I personally think I'd do better in a coffee setting, but I think lunch may offer more face time. I also don't want to offend her by taking coffee when she offered lunch as if I'm too busy.
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You're overthinking the hell out of this. Either is fine.
I figured.
Order coffee with your lunch. That's the true meaning of Covfefe
+1
Definitely lunch. Just don't eat BBQ ribs - had it during a date once, did not end well.
Seriously though, if you opt for coffee because you feel uncomfortable eating in front of her, she'll take it as a sign that you can't eat with people of importance. That is not good.
I JUST TOOK COFFEE BECAUSE THE FIRST GUY SAID DON'T OVERTHINK IT NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
In a later date, you could say lunch and then invite him for coffee (and buy his cup of joe) so he knows that you are not a "free-loader" (I hope).
You are gonna be fine, don't overthink this. she won't think twice about why you said coffee, she offered both to be polite
coffee if you don't live an interesting life. Lunch if you can carry a long conversation and sound interesting.
Time to put on your big boy pants and counter with dinner at a fine Italian restaurant. Check beforehand to make sure someone playing a violin can approach your table during the "meeting" to serenade for an awkwardly-long period of time. If you see her frantically trying to downplay the situation -- that's good! Smile confidently and playfully. She's becoming intimidated and slightly turned on by your extreme alpha approach.
That's when you ask her when you can start. Before she says anything, tell her you'll think about it, place down your napkin and make an exit, but not before throwing down too much cash on the table for both meals, tip, and her cab ride back home.
Congrats ahead of time on your new job.
thanks buddy it was a valiant effort on both ends
Lmao, good read for the morning. +1
I would go with lunch. Coffee is more informal than lunch. Lunch gives the VP the chance to sit down and get to know you over a more prolonged period of time than just coffee. I believe that lunch might also be less awkward in case there is some sort of "awkward silence" because there is food on the table.
Obviously lunch....more time to build a rapport plus a free meal instead of free coffee. This was easy.
Coffee is more conservative. Lunch is like wild wild west.
Be a big baller and request dinner and drinks at your place.
Suggest you buy the coffee (a very small gesture) and voiceover "I know you're time is more valuable than coffee, but it's the least I can do. Really appreciate you spending the time with me"
Tell her you want to meet her for lunch. Tell her that you would like for her to fix a breakfast and be sure to tell her how you want your eggs prepared. I would be sure to remind her that she needs to bring you your house slippers when you arrive at her home.
Congrats on the new job once you execute this.
Since everyone is still trolling I thought I'd put this immaculately boring story to rest
We got coffee, she connected me with another banker, everything turned out fantastic
Thank you to all who participated in this shitstorm of a forum post
Take her to a SEX DUNGEON which serves COFFEE!
Lunch or Coffee ? (Originally Posted: 07/28/2016)
Hey Guys,
I am taking next Friday off and will be flying out to a city that I want to live in to network with a partner from a PE firm and wanted your advice on if I should invite for lunch or coffee.
Basically, I was referred to the partner through a previous employer and had a phone call with him a few months ago. I messaged him to let him know I would be around town in a few weeks and he said he wasn't sure of his schedule but would like to meet up. Now I need to send him a note to say I will be there next week an wanted to know if it would be too aggressive to invite him for lunch. Should I just ask him to meet next week and let him lead how he wants to meet?
Any insight is appreciated. Thanks!
@takenotes08" unless you were given an option or explicitly told one way or another by the Partner I would base it on how much time you have to meet with said Partner.
If you have a max of 30 mins or so then opt for coffee. If you have an hour or more then lunch would be appropriate. Ideally lunch would be better as it gives you more time however I tend to opt for coffee since your only drinking and it gives both of you time to relax and talk in depth.
@RedRage Thanks for the insight. The thing, when I emailed him a few weeks ago I said for lunch or coffee and he basically answered that it would be good to meet. Maybe I could offer to meet for lunch and say if he is short on time we could always grab a coffee?
I usually let them decide. Tell him you'll be in town and see if he has time to meet, if he does he will most likely tell you when - and based on what he tells you it should be sorted.
I would invite him to lunch but if his schedule doesn't work out, have coffee as a backup.
Think of it from the partner's perspective.
Definitely coffee.
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