HR, you could reach out to him and explain that you were speaking in confidence or something. worse case scenario people find out and just think your a party animal, angel with a dark side hahaha. I can't see this affecting getting promoted, its not common knowledge, What's everyone thinking dreams of promotion gone?
Try not to worry, that's the best thing to do is try not to worry about it.
Best regards.
Best retards*
I think you're fine, but a good lesson to learn. Have seen many people put themselves in terrible positions, even losing jobs, as a result of behavior at company outings/happy hours, etc. There is so much middle ground between being an insular square and being an obnoxious drunk, which is to say that you don't want to be so on guard that you come across as a robot, but should always be considerate of what you're saying and who you're saying it too.
Pro-Tip - have some drinks if that is your thing, but once you feel start feeling loosey goosey switch to club soda and lime. You can keep the optics up, but remain in control.
What’s the disadvantage of being a robot in this type of situation?
Not sure if this is a serious question? Connecting with colleagues, building report/comradery, humanizing yourself to others, becoming more likable... capitalizing on the true intent behind work outings. I would consider those opportunities that are harder to capture by being a robot.
is this really a question? relationships = business
Chill out bro it's the hangxiety talking rn. Most likely it will all blow over and you'll forget about it in a few weeks. Guarantee the other guy is not thinking about it as much as you.
Either way nothing you can do so zero point in wasting energy worrying
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Are you fucking stupid, so you started a new job 2 weeks ago and started telling some strangers (whose title you have no clue about) that you live taking drugs and fucking hookers - man, enjoy it while it last because I’m pretty sure this guy won’t push for your bonus 😂
You would think that 4 yrs of college would teach you how to drink 😅
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