Can you spot a Gold Digging Girl?

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When it comes to women, unfortunately, men are dumber than s***.

Fortunately, when it comes to dating tips, advice can be easily sourced. First, remember your mom's and dad's words (it's safe to assume they're the only ones wishing you well unconditionally) and try not to get burned by chicks (like so many have been before you).

No. 1 Wherever the money is, diggers will be in great numbers !

That means social outlets of all sorts, not just lounge and expensive bars. It can be a Conference, reunion, even NYSE trading floor. And of course malls and luxury department stores. After all, the gold digger's dearest "sport" is shopping sprees with the best credit card of all, OPM (Other People's Money).

2. A big spender could also mean a gold digger.

More here...

3. I am a big believer in first impressions, but do not judge a book by its covers. If you read the article cited in 2. above, pay attention to the purse/jewelry/shoes.

She is covered from head to toe with designer (name brand) clothes. Carries expensive purses. Pay close attention to the brand of the purse and how many of those she has. Most women have a crap load of purses. I understand the need to a few purses to match their different outfits. 10

More radar signs from Shave Magazine

4. Deep, early interest in your portfolio.

And insurance "just in case"...

5. Doesn't offer to pay for dates- at least "go dutch".

6. Requests for small amounts of money i.e. salon or car insurance expenses are red flags: the gold digger is testing the waters to see if you're worth her time.

7. Make sure she can stand on her own two feet before you start spending money on her.

A girl without a job that lives beyond her means has the makings of a gold digger.

8. If she came out of a relationship with a [wealthier] man, there is a chance she is a "repeat offender". However, you must remember that Gold digging women are made, not born. You could be dealing with an early blossom.


9. A Gold digger won't stand by you when you hit hard times.

So if you've been dating someone for awhile, put her to the test: [at least for a few weeks, for heaven's sake] declare that you've lost your job or source of income, maybe even ask her for food and gas money. Tell her you've been served an eviction notice. See how she takes that.

Recommended reading: http://lovemoneylust.blogspot.com/2010/04/how-to-s...

10. Ask :What is the best gift they've ever gotten? Gold diggers will virtually perpetually cite an highly charge, material object, not a solely private and thoughtful gift.

However, they could be swell versed and recite bull**** back to you.

BOTTOM Line: Spotting a gold digger is something you can really develop with age and experience. You just don't have it until you've swimmed in those shark infested waters. However, you can always check your wallet one month afterwards and see how much you've spend on her. If it looks bad, it probably is.

Gold Digger
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Comments (72)

Feb 27, 2013

I always thought gold diggers would be the bread and butter of this forum. Why not enjoy them while they're there?

Feb 27, 2013

Ok... lets say you spot her. Then what?

Feb 27, 2013
MomentaLaugh:

Ok... lets say you spot her. Then what?

Pump and dump.

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Feb 27, 2013

+1 to "Pump and dump her".

Mar 1, 2013

The topic of wedding rings somehow came up on a date. This girl literally said, "The price of the ring symbolizes how much the man values the relationship." ...does any girl actually believe this?

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Feb 27, 2013

Gold Diggers can be difficult to identify. What is more important is the motivation behind her wanting a certain lifestyle, compatibility, personality, & loyalty. For instance, if she grew up with money (daddy CEO, etc) then you can't discount her much.

Feb 27, 2013

These posts are obnoxious. All women attracted to money. Some take it to the extreme and overweight that as a factor in mate selection. It's okay to hate such women, but you have to realize that men are exactly the same with T&A. How many vapid posts exist on this forum about models and bottles? Two sides of the same coin.

Personally, I'm all for gold diggers, at least they're being honest about it and you know what the relationship is really based on -- there shouldn't be any surprises whatsoever unless you delude yourself into thinking there's more there as a basis for the relationship.

Anyway, these posts reek of insecurity and self loathing. Have a friend come over and repossess your stuff? Really?

Mar 1, 2013
Ravenous:

Anyway, these posts reek of insecurity and self loathing.

This.

Guys want a girl with a tiny waist, huge tits, upside-down heart ass, beautiful face...and we're not allowed to go for a man who shows that he can survive in this world? Personally, I'm not attracted to anyone that makes less money than I do or that is less educated. Does that make me an elitist gold-digger? Of course not. Women and men are biologically different. We expect different things from each other. This is simply dictated by mother nature. It's how we have become wired through evolution. Men are naturally drawn to hot women and women are naturally drawn to men that can provide for them. And if you can't see that, well have fun with that butterface chick who will always pay for herself on dates. In fact, why not just date a man?

Mar 1, 2013
Pulchritudinous:
Ravenous:

Anyway, these posts reek of insecurity and self loathing.

This.

Guys want a girl with a tiny waist, huge tits, upside-down heart ass, beautiful face...and we're not allowed to go for a man who shows that he can survive in this world? Personally, I'm not attracted to anyone that makes less money than I do or that is less educated. Does that make me an elitist gold-digger? Of course not. Women and men are biologically different. We expect different things from each other. This is simply dictated by mother nature. It's how we have become wired through evolution. Men are naturally drawn to hot women and women are naturally drawn to men that can provide for them. And if you can't see that, well have fun with that butterface chick who will always pay for herself on dates. In fact, why not just date a man?

gold digger

I eat success for breakfast...with skim milk

Mar 1, 2013
Pulchritudinous:
Ravenous:

Anyway, these posts reek of insecurity and self loathing.

This.

Guys want a girl with a tiny waist, huge tits, upside-down heart ass, beautiful face...and we're not allowed to go for a man who shows that he can survive in this world? Personally, I'm not attracted to anyone that makes less money than I do or that is less educated. Does that make me an elitist gold-digger? Of course not. Women and men are biologically different. We expect different things from each other. This is simply dictated by mother nature. It's how we have become wired through evolution. Men are naturally drawn to hot women and women are naturally drawn to men that can provide for them. And if you can't see that, well have fun with that butterface chick who will always pay for herself on dates. In fact, why not just date a man?

You reek of insecurity about being called a gold-digger. At least accept your own reality... all from someone called "pulchritudinous", lol.

Mar 1, 2013
Pulchritudinous:
Ravenous:

Anyway, these posts reek of insecurity and self loathing.

This.

Guys want a girl with a tiny waist, huge tits, upside-down heart ass, beautiful face...and we're not allowed to go for a man who shows that he can survive in this world? Personally, I'm not attracted to anyone that makes less money than I do or that is less educated. Does that make me an elitist gold-digger? Of course not. Women and men are biologically different. We expect different things from each other. This is simply dictated by mother nature. It's how we have become wired through evolution. Men are naturally drawn to hot women and women are naturally drawn to men that can provide for them. And if you can't see that, well have fun with that butterface chick who will always pay for herself on dates. In fact, why not just date a man?

Bill Gates not educated enough for you?

Never understood why people say education when they mean intelligence.

Mar 1, 2013
Pulchritudinous:
Ravenous:

Anyway, these posts reek of insecurity and self loathing.

This.

Guys want a girl with a tiny waist, huge tits, upside-down heart ass, beautiful face...and we're not allowed to go for a man who shows that he can survive in this world? Personally, I'm not attracted to anyone that makes less money than I do or that is less educated. Does that make me an elitist gold-digger? Of course not. Women and men are biologically different. We expect different things from each other. This is simply dictated by mother nature. It's how we have become wired through evolution. Men are naturally drawn to hot women and women are naturally drawn to men that can provide for them. And if you can't see that, well have fun with that butterface chick who will always pay for herself on dates. In fact, why not just date a man?

She a gold digger.

Feb 27, 2013

I spotted an old thread http://www.wallstreetoasis.com/forums/its-the-new-lso. (I wasn't active here four years ago). Apparently some dumb guys married those ladies portrayed in the NYT (http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/28/nyregion/28daba....).

@Ravenous: T&A is absolutely not the same as money. T&A are physical attributes. For males, that is ass, or abs (A&A), or whatever. However heart wrenching, women use physical attractiveness as a shortcut to get ahead in life, sometimes at the expense of others. An even exchange would be T&A for A&A.

Feb 27, 2013

Very interesting post -- and a very grim tale. More than a few young (edit: and old) bankers have been trapped by this.

Feb 27, 2013

According to Mark Cuban when he was on the Howard Stern show, if she says "I love to travel, I wanna do charity work" then shes a gold digger.

Feb 27, 2013

I usually like your posts but this is literally the stupidest thing I have ever read in my life. Right after that article that you posted. The average hot girl salary is 15-35K a year? Yeah, okay.

Feb 27, 2013
arguewithatree:

I usually like your posts but this is literally the stupidest thing I have ever read in my life. Right after that article that you posted. The average hot girl salary is 15-35K a year? Yeah, okay.

Dear, don't try to argue with OP. He will drag you down to his IQ level and beat you with experience. That's y he will always be the champion of BS contests.

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Feb 28, 2013
huanleshalemei:

Dear, don't try to argue with OP. He will drag you down to his IQ level and beat you with experience. That's y he will always be the champion of BS contests.

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Feb 28, 2013
huanleshalemei:
arguewithatree:

I usually like your posts but this is literally the stupidest thing I have ever read in my life. Right after that article that you posted. The average hot girl salary is 15-35K a year? Yeah, okay.

Dear, don't try to argue with OP. He will drag you down to his IQ level and beat you with experience. That's y he will always be the champion of BS contests.

at least he's a champion

I eat success for breakfast...with skim milk

Mar 1, 2013

I don't pretend to be a student of human behavior or anything, but if you read the 2009 NYT article (at the end) it does appear the gold digger hooked up with a (finance) alpha-male/more than just a coincidence. Hence it could be surmised that alpha males are the ones most likely to get gold diggers.

Mar 1, 2013

3. is a bit bullshit, she could just be posh and from a good background lol

Mar 1, 2013

You guys should read this book called What Women Want--What Men Want

http://www.amazon.com/What-Women-Want-What-Men-Wan...

This shit will open your eyes or your money back. All women are like this girl pulch to a greater or lesser degree. It's just biology. Don't hate the player (gold digger), hate the game. Mother nature? She a cruel bitch.

This is the way things are. You can either embrace reality or suffer the pain of discordance with reality. Women are far less visually oriented than men are, so all the guys on here saying "You should be attracted and then find out more about him blah blah" -- that's wrong, objectively speaking. Women are attracted based on status, power and money. Act accordingly.

In fact, that's comparable to saying, you should give a fat chick a chance, she might have a nice personality. Oh hell no.

By the way, I agree that there are some women who take their money obsession to an obnoxious level, but my point is the term gold digger doesn't mean anything. That's like saying "Guy who loves women with great tits" -- no shit sherlock.

Mar 1, 2013
Ravenous:

You guys should read this book called What Women Want--What Men Want

http://www.amazon.com/What-Women-Want-What-Men-Wan...

This shit will open your eyes or your money back. All women are like this girl pulch to a greater or lesser degree. It's just biology. Don't hate the player (gold digger), hate the game. Mother nature? She a cruel bitch.

This is the way things are. You can either embrace reality or suffer the pain of discordance with reality. Women are far less visually oriented than men are, so all the guys on here saying "You should be attracted and then find out more about him blah blah" -- that's wrong, objectively speaking. Women are attracted based on status, power and money. Act accordingly.

In fact, that's comparable to saying, you should give a fat chick a chance, she might have a nice personality. Oh hell no.

By the way, I agree that there are some women who take their money obsession to an obnoxious level, but my point is the term gold digger doesn't mean anything. That's like saying "Guy who loves women with great tits" -- no shit sherlock.

I agree to a certain extent. Usually, there's at least some level of attraction before you start measuring bank accounts. Women don't want to be with bums, but I think most are not gold diggers either. If all a woman sees in you is a closet full of shoes, a nice house, and a new Mercedes every 2 years....maybe you should look for better alternatives.

Mar 1, 2013
SirTradesaLot:

I agree to a certain extent. Usually, there's at least some level of attraction before you start measuring bank accounts. Women don't want to be with bums, but I think most are not gold diggers either. If all a woman sees in you is a closet full of shoes, a nice house, and a new Mercedes every 2 years....maybe you should look for better alternatives.

Yes, I agree there is a line after which it is simply bad taste for women to be obsessed with money -- my main point is it goes both ways. Shallowness is gender neutral and we're all shallow to some extent, hopefully a lesser extent. It must be pretty sad for a person living an existence where they can't appreciate anything beyond the superficial.

I do think a lot of men -- I'm not referring to you -- say, "I hate gold diggers" but really mean "I'm mediocre and can't date / fuck the kind of women I want to, so I'm just going to blame women since I don't want to make any efforts to improve myself."

Mar 1, 2013
Ravenous:

In fact, that's comparable to saying, you should give a fat chick a chance, she might have a nice personality. Oh hell no.

Exactly. You guys criticize me for my way of thinking, but most of you are complete hypocrites. Ok I'll date the guy that makes $10/hour and lives in his parents' basement at 30...When you date the horse-faced beached whale, but it will be ok, because she will pay for her part of the bill when you go out to dinner.

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Mar 1, 2013

I'm not a veteran on Wall Street, just a newbie fresh out of college, but apparently gold diggers come with the territory, so they should be expected wherever your social circles hang. The advice all my senior friends give me is get married young before you make it big time on the Street, cause apparently when you make it big that's all you're gonna find.

-O.K.

Mar 1, 2013
The Khan:

I'm not a veteran on Wall Street, just a newbie fresh out of college, but apparently gold diggers come with the territory, so they should be expected wherever your social circles hang. The advice all my senior friends give me is get married young before you make it big time on the Street, cause apparently when you make it big that's all you're gonna find.

But is it a good idea to marry a girl the same age as you? I would have thought it wise to go ~5 years younger (assuming marriage around 30). Seriously curious, if any married folks have opinions.

Mar 1, 2013
West Coast rainmaker:
The Khan:

I'm not a veteran on Wall Street, just a newbie fresh out of college, but apparently gold diggers come with the territory, so they should be expected wherever your social circles hang. The advice all my senior friends give me is get married young before you make it big time on the Street, cause apparently when you make it big that's all you're gonna find.

But is it a good idea to marry a girl the same age as you? I would have thought it wise to go ~5 years younger (assuming marriage around 30). Seriously curious, if any married folks have opinions.

The age gap I'd assume would be dependent on when you meet her. For example, I'm 23, I wouldn't even know where to meet someone 5/6 years younger than me. But yea ideally, you wanna get em young prior to materialistic corruption

-O.K.

Mar 1, 2013
The Khan:

I'm not a veteran on Wall Street, just a newbie fresh out of college, but apparently gold diggers come with the territory, so they should be expected wherever your social circles hang. The advice all my senior friends give me is get married young before you make it big time on the Street, cause apparently when you make it big that's all you're gonna find.

That's what I did. After reading some of these comments, I'm glad I did. But it wasn't some grand scheme though, I just met her and got married...I was not worried about gold digging, because I didn't have much money.

Mar 1, 2013

I'm a gold digger and proud. I have good taste and I know what I like.

But I make my own gold.

Mar 1, 2013

How about Love? Or there is just money?

Mar 3, 2013
doppioespresso:

I'm a gold digger and proud. I have good taste and I know what I like.

But I make my own gold.

Double shot: "you make your own gold." What is that ? The gold you've mooched of you ex ? This is an old trick for the sponge to appear savvy and polished. Good taste ? Go taste it on your own. Scrounges come in all shapes and sizes, education has nothing to do with it. You can have highly educated gold diggers, or gold diggers with only a high school diploma.

A few years ago, I used to live in South Beach, Miami. I remember one time, as I was sitted with an acquaintance at a hotel bar (not a club, but a very mild, small setting) a flashy, very good-looking woman approached me and started talking out of nowhere about her "fascinating" idea of opening some type of restaurant, I believe. Essentially, this woman was offering "to get to know me better" if I came up with $30,000 to put in her business. I couldn't believe my ears, here's a woman I have never met before in my life, less than one-hour into the conversation, asking me to give her $30k, and coincidentally she was a "lonely" girl with a lot of free time in her hands that evening. F***ing scum ! At the end of our conversation, she gave me her card- I think she worked in logistics or something.

Pay special attention to girls that call themselves "models". Even if they are models with a verifiable history, they think the world owes them.There a case in the media now out of South Africa with Blade Runner Oscar Pistorius who apparently killed his model girlfriend. This guy had his house walled with electric wire, and wild animals ( I think cheetahs or leopards ?) to keep himself safe. Now his life is ruined. Maybe people should employ bodyguards to keep "models" out instead of fighting brute force.

Smart people on Wall Street, as someone has said before, marry average looking girls, not "beauties" who'll destroy them.

Mar 2, 2013

Who exactly has said (or even would say) that we shouldn't treat a woman like a woman? I thought we were talking about gold diggers? This seems like deflection.

Also, all this stuff like holding doors open and getting flowers.....poor people can do that.

Apr 15, 2013
SirTradesaLot:

Who exactly has said (or even would say) that we shouldn't treat a woman like a woman? I thought we were talking about gold diggers? This seems like deflection.

Also, all this stuff like holding doors open and getting flowers.....poor people can do that.

I had a chick once tell me she wanted her man to treat her like a unicorn.

Mar 3, 2013

You can't blame a woman if she desires a man with the means to support her, it's an evolutionary trait. But I think the women are misunderstanding what we mean by "gold-digger". We're referring to those chicks who make it obvious they are only concerned about money and have no dreams and ambitions of their own.

-O.K.

Mar 3, 2013

Please explain "... average looking girls"

Mar 3, 2013
Alina:

Please explain "... average looking girls"

Average doesn't mean someone who doesn't have a healthy sense of sef-esteem, or who is not careful about how she looks. It's hard to define average, some people use points, on a scale from 1 to 10, an average is a 7 perhaps ? Or maybe that's better than average.

Listen, I can't start here asking for measurements. But if you height is 5'7", you shouldn't weight more than 120. What do you think ?

Mar 3, 2013

Hahaha yea then its probably healthy look

Mar 4, 2013

Sorry you didn't understand jfkcdg77. Your strawman argument isn't relevant. I hope you develop some critical thinking skills of your own at some point.

Mar 5, 2013

WHAT ABOUT THE THREE MONTH RULE DO YOU THINK IT IS VALID I WILL BUMP THIS THREAD TILL I GET A RESPONSE PREPARE YOUR SELF.

Mar 5, 2013
blastoise:

WHAT ABOUT THE THREE MONTH RULE DO YOU THINK IT IS VALID I WILL BUMP THIS THREAD TILL I GET A RESPONSE PREPARE YOUR SELF.

What's that ? The "3-months of goodness rule" ? You can live with someone for three years and still don't really know who they are. Generally speaking, you should lay out the cards on the table from the start.

As far as marriage goes, the March issue of More Magazine says there are 9 kinds of marriages:

1. Role Reversers.
2. Living together, no License
3. Gay Marriage
4. Ricochet Marriage
5. Open Marriage
6. Serial Marriage
7. Companion Marriage
8. Married, Living Apart
9. Modern Traditionalists

Mar 8, 2013

I think the women are misunderstanding what we mean by "gold-digger".

Apr 17, 2013

how to tell if she's a gold digger: she is female

Apr 18, 2013
ennuishop:

how to tell if she's a gold digger: she is female

If I had a banana, I'd send it your way

(pause)

Apr 18, 2013

Luckily, as someone who works in corporate finance, I don't have to worry about this.

Apr 18, 2013

Guys should watch out. The better looking they are and the more randomly they approach you especially when you know you are not good looking, the higher the chance of them being a gold digger. Women are dangerous and guys are just vulnerable and think physically until all their money is wiped out. Hard to find a good girl that isn't violated or corrupted by other guys or money. You find one you are one lucky s*b.

Just marry a good girl who doesn't come from a divorced family or someone has emotional problems.
Doesn't have to look like a supermodel and many of them have fake augmented parts anyway so natural but smaller is not bad either. Shallow women are terrible also because they will divorce you the minute you argue with them over some petty little thing. Choose wisely.

Apr 18, 2013
Penn12:

The better looking they are and the more randomly they approach you especially when you know you are not good looking, the higher the chance of them being a gold digger.

I don't know...

I have a fat friend who makes terrific money and has a significantly more attractive fiancee. Relationships work well when both sides get something and think they're getting the better deal. Is she in it for the cash? She's a cool girl, but that's not even in question. At the same time, is he in it for the looks? Yup.

Jun 13, 2013

i tell my girlfriend i make much less than i actually do s - Confession Bear

Jun 13, 2013
CRE:

I have a fat friend

Just thought this was worth quoting.

Jun 13, 2013

How can women stand to move all of their shit from purse to purse every time they go out?

Feb 18, 2014

FYI:

Feb 19, 2014

Thank you, @"Ray Mckigney". Any story of maneaters out there ? I know a lot of "bank account eaters".

Feb 19, 2014
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