After a long period of full-time recruiting madness, I finally received an offer at a MM bank. After some thought, speaking with my network, and consulting my family I accepted the offer. I am really excited about it and I start next summer after graduation. However, my girlfriend doesn't want to stay in the area post graduation. I don't want to do long distance, but I don't know how I should go about telling her this. Any advice would be appreciated.
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Sit down and talk to her about where she plans to get a job after graduation. Look for an opportunity for HER in the city your job is in. If there’s nothing then the reality is you’re better off starting new with someone else. With long distance it’s going to kill your morale and your happiness will slowly fade when you’re JUST beginning your career. Just got out of a near 2 year relationship because of this, but you can’t let anyone hold you back if you’re not married, your life is just starting and you’ll build something much more rewarding.
Why not just see how things go? Let her know that you have accepted the job and she can figure things out for herself. If she wants to stay, she stays. If she chooses to leave, she leaves and you can make your decision about breaking up. You made a job decision without taking her into account. Let her know what you are doing and she can now decide what’s best for her.
I have a classmate who long D in different countries. She was in NYC with MS while the dude is in Canada. This arrangement was maintained for 6 years until she made enough and flew to the guy permanently, found a job locally, then bought a house in cash.
Missing a lot of context here but if this is something you want, accept the offer and worry about the gf later. If she has a plan and had presented it to you, then maybe consider looking for a role there. But honestly, if she doesn’t have a damn good reason for not supporting this, I see no reason to stay in the relationship
Listen, you will be a completely different person in 6 years. I know she might seem like the one right now, but she probably isn't. The likelihood of you marrying each other is remote. I highly recommend you have the conversation and tell her your plans. If it doesn't work out, worst case scenario you'll deal with the pain right now. That is better than staying up at night and wondering what will happen.
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